Makeup/Circle Lenses/Jewelry on a guy

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AnthrSolidSnake

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(Apparently when the site didn't read my Captcha correctly and made me do it again, it made me post this topic twice. I sincerely apologize. I didn't mean for that to happen at all. I hope the other one gets deleted.)

To set the stage, I'm your typical straight, white male, though I'm open to having a relationship with anyone I find attractive regardless of gender or sexuality.

I've also been using makeup for about 5 years. Nothing fancy like eyeliner, blush, mascara, etc. but I do use liquid foundation to help smooth out my complexion. I hate acne, and I know makeup certainly wouldn't help matters much, but I've tried just about every acne medication (even prescription) under the sun and I still end up with the same results.

However it really doesn't stop there. I also care very deeply about my hair. It might not seem too odd at first glance. I just take care of myself. However most people who ask give me this odd expression and say how bizarre it is that I straighten my hair, make sure to use specific shampoos and conditioner, and dry/brush it in a specific way. (most of the time. If I'm requested to be somewhere quickly I do tend to skip out on 99% of that.)

I also like wearing tons of accessories. So much so that there are people who would find it annoying. Pins, buttons, bracelets, necklaces, wallet chains, belts, you name it I got it.


I've also taken an interest in circle lenses. You know, those weird contacts that typically have a dark ring on the outside, and are typically larger than your standard contact. (I wear contacts normally, so it's not like I'm doing this without prior need to and knowledge of how to care for them)

My point is, many people would consider me far more feminine than what's considered normal, and as a result many people have voiced their opinion that way.

I'm not sure what to make of it. I've just always considered this normal. Even my own girlfriend at times finds it quite weird. Is it that weird? I just can't understand why other than some pointless gender segregation bull.
 

Gaius Livius

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Well it's abnormal in the sense it's not a common thing. But really it doesn't particularly matter, heck there are people who think guys using a hairdryer is weird never mind straighteners. There is always going to be someone who doesn't like you or objects to certain things about you. However, I think it's more important to ask yourself why you do all these things. If it's because you just personally like it then more power to you. If it's got an end goal of trying to please other people and not draw unwanted attention then that ain't happening.

Another crucial thing to consider is whether or not it negatively impacts other aspects of your life. Because if it takes precedence to such an extent that other things are damaged then that is where it starts to become objectionable. Take watching videos online for example. That in and of itself is not a bad thing. Spending 10 hours a day doing it whilst ignoring everything else IS a bad thing. Now it doesn't necessarily have to be that extent to be causing issues but you get the idea. I will say that if people you know express any concern over it then I can't stress enough how important it is to really consider that they said it for a reason and that they may have a point.
 

Aramis Night

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I'm a Goth guy myself and have been for most of my life now. I don't go outside without makeup on myself, and I do use eyeliner and mascara. Sometimes I even go as far as lipstick and eye shadow, but that's not as common as I get older. I also have long black hair that goes down my back. Most people treat me pretty poorly over my appearance, but I'm used to that. On the other hand I admit that when I see a lot of other people do it and the contacts, experience has taught me that they are usually non-interesting people trying way too hard. It largely depends on if they can pull it off with any sense of class though. That and if they have anything more to their personality than just trying to be a stereotype.

On the other hand being outwardly eccentric has its advantages. It helped me get jobs as we'll as my GF.
 

Lilani

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AnthrSolidSnake said:
I'm not sure what to make of it. I've just always considered this normal. Even my own girlfriend at times finds it quite weird. Is it that weird? I just can't understand why other than some pointless gender segregation bull.
I don't think it's weird. I see plenty of guys at my work who wear way more accessories than I do on a daily basis, and clearly do more with their hair. And I work for a sporting goods company :p I would say it's uncommon, but there's nothing wrong with that. And it's great that you accept this and don't feel a need to conform or hide it. And anybody who makes you feel like you should hide it is a jerk.