My girlfriend of four years and fiance just left me tonight.

[Monsterfurby]

*shrug*
Enjoy the freedom.

PS: Awkward terminology question: Where's the difference between a girlfriend and a fiancée?

Properly a girl/boyfriend is just someone you fool around with for now. Fiancée is when you actually start having serious plans for marriage.

Ah, thanks. I was suspecting that much, but it seems I know too much French to make the connection.

Also, I second your advice.

 

[shmagiggywokka]

1) Gather good friends
2) Gather Alcohol
3) Acquire entertainment
4) Combine.

It'll hurt but don't dwell on it. It might take a while to get over, but instead of focusing on what is lost, do something with what you have. Rock-Band-it-up, get freaky on some Soul Calibur, or just sit around and watch some movies.

Don't try to forget, it doesn't work like that, just keep reminding yourself of people in your life that are still around.

:{>

 

[RanD00M]

Sex, Drugs and Rock 'N Roll. Actually you should have been doing those even when you were with here. There is never a time where those three can´t help.

 

[disfunkybob]

Reflect on the situation, spend a few days sulking and then get out and try something new. Life won't be stopping for her, it shouldn't stop for you. You never know, could be a good thing to learn and grow from. If you don't, then the terrorists win.

 

[CrashBang]

My longest relationship was 18 months; I know that's not as long as four years but what I did was surround myself with friends for the next few weeks, hanging out with them pretty much constantly. It's a good thing I was at university, I just went out all the time and had movie nights with my mates etc. Friends are vital after breakups!
Also, for what it's worth, I'm sorry, bro. It sucks, I know

 

[mew4ever23]

Yikes. Breaking it off after a marriage proposal? I don't mean to pry, and if you'd rather not say, I understand, but what happened?

I'm sure by the time thread is done, someone will have suggested suicide (In case any mods decide to read this, this is not a suggestion, serious or otherwise, please don't banhammer me >.<). Don't do that, no one is worth taking your own life.

Without more details, I can't really offer a suggestion other than a trip to the bar.

 

[CrysisMcGee]

You'd have to explain the circumstances if you want psychological help. All I can say is be yourself, and be the best person you can be in life.
People accept each other when they act natural.

Communication is THE key to a good relationship...or finding out you're not right for each other. Always be true, NEVER lie about anything, and make sure your love isn't blind..... Like Mine was.

Another thing that I found necessary was the ability to read people. You know whats on their mind without having them say anything. More so though is listening to what they say, and how they say it. This reveals far more about a person than most people realize.

 

[MasterOfWorlds]

I'm going to say stay away from drugs and alcohol because if you're depressed, it might actually make things worse. I'm not going to ask details, but that pretty much just sucks balls.

Find a friend or family's place to crash at for a few days while you wrap your head around this. Once the weekend hits, go out with your friends and enjoy some time together. Don't go out and immediately get laid. I think that you'll regret it if you do.

I'm sorry that this happened to you, and I hope that you get back up on your feet soon.

 

[Quaxar]

PS: Awkward terminology question: Where's the difference between a girlfriend and a fiancée?

A expensive ass ring.

Great, now I spent minutes wondering what an ass-ring was and why the hell you would feel like bringing that topic up.
It's too late to think.

 

[tjdavids]

actually things might be shit, but sometimes emotions run high and stuff happen that kind of doesn't matter in a few weeks. I'd advise taking it slow for a while and see if you can get in touch with her in a while.

 

[ChildofGallifrey]

I feel ya pal. My fiance left me for an alcoholic, drug abusing highschool dropout with a 3 year old who proceeded to threaten physical violence upon me if I ever spoke to her again. Or to use his words I "betta call into work and letem know you ain't gonna be in tomorrow, cuz Imma mess you up". I laughed and gave him my real address. People who talk like that never have the wherewithal to back up their words. I'd love to run into him now that I've been studying Jeet Kune Do and Muay Thai...

Anyway, I'd advise against drugs and alcohol (though I'm pretty sure that was a joke...I hope). I went down the alcohol route myself after, and it doesn't help in the slightest. Friends and loved ones are the best cure (or I should say distraction, because there isn't really a cure for this). Other than that, as cliche as it is "time heals all wounds". It may take a metric shit-ton of time (3 years on and I'm not totally over it. Nearly, but not quite), but it will get better.

If you'd like to talk, feel free to PM me. I'm usually around.

 

[WorldCritic]

I would say try talking to her, if only to get a reason for her leaving you. Other than that I can't really offer much help except try to hang out with as many of your best friends as you can. Condolences man.

 

[Rayne870]

might not be permanent, i have broken up with mine several times and gotten back together with her. keep calm and collected and ask that you talk about things after a week a part. and then maybe a month apart, if she still sees that things cant work then accept it, take some time for yourself and work on finding the next one. overall just try to be mature about it.

 

[Slipped Mind]

When me and my boyfriend of 4 years broke up, I was feeling a shitty and alone, went through a "thing" with someone else who I thought I was falling in love with, but wasn't [that turned to shit, naturally], so I'd suggest not going out trying to find a quick fix like getting laid, it'll make you feel worse about yourself. But yeah, just when I couldn't have felt much more crap about myself, someone new popped up, someone brilliant, now I'm with that person. Good things pop up when you least expect them to. For now, just stick with hanging out with some great friends, it'll do you the world of good. Hang in there.

 

[Ulvai]

Drugs and alcohol

Drugs are bad. That leaves booze. When my 3-year long relationship ended, I drank for, like, a week. On the other hand it ended because I drank for a week before that, so ... Damn, now I feel stupid. Gonna go get some beer.

 

[yndsu]

I broke up with my 3 year gf and a fiancee as well a bit over a year ago now.
And i have actually enjoyed being single for most of it.
Only now, a year after we broke up i am kinda getting to that point where i wish
there was someone to date and cuddle and talk to.

So my point is, cry few tears, it will help. And when you are feeling a bit better
enjoy being single because it wont be long till you are probably in another relationship.

 

[Programmed_For_Damage]

Be thankful you didn't marry her.

Be honest with yourself about what was your fault ans what was not, and remember that next time.

That is seriously the best answer I've read.

Drugs and alcohol only mask the pain and unless you're off your face 24/7 the hurt is going to find some way to beat you down when you're alone, even if that's when you're on the can. It's best to deal with it head on and hopefully make peace with it as soon as humanly possible.

 

[Seriphina]

what age are you?! Prob too young to be settling down anyway!
I was with someone for 4 yrs til i was 21 and i look back and im like "damn i wish i could have those years back"
Chin up!
Go out, have fun and get reaquainted with your mates. They probably have missed you <3