Most shameful reasons for dumping someone

[BloatedGuppy]

I'm sure everyone here has shallowly, shamefully dispatched of a romantic prospect for...less than commendable reasons. Maybe they worse an unsightly outfit one time. Or maybe you didn't care for the pitch of their laugh. Or maybe they liked a stupid band. I know I have a few. And I feel TERRIBLE about them. It makes my stomach hurt, just thinking about them.

My three...

SHE HAD MAN HANDS - This one was right out of Seinfeld. She was a sweet girl, too, and she seemed to really like me. And she made long trips to see me. And I even slept with her, TWICE, on two separate occasions, and then acted like a ruthless cad. Later on I continued to email her and accidentally contributed to the break-up of a later relationship. I feel just sick about it, really, and it was like...10 years ago. But she had big, beefy paws. It was too much. And they were dry and coarse, too! Oh, I feel just awful about this. I'm so sorry.

SHE WAS A TERRIBLE KISSER - She just kind of sat there, and didn't move her lips at all. Or her tongue. It was like kissing a corpse. An especially inert corpse. Hypothetically you could divine that she wasn't that into it, but she seemed really torn up when it ended. The kicker was she was really smart, and successful. When she tried to get to the bottom of why we were breaking up, I said "It's not you, it's me. I'm not ready for a relationship right now." I ACTUALLY SAID THAT SHIT. I'm so, so sorry.

SHE WAS TOO COLD - Not emotionally, mind you. Cold to the touch. Chilling, almost. Like she'd just come in from an ice storm. And so, so pale. But I know what you're thinking...no, she wasn't a vampire. No, she had type 1 diabetes, and apparently this lead to circulatory problems. And she was really sweet, and kind. But so cold! I just couldn't take it. I stopped responding to her emails. I'm a loathsome brute. A wretched, wretched stain of a human being. Truly.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

While I've never broken up with anyone over something really trivial that's not to say all my reasons or methods have been justified.

Close to this time last year there was a girl. She was great. Fun, intelligent, good looking, you get the picture. But at the time I was still in a pretty dark place about the end of my last serious relationship. I knew deep down that I wasn't in a fit state to be with someone else and I new that in the state I was in I could never develop any kind of true feelings for her because I was still too wrapped up in myself, but I just couldn't help it. The thought that someone as good as her liked me at a time when I had a really low opinion of myself kinda stroked my ego. I may have... erm... given her the wrong impression about my feelings for her in order to keep the fling going for as long as I could. This fell apart when me messing with her feelings led to her falling in love with me and I knew I wasn't ready to take that. I couldn't give her what she wanted even though I'd basically made her think I could by the way I acted. I blew her off and didn't even bother to give her a halfway honest explanation. I mean how the hell are you supposed to say "Hey girl who I am incredibly lucky to be with. It was fun while it lasted but tbh I was only with you because you made me feel slightly less bad about myself"?

She pretty much hates me now and I don't blame her. I messed with her feeling at a time when I couldn't even make sense of my own. I made her need me and then I completely let her down. It was that day that I realised I had become the kind of guy I promised myself I would never be, which was probably the lowest point of my entire life. It's taken me the best part of a year to sort myself out but for some people I was too late to repair the damage.

 

[Brandon237]

I have only had 1 girlfriend, who I am still with. She is really wonderful I could never break up with someone for those reasons, I might be far less inclined to start something with them for that first one, the second two I could handle fine, and there are ways around everything that can make it more fun both ways ;D

 

[Cheesus333]

While I've never broken up with anyone over something really trivial that's not to say all my reasons or methods have been justified.

Close to this time last year there was a girl. She was great. Fun, intelligent, good looking, you get the picture. But at the time I was still in a pretty dark place about the end of my last serious relationship. I knew deep down that I wasn't in a fit state to be with someone else and I new that in the state I was in I could never develop any kind of true feelings for her because I was still too wrapped up in myself, but I just couldn't help it. The thought that someone as good as her liked me at a time when I had a really low opinion of myself kinda stroked my ego. I may have... erm... given her the wrong impression about my feelings for her in order to keep the fling going for as long as I could.

Are... are you me or is this just a fairly common situation?

Cause I've got to say, the similarities are uncanny. You put it much better than I was going to, though.

 

[ankensam]

i could see myself breaking up with a girl for the man hands reason but i think i could overlook the other two reasons

 

[Midnight Crossroads]

I found out she was hanging out with someone named Carter. Everyone told me how she spent so much time with Carter. I got jealous as hell, thought she was cheating on me for another guy, allowed it to poison the relationship, and finally stormed out after making an ass of myself. I later found out Carter was a girl, her best friend, and absolutely no threat to our relationship.

Sucked bad, man. Every time I start to feel any jealousy, my brain is sure to bring that memory up and I feel like an ass.

Seriously, parents, stop giving your girls boy names. It's fucking confusing.

 

[SckizoBoy]

Huh... most shameful for me wasn't all that shameful compared to a lot of others (actually, reading this back, it was quite shitty what I did to her), but I broke up with my girlfriend a couple years ago because I was hung about my ex-girlfriend. I was just with her for the sex and neediness bullshit. A few months in, I realised how much of a jerk I was being to her and broke it off. The thing was, I'm still friends with her. She knew I was not yet over my second girlfriend and she knew I didn't really like her. I'm more ashamed of how she took it than how I broke it off.

 

[Jonluw]

I'm sure everyone here has shallowly, shamefully dispatched of a romantic prospect for...less than commendable reasons.

"I'm sure everyone here has dispatched of a romantic prospect."
"I'm sure everyone here has [had] a romantic prospect."
Haha.

So... I guess the worst way I have thrown away a romantic prospect would be me realizing that while I feel interested in a girl, I wouldn't know where to go with it after telling her, spiralling down in thoughts that I would be a shitty boyfriend, that I wouldn't actually love her the way she presumably would love me, wouldn't be bothered to make time for her, and that it would eventually end anyways and I don't really like people's company so is there really any point? Thoughts that I really am most comfortable on my own. Not cut out to socialize like normal people.
Thus leading me to strangle the sparks of romantic attraction before they could grow significant enough to make me actually pursue a relationship.

Boy, this was uplifting.

 

[Broady Brio]

I rejected a girl trying to hit on me one time camping.

Because she was fat. Also she tried to molest me in my sleep that night. The second reason more than the first.

 

[Princess Rose]

I'm sure everyone here has shallowly, shamefully dispatched of a romantic prospect for...less than commendable reasons. Maybe they worse an unsightly outfit one time. Or maybe you didn't care for the pitch of their laugh. Or maybe they liked a stupid band. I know I have a few. And I feel TERRIBLE about them. It makes my stomach hurt, just thinking about them.

**reads yours** Um... yeah, those are pretty bad. Don't have anything quite like that.

1) Family. I was dating this person, really liked them, but their family scared the living crap out of me. Broke it off because I didn't want to deal with them anymore.

2) ... cause I started sleeping with someone else, so I figured it was time to break up with the person I was currently dating, but no longer wished to be dating.

 

[Rawne1980]

I got rid of a lass due to her being terrible in the bedroom department.

I've been with women who are inexperienced, that doesn't bother me but this lass was truly terrible.

When i've got to do a running commentary on whats going on and what she should be doing it gets a bit much. And when I have to keep reminding her that blow job is just a name NOT the friggin action is when I have to call it a day.

My penis is not a balloon, no matter how much I wish it, blowing down it will not inflate it.

 

[klipton]

A guy that i know dump his girlfriend because her dad was sick and had no time to see this guy.

 

[Blow_Pop]

I got rid of a lass due to her being terrible in the bedroom department.

I've been with women who are inexperienced, that doesn't bother me but this lass was truly terrible.

When i've got to do a running commentary on whats going on and what she should be doing it gets a bit much. And when I have to keep reminding her that blow job is just a name NOT the friggin action is when I have to call it a day.

My penis is not a balloon, no matter how much I wish it, blowing down it will not inflate it.

you sir, just made my day and made me roll on my bed laughing....and any girl who thinks that blowing down a penis will work needs a smack upside the head and lessons......thankfully i've just always been amazing...nevermind anyways

OT: I dumped one of my exs over the phone and felt bad about that til the realization of he got his ex fiancee pregnant while we were dating and that he yelled at me for not picking up my phone while in class on my birthday and not just once but left a good 20 or so voicemails on my phone yelling at me over it...yeah i didnae feel bad after that.


most of the guys i've broken up with have been because they cheated on me. i had one mutual breakup cause his ma was going insane(literally) and my family was being...well my family and overbearing and ridiculous and work was too much for us. And then one of my exs the one that hurt the most broke up with me over differences in our future. Oh and my most recent breakup, it felt too awkward dating one of my good friends. He's kinda like a brother to me and it just didnae feel right and he moved too fast for me and i wasnae over my best friend.

 

[NinjaDeathSlap]

I got rid of a lass due to her being terrible in the bedroom department.

I've been with women who are inexperienced, that doesn't bother me but this lass was truly terrible.

When i've got to do a running commentary on whats going on and what she should be doing it gets a bit much. And when I have to keep reminding her that blow job is just a name NOT the friggin action is when I have to call it a day.

My penis is not a balloon, no matter how much I wish it, blowing down it will not inflate it.

*struggles not to find this funny... utterly fails xD

In all fairness I don't think that's too bad. An inexperienced girl being bad in bed the first few times around is fine. Best way to learn is by doing after all. But if she was persistently terrible no matter how much I tried to help her? Yeah, I'd probably break up with her too.

 

[RootBrewski]

So a while ago I kind of pulled a Scott Pilgrim, and when I was almost 20 I started dating a girl who had just turned 17 a few weeks ago (Before I continue I would like to point out that, the age of consent is 16 in Canada, and I didn't sleep with her so nothing illegal happened).

Anyway she was pretty, smart and nice, but one of those girls that seems to get ignored by a lot of guys in high school. Anyway after literally two dates, I met her with some of her friend's where she introduced me to them as her boyfriend. An alarm went off in my head, so I pulled her aside and tried to explain the situation to her, that going on a few dates does not constitute a relationship.

A few days later she wanted me to come over to meet her parent's, I told her I couldn't and that she wants something that I'm not prepared to give, I think we should stop dating, etc.

I did pretty much go out with her because she was there and it was simple, I didn't want anything serious. I do still feel kind of bad about it though.

 

[dark-mortality]

I'm sure everyone here has shallowly, shamefully dispatched of a romantic prospect for...less than commendable reasons.

"I'm sure everyone here has dispatched of a romantic prospect."
"I'm sure everyone here has [had] a romantic prospect."
I don't know about the rest of the community, but I'd be surprised if I was the only one who hasn't...

So... I guess the worst way I have thrown away a romantic prospect would be me realizing that while I feel interested in a girl, I wouldn't know where to go with it after telling her, spiralling down in thoughts that I would be a shitty boyfriend, that I wouldn't actually love her the way she presumably would love me, wouldn't be bothered to make time for her, and that it would eventually end anyways and I don't really like people's company so is there really any point? Thoughts that I really am most comfortable on my own. Not cut out to socialize like normal people.
Thus leading me to strangle the sparks of romantic attraction before they could grow significant enough to make me actually pursue a relationship.

Boy, this was uplifting.

...I have found my soul-mate! Okey, my reasons are actually the same as yours... Who would have thought. Sad parts about being human, the 'What if's'. What if I'm not good enough? What if I can't love him/her? What if I hurt him/her? What if he/she finds someone better? Those question are some of my main reasons for never have gotten a romantic relationship. (That, and I think I am ugly -_-)

 

[whtkid6969]

I didn't want to buy her a pack of gum... yea. that happened. Women can be frikin insane.