My Girlfriend Cheated on Me

[templargunman]

Tell her how you feel, but don't get angry at her. She told you about it right away and feels bad about it. Ask her to tell the guy her situation, and if he's not a douche he'll stop trying to get with her. If she was perfect definitely don't let this ruin the relationship.

 

[Stasisesque]

I found out this morning, from my girlfriend, that last night she let another guy kiss her.

Yeah I know...Only a kiss but she wanted it from another guy and I can't trust her anymore...She was so damn perfect too. We've only been together for 3 months and if this could happen while we are happy what will happen in a year...

What the fuck do I do?


Edit: I called her this morning and she told me. She feels guilty and wishes she could take it back but I have honestly been a great boyfriend. I pay for everything, drive her every where (she lives 40 minutes away from me by car), all her friends like me. I don't get angry, I don't hit her.

I SPOON HER EVERY NIGHT EVEN THOUGH I WAKE UP WITH A NUMB ARM! Like Jesus...

He's a friend of hers from work. He kissed her, she told me she could of stopped it but didn't.

I know it could be worse, I'm not an idiot but the fact that she did do it kind of destroys trust.


Every time she goes to talk to another guy what do I do? Believe in her like I did the first time? Is it possible to be in a happy relationship when every guy you meet is just another guy for her to hurt me with?

Also, I've never been jealous over her ex or male friends.

It was a "I like you kiss". Not old friends, not on the cheek.

She told me specifically that she can't be his friend because she would date him if I wasn't her boyfriend and that she wanted the kiss.



EDIT!:!:!:!:!: Thanks for the replies everyone. I really wish there was some miracle answer for this but as I guessed there isn't.

Its nice to see some people telling me I should get back with her.

I'm going to talk with her tonight. Try and sort it out...Who knows maybe I can get her to agree to a permanent leash?

That was a joke...I need one of those.

I realise there are people with much worse in their lives I just wanted some advice. I know it isn't the end of the world.

Do not get back with her.

I cheated on my ex and... we don't change. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Don't get dragged into her world, she'll just make you miserable for the remainder of your relationship (which won't last long at all).

Sorry dude.

 

[Volkov]

Time to lay down the hurt.

 

[Spinozaad]

She only did what we all, deep inside, would love to.

You can hold that against her and adhere to a twisted moral and ethical code which helps no one. Physical pleasure can exist outside an intimate relationship. Call it 'assisted self-service', if you wish.

If she honestly regrets, make up. All she did was kiss, so what? Satisfying primal lust through watching porn is, on an abstract level, not all that different from having loveless sex. I don't know, and don't care if you watch porn, but know that only the truly innocent should cast the first stone.

Or you could dump her and move on. She's not The One, she's not irreplacable.

 

[Hamish Durie]

hehe great boyfriend = don't hit but seriously you will have to get past this, no relationship is just smooth sailing even the best have rough patches and if this is the roughest patch you go through then daaaaaam your lucky

 

[justnotcricket]

She told you. To me that means that, with a little work and some time, you'll be back to normal.

HOWEVER. You need to have a serious chat about what her feelings for this other guy actually are, and you have to make it clear that you don't share (if that's your angle), and that she needs to make her choice outright. Does she want you, or does she want this other guy? Make it clear that there are no half-measures, and move on, in whichever format that decisiton takes.

Whatever you do, don't get resentful over this. It was a kiss. And she told you about it.