Moving out

[Bigsmith]

I've recently got a job earning near £800 a month and am about to go to college, of course going to college will mean I'm working less so my pay will go down. Anyway, my Girl Friend has been living in my house for almost three (edit:) months and up until now everything has been going fine, but now my siblings have been taking advantage of her and so we have do decided to move into a house (bedsit) with a few friends, the cost is only £67 a week so it will not be too hard on the pay I'm on.

Also, before some one says why doesn't she just go home? well I'd rather have her living on the streets then have her go home and we have also tried to talk to my siblings and my mum but nothing is being done.

The point of this thread you ask, How do I tell my mum I'm moving out and have you been in a situation where you've been forced to move out?

 

[The Procrastinated End]

Still living at home and tell her that you want to get away from your sibling.

 

[Edorf]

Hah! I actually just told my mother I was considering moving out earlier today.

Anyhow, just explain your situation to your mother (like you've done to us) if she understands, she will approve of you moving out, and if she doesnt understand you should move out anyway cause she's obviously being stupid.

 

[fenderstrat]

I've recently got a job earning near £800 a month and am about to go to college, of course going to college will mean I'm working less so my pay will go down. Anyway, my Girl Friend has been living in my house for almost three weeks and up until now everything has been going fine, but now my siblings have been taking advantage of her and so we have do decided to move into a house (bedsit) with a few friends, the cost is only £67 a week so it will not be too hard on the pay I'm on.

Also, before some one says why doesn't she just go home? well I'd rather have her living on the streets then have her go home and we have also tried to talk to my siblings and my mum but nothing is being done.

The point of this thread you ask, How do I tell my mum I'm moving out and have you been in a situation where you've been forced to move out?

taking advantage of her how?

 

[Bigsmith]

I've recently got a job earning near £800 a month and am about to go to college, of course going to college will mean I'm working less so my pay will go down. Anyway, my Girl Friend has been living in my house for almost three weeks and up until now everything has been going fine, but now my siblings have been taking advantage of her and so we have do decided to move into a house (bedsit) with a few friends, the cost is only £67 a week so it will not be too hard on the pay I'm on.

Also, before some one says why doesn't she just go home? well I'd rather have her living on the streets then have her go home and we have also tried to talk to my siblings and my mum but nothing is being done.

The point of this thread you ask, How do I tell my mum I'm moving out and have you been in a situation where you've been forced to move out?

taking advantage of her how?

In order for her to stay my mum has just simply asked my Girlfriend to do the morning dishes, my siblings have been, recently, leaving the dishes from the day before out over night and make loads of mess in the morning cause the know she has to clean it up. She friend to have a go at them for making so much mess but they just went crying to my mum.

Also she has brought a few of her games around one of these being Animal crossing for the wii (and her wii). Now my sisters version of that broke a little while back and she's been borrowing it from her, my girl friend was fine with that as long my sister asked... but now my sister sneeks into our room whilst were asleep and just takes it... also the games getting more and more scratched every time she lent it to her.

My oldest sister asks to borrow things off of her and again gave them back when she first started staying here but now she never returns them... heck some times she takes them out with her and gives them back after we ask her for them back after she has been out.

my brother moans that my girl friend is being bossy... when she babysits, despite my mum saying that when my girl friend babysits she's allowed to if it keeps my siblings under control.

The only one of my siblings that doesn't take advantage of her is my 6 year old sister and that's probably because she doesn't need anything from my girlfriend.

sorry if grammar is bad, was rushing this out so I could have a round on Tf2 b4 I go back to work.

 

[polarizebeta]

I was forced to move out of my parent's house when I got engaged. MOve out and be honest with your mother about why. It is best for everyone this way. After you graduate, you will prolly be able to find a place of your own. Also, would she be willing to find a job to help pay bills and the such? Or just to start saving?

 

[teisjm]

Well, depending on your age, it might not come as a big supprise that you're moving out. Thats like, pretty normal for people to do you know.

 

[Bigsmith]

I was forced to move out of my parent's house when I got engaged. MOve out and be honest with your mother about why. It is best for everyone this way. After you graduate, you will prolly be able to find a place of your own. Also, would she be willing to find a job to help pay bills and the such? Or just to start saving?

Since its a bedsit bills are included so we don't really need to worry about that, but she will be calming £30 a week ema/ job seekers allowance whilst in college and also housing benefit until she gets a job. I am helping her to find a job but the area we live in has no jobs and neither does the area we're moving to.

 

[Emperor Platypus]

I've recently got a job earning near £800 a month and am about to go to college, of course going to college will mean I'm working less so my pay will go down. Anyway, my Girl Friend has been living in my house for almost three weeks and up until now everything has been going fine, but now my siblings have been taking advantage of her and so we have do decided to move into a house (bedsit) with a few friends, the cost is only £67 a week so it will not be too hard on the pay I'm on.

Also, before some one says why doesn't she just go home? well I'd rather have her living on the streets then have her go home and we have also tried to talk to my siblings and my mum but nothing is being done.

The point of this thread you ask, How do I tell my mum I'm moving out and have you been in a situation where you've been forced to move out?

taking advantage of her how?

In order for her to stay my mum has just simply asked my Girlfriend to do the morning dishes, my siblings have been, recently, leaving the dishes from the day before out over night and make loads of mess in the morning cause the know she has to clean it up. She friend to have a go at them for making so much mess but they just went crying to my mum.

Also she has brought a few of her games around one of these being Animal crossing for the wii (and her wii). Now my sisters version of that broke a little while back and she's been borrowing it from her, my girl friend was fine with that as long my sister asked... but now my sister sneeks into our room whilst were asleep and just takes it... also the games getting more and more scratched every time she lent it to her.

My oldest sister asks to borrow things off of her and again gave them back when she first started staying here but now she never returns them... heck some times she takes them out with her and gives them back after we ask her for them back after she has been out.

my brother moans that my girl friend is being bossy... when she babysits, despite my mum saying that when my girl friend babysits she's allowed to if it keeps my siblings under control.

The only one of my siblings that doesn't take advantage of her is my 6 year old sister and that's probably because she doesn't need anything from my girlfriend.

sorry if grammar is bad, was rushing this out so I could have a round on Tf2 b4 I go back to work.

Sounds to be that your gf doesn't have spine and deserves to be taken advantage of............. ok now I feel like an arsehole xcuse me while I cry in a corner over what I have become.

As for advice you're going to college so you're what? 17, 18? I think if you explain the situation to your mom she should be ok with it.

She already allowed your gf to crash at your place. I'd say your mother is a pretty laidback person who'll prob understand. She might even try and help you.

What did your gf think of moving out? Is she ok with it? You sure you wanna stay with those friends? Those are the questions you need to be asking yourself imo.

in any case goodluck.

 

[Bigsmith]

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in any case goodluck.

My girl friend isn't the most confident of people, I understand what your saying so I don't take offence. now stop crying and act like a man god damn you!

Its was a joint idea about moving out. A friend of ours is already at the place we're moving to and the land lord there told him to fill the house with friends so we're pretty much sorted.

Oh I'm 17 and she's 18.

Oh and cheers!

 

[Dragonites]

Sounds to be that your gf doesn't have spine and deserves to be taken advantage of............. ok now I feel like an arsehole xcuse me while I cry in a corner over what I have become.

As for advice you're going to college so you're what? 17, 18? I think if you explain the situation to your mom she should be ok with it.

She already allowed your gf to crash at your place. I'd say your mother is a pretty laidback person who'll prob understand. She might even try and help you.

What did your gf think of moving out? Is she ok with it? You sure you wanna stay with those friends? Those are the questions you need to be asking yourself imo.

in any case goodluck.

/girlfriend here

I completely agree. BE A MAN, STRAIGHTEN UP. :|

I am confident, It's just that his mum keeps siding with the kids no matter what- it's understandable, but I get made out to be the baddie. I can't do much because I'd just get chucked out of the house anyway. TBH I can start to defend myself once we know this is definite.
I've had a go at one of the kids anyway now.

I've actually been there nearly 3 months (not weeks) and his mum is absolutely lovely- I've already told my mum (honestly, she's used to me not coming home for ages because we can't live together) and I honestly don't think he should be worrying. It's understandable though.

I've wanted to move out since I was 13/14, but I've never had the money/ability to do so properly. Now we've got somewhere to go it's a bloody good relief on me. And the friend we're staying with is a great guy.~

Thanks for the luck, by the way! ♥

 

[Emperor Platypus]

My girl friend isn't the most confident of people, I understand what your saying so I don't take offence. now stop crying and act like a man god damn you!

Its was a joint idea about moving out. A friend of ours is already at the place we're moving to and the land lord there told him to fill the house with friends so we're pretty much sorted.

Oh I'm 17 and she's 18.

Oh and cheers!

k,k I'll stop crying.

aaaaa she's older, but ofcourse who could resist a woman with more 'experience' if you know what I mean? "yes! another unrelated remark". I'm back baby!

As I said before both of you are old enough. You've already expressed your displeasure over the current situation. Just tell her.

Maybe tell her that it's a 'temporary' experiment' to see how the 2 of you guys cope. That way if things go...... awry for whatever reason. You always have a home to return too. Dunno if the new place is closer to work/college. If so use that an argument.

Tell her and see how she reacts. I doubt she'll stop you guys, maybe check if you thought it all through but prob not outright forbid you to go.

 

[Emperor Platypus]

now stop crying and act like a man god damn you!

I completely agree. BE A MAN, STRAIGHTEN UP. :|

ouch had my manhood questioned twice within 15 min. afterall the nice advice I gave two!

I need comfort food man, I need comfort food asap.

 

[Dragonites]

I suggest Chocolate ice cream and waffles.

But no, really, thanks for the advice!~

 

[Robyrt]

Just explain the situation calmly - much like this thread - and mention your plans and your anticipated budget. Moving in with someone else is a lot less risky than just the two of you, and should help the transition from what sounds like a very full household. It would be even better if the young lady had some job opportunities lined up.

 

[SimuLord]

Movin' out?

 

[Emperor Platypus]

I suggest Chocolate ice cream and waffles.

But no, really, thanks for the advice!~

chocolate, ice cream and waffles it is!

Just a final piece of advice. Whatever you do make damn sure to enjoy every single second of it. I'm moving out coming...... sat and I sure as hell intent to enjoy it......

I doubt you needed the last tip. But better safe then sorry right?

 

[Dragonites]

@Robyrt
Wish I did, but it's hard to get weekend jobs around this place and there's little chance of me being able to hold a full time job that goes with my college hours. :< Always looking out though and hopefully once this course is done I'll be able to get a job on the interactive side of a games company- sadly though, that's in two years time.

@Platy
Now I'm hungry. :<

Oho, best tip ever. I intend to kit that place up in video games and anime and dance around. Oh how long I've waited for a place I can call my own (well, close enough!)

 

[Emperor Platypus]

@Robyrt
Wish I did, but it's hard to get weekend jobs around this place and there's little chance of me being able to hold a full time job that goes with my college hours. :< Always looking out though and hopefully once this course is done I'll be able to get a job on the interactive side of a games company- sadly though, that's in two years time.

@Platy
Now I'm hungry. :<

Oho, best tip ever. I intend to kit that place up in video games and anime and dance around. Oh how long I've waited for a place I can call my own (well, close enough!)

HOLY MOLEY.

I've only just noticed that you only joined today. Jolly good, welcome and all that silly nonsense.
Just an FYI, when responding to someone use the 'quote' function that way we get a message and can reply with some witty reply of our own.

Be carefull though sometimes you run across people with too much time on their hands so be prepared for an endless stream of replies........ rather like now really.

'part from that enjoy your stay here.

EDIT:
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