May Have Messed Up Things (GF Problems). . . .

[Kirby1989]

I won't go into details but I still love my GF of 2 years. . . But I said something I shouldnt have. She says its O.K. but she is hurt and I am afraid of this happaning again. Still love her and want to spend my life with her. I want to apologise and move on but I feel ashamed.

Have you been in this situation before? I don't know what to do.

(Sorry for the stupid whiny post. Not usually like me lol)

 

[Mozared]

I have absolutely no clue what you're on about, but...

Be honest. Tell her your feelings, or if you can't, tell her you want to do your best at explaining them.

 

[Mark Hardigan]

I would be telling her your feelings, not an internet forum. Just saying...

 

[Joe Matsuda]

well....since I have no idea what the hell is going on...

good luck...?

...I think...

 

[Fusoiya]

It's to late to apologize, to laate ^^ I kid, it's actually pretty hard to tell you what you can do if you won't tell the interwebs what happened :<

 

[Nwabudike Morgan]

I've been there more times than I can count. It's normal to feel ashamed, you love the girl. All you should do is let her know how horrible you feel about it, how ashamed you are, let her know that you love her and let her come to forgive you on her own terms. Don't beg for forgiveness, don't constantly apologize, don't do some grand romantic gesture in order to make up for it, just let her know that you know you were wrong to say what you did, that you never should have said it and that you are ashamed that you would do anything that would hurt her. Then just leave it without acting like it never happened and give her any space she may need.

 

[Griphphin]

You know your relationship better than anyone on here, so it's up to you to make these decisions. With your description of the situation as vague as you made it, all we can tell you is to do the right thing.

 

[Lust]

Go, proclaim your love for her. Apologize until your heart's content. If she's the one you love, then, fight for her affection.

 

[Kirby1989]

Sorry everyone about how vague it all is.
I more or less told her that I fell out of love with her (stupid I know because it isn't true)
I think she has trust problems now. I don't know why I said it and I feel so ashamed.

 

[Griphphin]

Sorry everyone about how vague it all is.
I more or less told her that I fell out of love with her (stupid I know because it isn't true)
I think she has trust problems now. I don't know why I said it and I feel so ashamed.

In that case, I would talk to her about it and give it time. Trust takes a long time to rebuild, just do your best to be there for her.

 

[DracoSuave]

Sorry everyone about how vague it all is.
I more or less told her that I fell out of love with her (stupid I know because it isn't true)
I think she has trust problems now. I don't know why I said it and I feel so ashamed.

Yeah. Bad.

If you haven't destroyed what you want to keep, then you have to work at rebuilding the trust. Not only that, she probably will feel unappreciated, because you basically told her 'I do not appreciate you' in different words. All you can do is let her sort her shit out, because frankly, you can't keep saying 'I didn't mean it!' until she 'relents' nor can you really let it slide either.

The important thing here is not to be a douchebag again. If you want to keep her, fucking act like it.

 

[The Stonker]

You fucked up mate because you just broke a girls heart for a stupid reason if you would have wanted to end the relationship then you should have in the beginning.

P.s.Your a complete ape for doing that then wanting to take her back that makes her even feel that you take her for granted.

 

[Cody211282]

I would be telling her your feelings, not an internet forum. Just saying...

Yea there isn't to much we can do about it.

Also if you want advice you might want to give us more details into what happened, like what you said.

 

[BonsaiK]

I won't go into details but I still love my GF of 2 years. . . But I said something I shouldnt have. She says its O.K. but she is hurt and I am afraid of this happaning again. Still love her and want to spend my life with her. I want to apologise and move on but I feel ashamed.

Have you been in this situation before? I don't know what to do.

(Sorry for the stupid whiny post. Not usually like me lol)

Sorry everyone about how vague it all is.
I more or less told her that I fell out of love with her (stupid I know because it isn't true)
I think she has trust problems now. I don't know why I said it and I feel so ashamed.

I've answered this in the Relationship problem thread, at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=40#7124740

 

[The Geek Lord]

Sorry everyone about how vague it all is.
I more or less told her that I fell out of love with her (stupid I know because it isn't true)
I think she has trust problems now. I don't know why I said it and I feel so ashamed.

... I'd ask how the fuck you managed that, but I don't like to pry.

Having never been in a relationship, I can't say much to help you here. All I know about women is that you don't touch their chocolate, and you take extreme care as to what you say when they're on their period, and all this is experience from having an older sister. So yeah, can't say much for this topic, 'cept that you fucked up, and you can't load your last save, since life has no memory card. Do your best to fix things, I guess. (Golly gee jeepers, aren't I helpful.[/sarcasm])

 

[Tallim]

Sorry everyone about how vague it all is.
I more or less told her that I fell out of love with her (stupid I know because it isn't true)
I think she has trust problems now. I don't know why I said it and I feel so ashamed.

That's even worse than telling her that her mother is hot.
She'll carry that with her for a long time. Apologise, and do it properly not just a simple sorry. Do something romantic, something meaningful not just throwing money on dinner or flowers, make her something yourself, card or present.

 

[khantron]

You should always make sure to pick the top speech options in the dialogue circle, usually top right. Hopefully one time isn't enough to ruin the relationship otherwise you'll have to do get the achievement on a different playthrough.

 

[Paksenarrion]

You should always make sure to pick the top speech options in the dialogue circle, usually top right. Hopefully one time isn't enough to ruin the relationship otherwise you'll have to do get the achievement on a different playthrough.

I usually look up a walkthrough online, just in case. But if there is no walkthrough, a good rule of thumb is to always remember her birthday, her favorite band/color/sport, and give her her favorite thing when you go on a date. If you have enough credits, choose the beach vacation option, and take pictures first before attempting to kiss her, otherwise, her affection meter won't be close to full, especially if you answered one of her questions wrong.

 

[Lalalarzi]

What'd you do?