My gf's dad hates me.

[MasterOfWorlds]

I'm sure that this isn't exactly rare. Her mom likes me and we get along great, but her dad really has it out for me. I mean he's threatened to call the cops, and hunt me down and all sorts of stuff like that. Luckily he hasn't gotten violent because I'd really hate to have to beat down my gf's dad. XD

Anyway, her parents are separate, and it's not like I have to see them all the time, but it's just annoying that it seems like I have to jump through hoops just to date her because she's amazing and I really like her. The only problem we have is her dad.

Any ideas/suggestions for dealing with a hostile parent? I've heard of parents hating gfs too, so I guess this could apply there as well. Normally I get along well with my friends/gfs parents, he's the only one that seems to have a problem with me.

 

[Dango]

Well is there a reason he hates you?

 

[smithy_2045]

Why does he hate you?

 

[Pegghead]

Maybe ask your girlfriend to talk to him about it, or if it starts getting to the point where he is threatening violence call the police.

 

[Enkidu88]

Money works well...unless he's already rich.

Does she like her father? Is his not liking you a deal breaker? If not, I'd say don't worry about it.

Otherwise your screwed

 

[TeeBs]

thats a really good sign

 

[SnootyEnglishman]

He got a reason other than being a complete asshole?

 

[emeraldrafael]

Its kinda like an unwritten law they hate/be cautious of you.

Just show that you arent just in it for sex. and that you genuinely care.

 

[Phoenix Arrow]

So? When I was at school, my female friends dads didn't like me, let alone girlfriends. I told them I was gay. Worked perfectly. I went from not being allowed in the house to "oh you're in my daughters bedroom? Ok, fair enough probably talking about clothes."

 

[Mr.Pandah]

Essentially what everyone else has said. You didn't give us the slightest reason as to why he would act this way towards you. Other than him just being a complete dick, I feel there is more to this than you're telling us.

He ever walk in on you two?

 

[Sacman]

Avoid him at all costs...<.< he will hate you for no reason no matter what you do... you could save his life from zombie ninjas, while saving America from an army of communist batmen, still save him 15% on car insurance and he will find a reason to hate you...

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Well is there a reason he hates you?

Why does he hate you?

Even an overprotective dad needs a reason to hate you...so what is it? If you aren't honest, no one can help you manage the relationship.

The main thing I can think of is that I'm a little older than her. Only a year and some change. I haven't slept with her yet, so he's never walked in on us. She doesn't really get along too well with him. I've spoken to him and he treats me like I'm some creep that preys on little girls. I kindly remind him that the age difference between him and her mom is seven years, but I think that only makes it worse. XD

I mean, I understand where he's coming from. If I had a daughter, I'd be super protective too. One time thought we were just chatting on MSN and her dad told her to tell me that he'd crawl through the wires to get me. XD

All in all, I'm not too worried. It's not a deal breaker or anything, it would just be easier if he did like me.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Essentially what everyone else has said. You didn't give us the slightest reason as to why he would act this way towards you. Other than him just being a complete dick, I feel there is more to this than you're telling us.

He ever walk in on you two?

Well, I am her first real boyfriend. I say that because I'm the only boyfriend she's had that lasted more than a few weeks. She's also sort of introverted and has self confidence issues, so he might be thinking that I'm using that to take advantage of her, which I'm not.

He's just worried that I'll hurt her, which, as I said just a few moments ago, I can understand. He even talked to my parents and brought the age difference up along with some other conversations he had with her about me. What it boils down to I think is that she says that she loves me and he doesn't want her to do something that she might regret because she thinks she's in love with me.

This is part of the reason I haven't slept with her yet, along with some other things like the age gap and the fact that her dad is itching for a reason to see me in jail. XD

 

[Skorpyo]

The sun rises, the birds chirp, water flows downhill, and your GF's dad will hate you.

It's the way of things.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Avoid him at all costs...<.< he will hate you for no reason no matter what you do... you could save his life from zombie ninjas, while saving America from an army of communist batmen, still save him 15% on car insurance and he will find a reason to hate you...

Sadly, that's probably true. I've helped her out with a lot of stuff that she went through. I'm always there to be the shoulder to cry on or just be the impartial ear. I really care about her. I hope to have a long relationship with her and maybe marry her someday.

I understand his concern, which is why I can't really say that I hate him, but it bothers me that he has such an intense hatred of me. I mean, he treats me like I'm some creep off the street. At least her mom treats me like a human. Her mom and I get along great, actually.

 

[Eumersian]

Does your girlfriend have anything to say about it? Not to her dad, but as in explain to you why he might hate you. I'm assuming that she knows her dad hates you though.

 

[Stormz]

Have you tried to just talk to him about it? Who knows maybe you could convince him you aren't a creep or something?

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

Does your girlfriend have anything to say about it? Not to her dad, but as in explain to you why he might hate you. I'm assuming that she knows her dad hates you though.

She's spoken to him about it and tried to convince him that I'm a decent guy. She's talked to me about it too, but the thing is that she doesn't get along all that well with him. As best she can tell, he just thinks I'm a creep because I'm a little older and he's being overprotective.

Have you tried to just talk to him about it? Who knows maybe you could convince him you aren't a creep or something?

I have tried. Have you ever tried to convince someone who talks AT you instead of TO you? It's a hard thing to do. He just plain refuses to see me for the good things I've done and the fact that his daughter claims to be in love with me. >.>

Although to be fair, I think he'd probably be as hostile towards just about any guy that dated her.