Hello all.
I am fairly new here, but I have seen from the forums that there is an element of a support group here and I thought I would share my life's latest and most brutal drama to try to get some perspective on how I should be feeling. To give the abbreviated version, I got married in 2003 to a truly evil woman after only dating for three weeks. Nine months and two days after we were married my daughter was born. Four months after her birth we split up (I will go into the specifics of this later) and due to some horrifically unscrupulous tactics used by my ex-wife she got full custody with me only getting three hours of supervised visitation a month.
EDIT : I should state that although we had only dated for three weeks, I had known her for four years.
I can assure you that this level of estrangement from one's first child (and until four weeks ago my only child) is cruel beyond description. Over the next period of four years I fought fruitlessly to get more time with my daughter, specifically time without her mother (the incarnation of all that is evil) present and breathing down my throat. I had no loyalty from my father and stepmother as my ex used my daughter as a blackmailing chip. Essentially, if they stood up for me then she would take their granddaughter away, so they caved to her every wish. After a year and a half I moved two hours away to start a new life and my "parents" let her move in with them despite all she had done to me. Eventually, I guess, she seduced my brother (who was only 17 when she and I first got married) and just got married to him this past October 18th.
I have been seething with the rage of betrayal at first from her and later from my family for years now, but now it appears that I am going to have to see this malevolent termagant at family events for THE REST OF MY LIFE (assuming their marriage lasts). I will either be driven from my own family, or have to see her at Thanksgivings and Christmases, etc. thanks to my "brother." Is it just me, or is not blood supposed to be thicker than water?
Any input would be helpful, I just don't even know how to process this.
I am fairly new here, but I have seen from the forums that there is an element of a support group here and I thought I would share my life's latest and most brutal drama to try to get some perspective on how I should be feeling. To give the abbreviated version, I got married in 2003 to a truly evil woman after only dating for three weeks. Nine months and two days after we were married my daughter was born. Four months after her birth we split up (I will go into the specifics of this later) and due to some horrifically unscrupulous tactics used by my ex-wife she got full custody with me only getting three hours of supervised visitation a month.
EDIT : I should state that although we had only dated for three weeks, I had known her for four years.
I can assure you that this level of estrangement from one's first child (and until four weeks ago my only child) is cruel beyond description. Over the next period of four years I fought fruitlessly to get more time with my daughter, specifically time without her mother (the incarnation of all that is evil) present and breathing down my throat. I had no loyalty from my father and stepmother as my ex used my daughter as a blackmailing chip. Essentially, if they stood up for me then she would take their granddaughter away, so they caved to her every wish. After a year and a half I moved two hours away to start a new life and my "parents" let her move in with them despite all she had done to me. Eventually, I guess, she seduced my brother (who was only 17 when she and I first got married) and just got married to him this past October 18th.
I have been seething with the rage of betrayal at first from her and later from my family for years now, but now it appears that I am going to have to see this malevolent termagant at family events for THE REST OF MY LIFE (assuming their marriage lasts). I will either be driven from my own family, or have to see her at Thanksgivings and Christmases, etc. thanks to my "brother." Is it just me, or is not blood supposed to be thicker than water?
Any input would be helpful, I just don't even know how to process this.
