Maybe its me?

[Guest_Star]

Hmm...
a) Stop being a pussy.
b) Start dating better girls.

 

[clipse15]

At this point I'm beginning to believe that I am doing something wrong. Every girl i have a relationship with treats me without respect. My latest girlfriend skipped our one year anniversary to meet up with one of my best friends and hook up, I had spent a week and a half preparing that evening. Is there something I do wrong as a boyfriend? I'm the kind of person that does everything they can to make their girlfriend as happy as possible, but they always seem to run off to some asshole who uses them for sex.

I've said this before and i will say it again. Girls don't like to be treated like a pet so you doing "everything" for a girl is effectively a turn off. My guess of the situation is that you were probably smothering the girl and she wanted out which is perfectly understandable. Also I always raise a flag whenever a self proclaimed "nice guy" claims that another guy is an asshole. Why is that because he doesn't cover a bed in roses for a girl? Sorry if i am being harsh it really just seems that you think the key to a girl liking you is doing nice things for her and you are wrong.

 

[Chainsauce]

I may be saying an unpopular opinion here, but if all your relationships end up like that... you're the common denominator in these failed relationships. I find that a lot of guys that are self-proclaimed "nice guys" that "do everything" for their girlfriend are amazingly pushy in a relationship: coming on way too strong, way too fast, and being far too clingy. I've never cheated in a relationship, but something like that has pushed me away from a guy before.

I obviously don't know you, and what I'm saying may not be right in your situation... but I'm just pointing out some observations from personal experience.

You actually might be onto something. I've been that kind of guy myself. You really have to pace yourself being "too nice".

 

[PAGEToap44]

Sounds to me like you're a really nice guy. The thing is, if she think you're too nice she'll just walk all over you. You can still be nice but you have to set some ground rules and assert your own masculinity. Obviously if this is a common occurrence then it's something you're doing.

OR try to find a girl who is just as sweet as you are. My girlfriend is the nicest person I have ever met and I would never have a single doubt towards he loyalty towards our relationship. To make a long story short:
nice+nice=good
nice+bad=bad.

I wonder what bad + bad is like...

But yeh, really lucky if you find a nice girl.

 

[Woodsey]

Cue a load of men saying girls hate nice guys. There's being nice and being a man about it, and then there's being a lick arse and being pathetic about it.

What happened to you sounds harsh, but it's impossible to judge since you're account of events will be biased.

And yes, of course it's you. If this happens in every relationship then that's the perfect explanation.