I hated the original endings, but this new batch I'm fine with. I like the Refuse option as well, and while it wasn't amazing, I'm certainly at peace with it now. If this had been the original ending to the series, I wonder how people would've reacted...
Also, while I DO wish Shep had lived, I don't mind her death. I think I'm just sick of that being how most games end these days, or at least in how I play my characters (Dragon Age: Origins and Fallout 3 come to mind quickly as RPGs where I've had to suicide to stay in character. Why do I always play nice people?). Still, thematically, it certainly felt right for her to die to save the world (and I picked Order, so now I can be the eternal guardian of the galaxy. Yaaay!)
Also, while I DO wish Shep had lived, I don't mind her death. I think I'm just sick of that being how most games end these days, or at least in how I play my characters (Dragon Age: Origins and Fallout 3 come to mind quickly as RPGs where I've had to suicide to stay in character. Why do I always play nice people?). Still, thematically, it certainly felt right for her to die to save the world (and I picked Order, so now I can be the eternal guardian of the galaxy. Yaaay!)