I notice that whenever you mention having not slept with her, you say "yet".MasterOfWorlds said:
Gee, how could a father hate you?
My gf's dad hates me.
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Gee, how could a father hate you?
Dont worry too much about it, if your a good guy to her, he will see it, i was in the same boat with my girlfriend.MasterOfWorlds said:
It's not like sex is the reason I'm with her, or I would have bailed long ago. Believe me, I'v had plenty of chances and reason to leave her because of things that have happened in the almost seven months we've been together, and if I didn't care about her as much as I do, I would have. I say "yet" because I realize that sex is part of most healthy relationships between people that are attracted to each other. I also say yet because, in case you missed my previous posts, I'm her first bf, which means I'd be first in a lot of things for her and I'd rather not do anything she's not ready for. We're taking things slow for several reasons. Her dad is part of it, but her general inexperience is also part of it.xxKyuSamaxx said:
Hes doing his job as a father, and your not good enough for his daughter.
its nothing personal to you, because in all likelihood it wouldn't matter who you were.
That or could be like my situation(in the role of the dad) that dad doesn't like you because he senses something in you that the females involved in the equation are oblivious to.
So good luck to you Sisyphus, youve got a majorly uphill battle ahead of you. Not to say it cant be won, but your willingness to fight it to stay with her and earn some degree of his respect is sort of the test for you to prove you ARE good enough for his little princess.
Just dont show up in this t-shirt
its nothing personal to you, because in all likelihood it wouldn't matter who you were.
That or could be like my situation(in the role of the dad) that dad doesn't like you because he senses something in you that the females involved in the equation are oblivious to.
So good luck to you Sisyphus, youve got a majorly uphill battle ahead of you. Not to say it cant be won, but your willingness to fight it to stay with her and earn some degree of his respect is sort of the test for you to prove you ARE good enough for his little princess.
Just dont show up in this t-shirt
Well.. No experience with the parents of my girlfriend hating me (then again, she is my first real one, so...), but I do know how to get people on your side.
Step One: Be nice. Brush off threats and insults, call them Sir, Madam, Mr or Mrs, and be appropriate around them. No lewd comments, no poor taste jokes. Make those once they're out of earshot all you want, though.
Step Two: Talk like an old book. Seriously, you'll be amazed how much talking like an old book helps your reputation with a person. Just use longer words, obscure words, and talk respectively.
That's all, really. Not sure if this will work with someone who already hates you, but it helps with me. Good luck, by the way, and don't shag her too early. Don't want Chris Hanson hiding in your kitchen, now do we?
Step One: Be nice. Brush off threats and insults, call them Sir, Madam, Mr or Mrs, and be appropriate around them. No lewd comments, no poor taste jokes. Make those once they're out of earshot all you want, though.
Step Two: Talk like an old book. Seriously, you'll be amazed how much talking like an old book helps your reputation with a person. Just use longer words, obscure words, and talk respectively.
That's all, really. Not sure if this will work with someone who already hates you, but it helps with me. Good luck, by the way, and don't shag her too early. Don't want Chris Hanson hiding in your kitchen, now do we?
I wish I could offer advice on this but honestly I've never been in this situation. I've had my dad hate my girlfriends, but never the other way around.
I get along great with my GF's dad and really the only thing I can say is try to spend time with him and connect with him.
If you really do like this girl, there will always be hoops to jump through.
I get along great with my GF's dad and really the only thing I can say is try to spend time with him and connect with him.
If you really do like this girl, there will always be hoops to jump through.
Sorry, I had to snip that in the interest of saving space, but I loled. I am a smartass and I'm also super sarcastic, but I try to be respectful towards people's parents. I grew up with some manners after all.viranimus said:
I'm not saying that I really blame him. I've told her that I understand where he's coming from because I'd be the same way if I had a daughter. As for the sensing things bit, it could be true I suppose. I'm basically a good guy. I mean, I'm not saint, but I'm no devil either. I've done a lot of volunteer work, I get pretty good grades at the college I go to, and I have a lot of hobbies that have been praised. I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs, and I've never been in trouble with the law.
Although there is one thing that I think he hates me for above all else though.
Early on in our relationship, there was another girl that my gf and I were both friends with online. I liked her alright and we talked about some stuff and I ended up getting a webcam, which I had been considering getting for some time so that I could keep in touch with my friends to who had moved away for college.
Anyway, I was on vacation with my parents and hadn't heard from my gf for a few days so I called her. She was really upset with me talking about how she "Knows what happened."
I was confused, so I kept asking what was wrong and why she was crying. Apparently, the other girl we both knew, told her that I had manipulated her into...certain things on the webcam.
Now, I'm not going to bash anyone who does that stuff, but that's just not my thing. I also don't cheat on my gfs. I've been cheated on and I've been the unfortunate victim of an attack because the girl I was with's bf happened to see us together (no, it wasn't anything too serious, but we were in her place).
I didn't do what the other girl said I did, but that really upset my gf because she didn't know what to believe. I was finally able to convince her that I didn't do it, which is hard when you can't really prove that you DIDN'T do something. I showed her my files and no such video was there, and believe me, if it was, she'd have been able to find it. I'm not great with computers, but she's pretty good.
Unfortunately, this is how her parents found out we were dating. It's not that we were sneaking around too much, she just didn't mention she had a bf and then all the sudden one day she's crying because of a lie that someone told her about her bf that her parents didn't know about. XD
OK, you're going to have to explain this one. If someone is violent towards me, I have a right to defend myself. It's not like I threaten him or anything. I was just saying that if he does do something, I'm not going to hesitate to put him on his ass. There's nothing wrong with that.careful said:
Well, first time I really met my girlfriend's dad was when he walked in on us making out...so yeah, how 'bout them good first impressions?
I'm going to offer the same advice as everyone else, be polite and be patient. Judging from your story just before he has a fairly bad first impression of you, so fixing that could take quite some time.
I'm going to offer the same advice as everyone else, be polite and be patient. Judging from your story just before he has a fairly bad first impression of you, so fixing that could take quite some time.
be yourself and you will keep her, your not going out with her father, if he dont like u for being yourself then thats his call but i think maybe hed respect you more if u dont suck ass.
( unless hes just a sadistic douchbag)
( unless hes just a sadistic douchbag)
i think theres a Law of Nature Somewhere that says dads have to Hate Whoever there daughter is Dating, its Mostly do to the fact They have there Own Image of Who they should be dating, Some mothers have this problem as well, and its not Confined to Either Parent, or Either Gender of child, hopefully they will see you make her happy and he will lay off
Funnily enough I've never actually met the dads of the women I've dated. Their parents were either separated or just never around. But unless your girlfriend thinks its a problem that her dad doesn't like you (and if they don't get along, she probably doesn't), then I wouldn't worry too much. Just don't do something stupid like make out with her in front of him and you'll be right.
Wait...you mean there are girls whose dads LIKE their boyfriends/husbands?
(actually, that happened to me once---12, 13 years ago now. Her dad practically adopted me as a son. And me, biggest idiot in the friggin' universe, broke up with his daughter because I got too spooked by falling too hard in love with her and with the whole situation. The only thing I can say in my defense is that I'd had my heart broken badly in my last relationship, but still, to this day I think of that girl as the one that got away.)
(actually, that happened to me once---12, 13 years ago now. Her dad practically adopted me as a son. And me, biggest idiot in the friggin' universe, broke up with his daughter because I got too spooked by falling too hard in love with her and with the whole situation. The only thing I can say in my defense is that I'd had my heart broken badly in my last relationship, but still, to this day I think of that girl as the one that got away.)