Dude, just respect her choices. If you aren't smoking pot its not a problem, go meet her pothead friends (potheads are friendly peopleTHAC0 said:
) seriously man pothead girls are the chillest girls on the planet you got really lucky! 
my gf is a pothead
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) seriously man pothead girls are the chillest girls on the planet you got really lucky! sorry if I didn't read the entire thread (just don't have the time), but here's my two cents:
I've been working on rehab clinics for a couple years now (I'm a psychologist to be) and I know many people who are a lot into drug (both patients there and friends in general).
Don't know how it works for you, but I can't stand my pothead friends when they're under the effect. You said she gets high pretty much all the time, except when she's with you. Well, I guess that if she keeps it that way, you'd be fine, except that saying that is pretty much saying "it's me or the drug", which can't be good for the relationship.
I don't want to demonize the use of drugs, I won't show up and say "hey, if people do drugs they start stealing shit and selling their bodies" because that's not true. However, it's undeniable that pot makes you dumber over time, makes you just want to talk about it, just want to hang out with friends that do it (claiming that pot is a "culture" is just an excuse to just talk about it).
I'd guess that for a constant user of a drug to be in a relationship with somebody that doesn't use it, the sober one should be 100% laid back and not care at all about the use, which doesn't seem to be the case (were it the case, you wouldn't be asking for opinions, I guess). I honestly can't see this relationship going much further but hey, you guys should go ahead and try to prove me wrong. At least have some fun while attempting.
Ultimately, I think you should just lay back for a moment and see where this goes. If you can still stand her behavior, but you're annoyed by what might happen if she keeps doing it or something, try to work it out for now. Have the relationship end when it has to, and not because you think that someday it will have to.
I've been working on rehab clinics for a couple years now (I'm a psychologist to be) and I know many people who are a lot into drug (both patients there and friends in general).
Don't know how it works for you, but I can't stand my pothead friends when they're under the effect. You said she gets high pretty much all the time, except when she's with you. Well, I guess that if she keeps it that way, you'd be fine, except that saying that is pretty much saying "it's me or the drug", which can't be good for the relationship.
I don't want to demonize the use of drugs, I won't show up and say "hey, if people do drugs they start stealing shit and selling their bodies" because that's not true. However, it's undeniable that pot makes you dumber over time, makes you just want to talk about it, just want to hang out with friends that do it (claiming that pot is a "culture" is just an excuse to just talk about it).
I'd guess that for a constant user of a drug to be in a relationship with somebody that doesn't use it, the sober one should be 100% laid back and not care at all about the use, which doesn't seem to be the case (were it the case, you wouldn't be asking for opinions, I guess). I honestly can't see this relationship going much further but hey, you guys should go ahead and try to prove me wrong. At least have some fun while attempting.
Ultimately, I think you should just lay back for a moment and see where this goes. If you can still stand her behavior, but you're annoyed by what might happen if she keeps doing it or something, try to work it out for now. Have the relationship end when it has to, and not because you think that someday it will have to.
shouldn't be an issue. then again it obviously is for you if you're bringing it up. you have to make a choice my friend, and shouldn't let others persuade you. I doubt all the advice from this message forum will give you clarity. bottom line is simple: if you see a future with this girl, stick it out. if not, well c'est la vie and move on. another thing to point out is you're allowed to have friends that don't smoke too. her friends don't have to become yours.
There are no recorded cases of a person developing lung cancer by only smoking pot. Only after smoking cigarettes or a combination of the two. Multiple studies have confirmed that cannabis can prevent many types of cancer. There are a lot of negative stigmas attached to marijuana and to people who use it regularly but most of them are bullshit.hypovolemia said:
Anyway, to answer your question, it's her hobby. I want you to imagine something for me. Imagine her complaining to her friends that you play video games a lot, and that she used to play video games but "grew out of it." She feels like this puts you two into two different spheres and she's considering breaking up with you because of it. If she posted that on here a lot of people would say "Wow, what a ***** she can't even tolerate the fact that he has different interests from her?" That's what you're doing. You're looking down on somebody because she has a different hobby than you.
First, talk to her about not wanting to hang with her friends. If she isn't completely unreasonable, she'll be okay with it. It already sounds like you don't hang with them anyway, so not much would change.THAC0 said:
Second, ask yourself "How does this interfere with my relationship and my enjoyment of it?" If the answer is "In lots of ways", than talk to her about it and how you can fix those things.
Her habit is going to fuck you over somewhere down the line, and hints at some serious emotional deficits.
Try to get her clean, but try not to invest yourself too much.
Try to get her clean, but try not to invest yourself too much.
I smoke pot, time to time some days it's from start to finish some days it's on my lunch break and heck sometimes I put it on a damn pizza!
Nothing wrong with spacing out a few times a day, I mean it's never killed anybody just be glad she's not an alcoholic that's a lot worse for anybody.
There's nothing wrong with pot just depends on your view, I personally don't believe anything I hear about it, I mean I'm not a schizophrenic nutcase who's getting close to higher class drugs, I mean since I've smoked it I've been offered class A drugs like cocaine and all that, I've still said no, but man; if you don't like her because she smokes by all means get rid of her.
Each to their own.
Nothing wrong with spacing out a few times a day, I mean it's never killed anybody just be glad she's not an alcoholic that's a lot worse for anybody.
There's nothing wrong with pot just depends on your view, I personally don't believe anything I hear about it, I mean I'm not a schizophrenic nutcase who's getting close to higher class drugs, I mean since I've smoked it I've been offered class A drugs like cocaine and all that, I've still said no, but man; if you don't like her because she smokes by all means get rid of her.
Each to their own.
What he said. This topic seems completely pointless.theultimateend said:
Who's up for some hearty derailing?
Dump her u dont want those types of girls...they will cheat on u for once and expect to live off u for another.
It's been my experience that people like that refuse to change because they don't see anything wrong with it. It's hard to enjoy anything with them, especially when it comes to watching movies and stuff, because they refuse to do it sober - it's "so much better" or whatever. It's lame. If you think you can put up with it, then all the more power to you, but I say it's not worth it.
this.SeriousSquirrel said:
especially reason one, if she has the mentality/lifestyle of "pot", then she's either gotta budge for you or this is where you part, in which if you really care about her just talk to her to see if she'll cut down on it some more, at the very least.
personally i know tons of people who are potheads, they are all great friends but if i were in a relationship i would definitely go for the dump, its a major lifestyle collision beyond friends, in which long term either you gotta go or its gotta go, and secondly, do you want to end up smelling like that shit all day long? (based on the amount of time you seem to spend around her or her friends with her)
@OP: If you're >30 years old, then yeah I can see some issues. If you're <25 dump her and move on. For those 5 years inbetween, make up your mind based on how you two are.
I have a question for some of the people that posted "Pot/alocohol ruined my family members life".
Wtf are you talking about? Did anyone hold a gun to their head and make them drink/smoke? Did the alcohol or weed pour or puff itself into their bodies? Or was it themselves that couldn't control it? (I have alcoholic relatives, but I have never heard them blame the substance for their problem).
I have a question for some of the people that posted "Pot/alocohol ruined my family members life".
Wtf are you talking about? Did anyone hold a gun to their head and make them drink/smoke? Did the alcohol or weed pour or puff itself into their bodies? Or was it themselves that couldn't control it? (I have alcoholic relatives, but I have never heard them blame the substance for their problem).
Dump her. Think of it in terms of future, people dont tend to grow out of this type of behavior, is this really some one you want to consider building a future with?
