my gf is a pothead
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Why are you asking for advice without giving us half a chance of giving a useful response? This isn't a fucking diary you know. Unless you tell us WHY you can't be associated with anything like that, there's really nothing I can say. All I can tell you is don't ask her to stop smoking weed because you don't like it. That would make you a dickhead.THAC0 said:
Actually,where I live,it's not a debate.It's illegal.period.If it's morally right or wrong is not the question here.bahumat42 said:
I refer you to cannibalism.In some places of the world,it's not illegal(though you have to search in dead forests in the Amazon probably),and while it's frowned upon pretty much everywhere else,there can be a debate between right and wrong.
I can say without taking much of a risk that where you live,cannibalism is illegal,and written as such,and I turn your argument against you.Just because it's written in the law doesn't mean it's right or wrong.
Granted it's an extreme scenario,but the point still stands.
Last point,it's not hatred like you seem to think,it's a legal and moral objection.She had different opinions on things I thought were important to think alike,so I did not follow up on the relationship.
I'd drop her. I had a talk recently with my gf who was over at a friend's house and her friend was smoking. I told her that it was her choice to be there when her friend is doing it, but I don't want to know if she's there. I also told her that if she smoked once to try it, I didn't care, but if it became a habit, I'd drop her like a hot rock.
It's not that I have anything against it, I have a few friends that smoke. However, I've made it known that as long as I'm around, I'd appreciate it if they didn't smoke around me. They respect my wishes, even the ones that smoke a few times a day.
My gf was talking about how it's her friend's life and she can make the choices she wants, but I pointed out that her actions could potentially endanger my gf's future, which isn't my gf's choice, but she said, "Yes, but I accept the risk." I told her that I didn't care if she hung out with her friend, but I did care if there was smoking going on.
We've just agreed to disagree. Like I said, I have nothing against it personally, but I just don't see the appeal, it is illegal where I live, and in my opinion, there's better things to spend loads of cash on that last me longer than the average high probably would for the same amount. I don't think I get any less enjoyment out of doing things that I really like, like gaming, martial arts, and various other things, that I would if I spent the same amount of time getting high, and I'm probably more productive because of it.
Also, I'm not risking my future college plans to get stoned. Being high is temporary. A criminal record is not.
It's not that I have anything against it, I have a few friends that smoke. However, I've made it known that as long as I'm around, I'd appreciate it if they didn't smoke around me. They respect my wishes, even the ones that smoke a few times a day.
My gf was talking about how it's her friend's life and she can make the choices she wants, but I pointed out that her actions could potentially endanger my gf's future, which isn't my gf's choice, but she said, "Yes, but I accept the risk." I told her that I didn't care if she hung out with her friend, but I did care if there was smoking going on.
We've just agreed to disagree. Like I said, I have nothing against it personally, but I just don't see the appeal, it is illegal where I live, and in my opinion, there's better things to spend loads of cash on that last me longer than the average high probably would for the same amount. I don't think I get any less enjoyment out of doing things that I really like, like gaming, martial arts, and various other things, that I would if I spent the same amount of time getting high, and I'm probably more productive because of it.
Also, I'm not risking my future college plans to get stoned. Being high is temporary. A criminal record is not.
to all the children who said things like pot ruined so and so's life, alcohol ruined so and so's life.
GROW UP
it didn't. they ruined it themselve by aving no will power. people need to take responsibility for their actions, stop enabling these people to be pathetic....
GROW UP
it didn't. they ruined it themselve by aving no will power. people need to take responsibility for their actions, stop enabling these people to be pathetic....
more on schizophrenia.
if you have a family history of of it, don't use pot. simple as that, studies shown you have to be genetically prone to get it. if any member of your family has it from the last couple generations including cousins. your genetically prone, don't do pot if your worried.
if you have a family history of of it, don't use pot. simple as that, studies shown you have to be genetically prone to get it. if any member of your family has it from the last couple generations including cousins. your genetically prone, don't do pot if your worried.
Abandon4093 said:
True enough, but that's just semantics when the result is the same.Sikachu said:
It's the same argument as "Guns don't kill people, people kill people."
Some people smoke pot casually. That's not likely to cause any problems.
Some people can't live without it. This is.
She sounds like the latter.
He is better off without her.
Some people are funnier when they are high?The_root_of_all_evil said:
My $.02 as a guy that is about to marry the "pothead" he met 3 years ago.
For the record, I've never smoked, don't plan to, never really been my thing. I did however hang out with potheads during high-school and college pretty regularly. Good folks generally.
Anyway, she was stoned on our first date. She would smoke if not every day, then she would make up for it the next day. She enjoyed being stoned. As we started getting closer, I started mentioning her slowing down with the stuff, as it made me uncomfortable her carrying while we were in my car. Eventually (took maybe a year or 2) she got down to smoking only on special occasions with some of our friends that still smoke, but that's once or twice a month.
Maybe she grew out of it, but I think that my asking her nicely to take it easy probably helped move her in the direction of not smoking pot as often. If you care about her, then tell her how you feel about it. And if you're nervous about it, tell her. It won't get better, trust me, I thought it would and I just got more paranoid with her carrying. If it's serious she'll make an attempt to change her habits. (AFAIK Smoking pot is just a habit. Like biting your nails, almost) If she's got good reason, she'll try to change. If she doesn't, well, you know what to do.
Gotta say though, I'm glad I stuck through it, my pothead gf turned out amazing.
Good luck!
For the record, I've never smoked, don't plan to, never really been my thing. I did however hang out with potheads during high-school and college pretty regularly. Good folks generally.
Anyway, she was stoned on our first date. She would smoke if not every day, then she would make up for it the next day. She enjoyed being stoned. As we started getting closer, I started mentioning her slowing down with the stuff, as it made me uncomfortable her carrying while we were in my car. Eventually (took maybe a year or 2) she got down to smoking only on special occasions with some of our friends that still smoke, but that's once or twice a month.
Maybe she grew out of it, but I think that my asking her nicely to take it easy probably helped move her in the direction of not smoking pot as often. If you care about her, then tell her how you feel about it. And if you're nervous about it, tell her. It won't get better, trust me, I thought it would and I just got more paranoid with her carrying. If it's serious she'll make an attempt to change her habits. (AFAIK Smoking pot is just a habit. Like biting your nails, almost) If she's got good reason, she'll try to change. If she doesn't, well, you know what to do.
Gotta say though, I'm glad I stuck through it, my pothead gf turned out amazing.
Good luck!
Why? I am 100% honest. I never troll on the escapist (avatar is not important, I just find trollface to be hilarious). There are other sites for that. I am just trying to find out why is everyone so prejudiced about marijuana users.CarlMinez said:
I'm not sure marijuana is much worse than alcohol or smoking. Or well, it probably is but you get the picture. The problem here is that drugs often lead to other drugs and while I don't judge people who do take drugs, you should never encourage other people to do drugs as well.Russian_Assassin said:
Buddy, she most like you A LOT. Because in my experience, stoned people get bummed out around non-stoned people, and feel like they dont understand them. So if she's hanging out with you on a daily basis high, you're just that smooth.
Not that I find anything wrong with people that smoke weed, but I just couldn't be in a relationship with someone that still smokes it. If they tried it, fine by me, I'm not going to cry about it, but...I just couldn't be in a relationship with someone that smoked weed regularly. I'd feel uncomfortable in the knowledge that they're probably much more laid back than myself and either think of me as square or just very boring.
But that's just me.
But that's just me.
most people who smoke pot never go on to do harder drugs, most first drug was alcohol. im sorry, but your wrong. one can argue that because pot is illegal its black market, black market also sells other things. make it legal than no longer in the criminal world, than your point is more mute than before. you feel it might expose people to harder drugs, make it legal so people will never have to deal with those kind of people.CarlMinez said:
p.s. one can argue further, yes there are people who go on to do harder drugs cause they can get pot and the other drugs from the same source. by making pot legal, the source will be the corner store, not that guy who peddles pot cocaine and x. prices will go down, making it more economical. tax money and less jail expenses will bring in profit for the government, police will become more effective with real crime. cause less resources will be use for busting a bunch of wastoids doing no harm to any one but them selfs. and if history counts for any thing, the consumption will go down in the long run. it will allow for healthy education. most people try drinking in there lives, most don't become alcoholics to the point of self destruction. some smokers will take it to far. most wont and even less when its legal.
look at prohibition of alcohol, ya that worked out great. many experts think consumption went up in those years, and was more dangerous cause of the LEGAl issues. take the crime out of the drug and you take the drug out of the crime.
