shintakie10 said:
Because you can't punish people beyond the punishment they received from the law. How feckin hard is that to understand?
If you treat people like shit over and over and over and tell them through words and actions that they are complete and utter shit and that they deserve to be treated like shit they'll eventually believe it. We, as a society, treat sex offenders like less than animals no matter what their crime is. They could be a child rapist or they could be someone who had consensual sex with their underage girlfriend. It doesn't matter because the court of public opinion sees the words sex offender and immediately believe that every single one of them is the child diddler.
If you're convicted of a sex crime, no matter how little it hurts anyone, you are practically ostracized from society. You have trouble getting good jobs because you have to tell all your future employers that you are a sex offender and it also comes up in background checks. In some areas you have to literally go door to door when you move there that you have been convicted of a sex crime and if anyone objects you are not allowed to live there. People have their kids taken away from them because they pissed in an alley and some kid happened to catch a glimpse of a penis and their parents felt their child was scarred for life.
Even aside from the innocent people who get grouped with child rapists because of people like you who can't understand that the sex offense crimes are so fucked we have got to stop pushin the less savory ones into corners. We systematically destroy their chances at havin any chance for rehabilitation because we don't even attempt to reintegrate them into society. Worse than that we force them out of society. We take away their chance at a good job. We take away their chances at education. We take away their chances to live in a place that remotely resembles a good environment. Now we're startin to take away some of the few outlets they actually have. It's no wonder that people become repeat offenders when we take away absolutely everythin and push them so far into the corner that they feel they don't have any options left except to embrace whatever horrible thing they did before.
It has gotten to the point that people purposely get themselves thrown back into prison because they're treated far more like human beings when they're behind bars than we as a society treated them when they were freed and yet we look down on those people instead of takin a step back and realizin that while we may not have started it, we most certainly never tried to stop it either.
As far as outlets go, note my last paragraph - I agree we should give them outlets, but they don't necessarily need to come with being able to be used as tools for a repeat offense.
As for "you can't punish people beyond the punishment", I'm pretty sure pedophiles are warded away from kid parks, playrooms and similar - how is this any different?
And sorry, that's bullshit. "Having sex with an underage girlfriend"? Most countries have a law that permits sex with underage people if you're within some 5 years away from them. You wanna tell me it's normal for a 17 year old to have sex with a 23 year old? As a 23 year old, I can tell you you have no business doing that, a relationship requires some common interests and if at 23 you have the same mindset you did at 17, you've got some bigger problems than being legally forbidden to have sex with 17 year olds ("best" case scenario). The only reason you'd have sex with one is if sex is the only thing you're looking for, in which case, you should have no issue getting someone a year older to fuck with. And you're truly in love with someone during that age difference, you're either going to be 100% confident that that person won't get you in trouble over it or you're going to be content to wait a bit, possibly both.
I'm aware of the draconian measures American and some other countries have towards sex offenders, but that's another problem. If they're lumping it all together (which honestly I'm not aware of, but I'll take your word for it), yeah that's stupid for some small percentage of cases. But even that isn't a free pass to think with your dick and not consider the alternatives and the consequences of your actions. I'd be willing to bet the percentage of people we would agree are unjustly lumped in with the rest of the child diddlers is a hell of a lot smaller than you make it out to be.
As for not letting them integrate into society, how would you integrate them into society? How much of a second chance do you think these people should be given? What are you prepared to risk to give them that second chance? I like how you're all high and mighty talking over the draconian measures and how they get "less guilty" people into the same net and how you'd like to solve things to make it easier on them. But did you stop to consider that might, no, WILL have for effect more innocent (not less guilty, innocent) kids attacked?
I'm not giving you "won't someone think of the children" here mind you - don't misunderstand me. But while your solution is aimed at helping the less guilty, the fact of the matter is, it will also help the guilty ones. It'll also result in more hurt kids. This is not a sermon, it's a statistical fact. So why do you think it's ok to protect these people - who knew fully well what they were getting into - at the cost of someone innocent? Forget that these are kids, I don't give a flying fuck about that, we're simply talking about an innocent person here, why are they less of a priority than someone who is completely accountable and fully responsible for their actions?
Don't get me wrong, I understand where you're coming from. Repression is not a perfect solution. But neither is letting up. The fact is though, if you make CRYSTAL CLEAR the consequences for such actions, you discourage people from becoming those very sex offenders, which not only helps the would-be innocent victims, but also the would-be offenders. If you ask me, prevention is the best and only real solution here and while I'm not exactly cool with all the draconian measures some countries take against sex offenders, I can understand the value of having a punishment that makes someone think twice before doing something that's in 99% cases VERY wrong.