My Life

[Spasmoses]

Well I dont know how to begin, this is very hard for me, to share my life with people I dont know and probably will never know.

Well this has to do with love in my life. Its never really worked out for me, im a 15 year old guy and wasnt interested in girls untill a year ago.Thats when this girl (who I wont name) came in to my life.
It was my second year at college and I had my little group of friends which thankfully were in my class with me. There was a new girl and I didnt think much of her untill randomly she started giving me hugs (being a gamer I had never been hugged by the opposite sex except for family). This was totally new to me and I didnt know how to handle it. To cut a long storey short, I started to love her. I know it was the first girl I liked but I knew the diffference between a crush and love. So we hung out together at school and we went to a movie and a few days after that she just stopped talking to me. Me not knowing how to handle this went into a depressed state and didnt talk to many people, eventually i got happier and life was all good for a few months untill I went out with this other girl and we got on for a few weeks (I think like 10)then she broke up with me. i got over that one pretty easy then at the start of this year one of my friends , that id made early last year, said that she liked me. I had a cruch on her so i thought "why not?". on my birthday, which was in January, i got all my freiends ocer and after a few left she started holding my had and just generally hold me. later that night she told me on msn that she only wanted to be friends.. Later that week I think four days after my birthday she told me she was inlove with this guy from over seas who was 17.
I was pretty saddend by that but like i always do, feigned happyness and acted like a good friend.

thats basicly it >.< sorry if it seems all jumbled and doesnt make sense I just felt like I had to share that. So yea.. thats it really kind of, I left a bit out.

 

[TenthRegeneration]

Aw....Do you need a hug? -_-

 

[Steeveeo]

Teenage "love" rarely lasts, and when it does, it gets ugly more often than not.

I get tired of hearing how so-and-so was going out with such-and-such, but broke up because that ***** who-shall-not-be-named stole such-and-such from so-and-so.

The whining gets on my nerves, and I tend to tune it out at times.

My advice for the dating scene: Just broke up? Ok, shit happens, get over it and move on. Dwelling on the past will get you nowhere else than misery, and whining about it to others constantly just makes them hate you for not shutting up.

Just to make sure I am clear, I do not mean to sound bitter in any way, but I hate it when I see half my friends sulking about because of some failed relationship, it gets fucking depressing. Finding your "one true love" in the early years is like trying to pick up a wet bar of soap with a greased, 12 foot long, half-inch wide gripping surface, depleted uranium set of tongs, its nigh impossible, it puts a heavy burden on you, and frustrating as hell.

This is my last bit of advice, and ties into the first: Don't dwell, dwelling on pain only brings pain. Move on to the more joyous occasions in life, rather than sulking about, considering quitting life before you can.

I do not know if you were actually asking for advice or just blogging (if it was, don't, this is a forum), but that's my two cents.

 

[Jenny Creed]

I'm reminded of some of the last words of the Last Man: "Go out there and get your heart broken in so it's ready for when you really need it."

 

[Tattaglia]

It's good to type out your thoughts and feelings online to a group of people you've never met before, but it's probably a better idea to talk to your parents about it. Or at least someone you feel comfortable to talk to. After that go and listen to a happy song... like a Beatles song.

No Nine Inch Nails for you!

 

[Mariena]

Dude. You're 15.

Do you know how long relationships last on average at that age?

A week, maybe two. Then either gets "bored" of that person and wants to find new "love".

.. also, offtopic, what's the deal with people posting love related questions/stories on a gaming forum? x.x

 

[blubuddy]

nobody asked for your life story

 

[ZantetsukenQ]

Dude. You're 15.

Do you know how long relationships last on average at that age?

A week, maybe two. Then either gets "bored" of that person and wants to find new "love".

.. also, offtopic, what's the deal with people posting love related questions/stories on a gaming forum? x.x

From a logical point of view.

People on this forum enjoy/love gaming.

Therefore:

Love gaming = Love + Gaming

Thats about as close as I can get to an answer

Also, to the OP. As with the general concensus, don't worry about it. Love may be a strong word to use. Maybe a crush? Theres better stuff to think about than the short term relationships and pain you are going to endure as a result of them.

 

[Tattaglia]

nobody asked for your life story

No one asked for your opinion either. Oh no I di-in't!

*snap*

 

[arcainia]

The longer I go on these forums, the more it seems like it's full with nothing but stuck-up jerks. It's so sad. Why can't you people just keep your offensive comments to yourselfs?

Anyway, it's brave of you to post this kind of stuff on the internet (not really smart, but kind of brave). I'm not really sure what you're going for here though. Are you asking for people's opinions, or did you just want to vent?
Well like some people said, you're only 15, and it seems like you're getting over love troubles more or less just like anyone else does. You're just going through your teenage years. It's suppoused to be that way.

 

[Rolling Thunder]

Because this is the internet. It is by nature full of stuck-up jerks.

My advice: You're fifteen. The opposite sex is a great source of entertainment and fulfilment (nudge, nudge) but for gods sake don't take it too seriously.

 

[Malkavian]

Dude. You're 15.

Do you know how long relationships last on average at that age?

A week, maybe two. Then either gets "bored" of that person and wants to find new "love".

.. also, offtopic, what's the deal with people posting love related questions/stories on a gaming forum? x.x

Because we like to function as a community, and we have a life besides gaming? While I wouldn't have posted my life's troubles, Off Topic is supposed to be where we can talk about stuff that is off topic - not about gaming. Oh, we can have gaming topics in here as well, but generally, this forum exists so we know each other. IMO, the OT parts of forums can play the most important part on a forum. Unless there's a sense of community, unless I know that MaxTheReaper cracks me up and that [...insert some other person and attribute], what's the appeal in discussing games with them? Off topic is that extra edge, that lifts a debate to a friendly discussion, that lifts a board to a community.

 

[Yassen]

You're new here and by the sounds of things you've had a hard time with relationships so I'll briefly give you some advice and then comment on what you wrote. The internet is full of pricks, telling them how unsuccessful your love life has been is like giving the person who's robbing you a gun when all he had was a screw driver to begin with.

That's not to say you can't be open on the internet, but if you're going to talk about these sort of things then at least give a reason they can understand or respond to. Like asking at the end for relationship advice or requesting people detail similar experiences in their own life. The key to making a good thread is by making a topic where people can talk about themselves.

But anyway on to what you wrote. As stated earlier, you haven't really explained what your reasons for writing this are. If you're trying to vent some built up frustrations and then share them well then go ahead, keeping it bottled up isn't healthy. But I'm not sure this is the best place for it.

The best thing I can say is learn from these experiences because they'll help you in future relationships. Besides, your still young. Being young is about making mistakes. After all, you won't have the luxury when you're older. Also try not to get so attached when people cuddle you or whatever. It's best to see those for what they are; childish affections. Becoming attached to people for such things is a road to heartbreak. Sounds cold but that's what the world is.

 

[Tarmon'gaidin]

Dude your story made me think of a movie about a guy who brings luck to woman by dating them so they find the man they love. Pretty sad actually but heey look at it this way, in the end he got a girl who loved him.

 

[Baby Tea]

.. also, offtopic, what's the deal with people posting love related questions/stories on a gaming forum? x.x

Because we like to function as a community, and we have a life besides gaming? While I wouldn't have posted my life's troubles, Off Topic is supposed to be where we can talk about stuff that is off topic - not about gaming. Oh, we can have gaming topics in here as well, but generally, this forum exists so we know each other. IMO, the OT parts of forums can play the most important part on a forum. Unless there's a sense of community, unless I know that MaxTheReaper cracks me up and that [...insert some other person and attribute], what's the appeal in discussing games with them? Off topic is that extra edge, that lifts a debate to a friendly discussion, that lifts a board to a community.

Yeah, I'm going to go ahead and disagree that OT automatically means 'Everyone on the forum hear my plight and feel bad/offer advice'. Off Topic discussion is certainly open to many different topics, but this thread isn't a discussion. It isn't a debate. It isn't anything but a guy talking about how sad he is about girls (While using a bunch of negative 'gamer' stereotypes).

Off topic doesn't equal 'Teen Angst'. You know how you get to know people on the forums? You read their posts and laugh and agree and disagree and get angry and learn THAT way. I met and got to know everyone I know here that way (That, and the IRC). You don't post threads about your life story and how hard you have it because you're 15 and upset over some girls.
Seriously? I mean, come on.
Sorry to the OP, but the majority of people in this world, gamers or not, went through similar experiences, and plenty of people have it worse off then you.
This isn't blogspot.
This isn't Deardiary.com (Is that a website?).
You want to have a discussion about abortion or religion or politics or M&Ms or what dog breed is the coolest? Knock yourself out, since they actually involve discussion. THIS does not involve discussion or debate.
You want to whine to the internet?
Start a blog. Start a Youtube channel.
Don't whine here.

 

[MrGFunk]

Well I dont know how to begin, this is very hard for me, to share my life with people I dont know and probably will never know.

Spoiler: *snip*

Well this has to do with love in my life. Its never really worked out for me, im a 15 year old guy and wasnt interested in girls untill a year ago.Thats when this girl (who I wont name) came in to my life.
It was my second year at college and I had my little group of friends which thankfully were in my class with me. There was a new girl and I didnt think much of her untill randomly she started giving me hugs (being a gamer I had never been hugged by the opposite sex except for family). This was totally new to me and I didnt know how to handle it. To cut a long storey short, I started to love her. I know it was the first girl I liked but I knew the diffference between a crush and love. So we hung out together at school and we went to a movie and a few days after that she just stopped talking to me. Me not knowing how to handle this went into a depressed state and didnt talk to many people, eventually i got happier and life was all good for a few months untill I went out with this other girl and we got on for a few weeks (I think like 10)then she broke up with me. i got over that one pretty easy then at the start of this year one of my friends , that id made early last year, said that she liked me. I had a cruch on her so i thought "why not?". on my birthday, which was in January, i got all my freiends ocer and after a few left she started holding my had and just generally hold me. later that night she told me on msn that she only wanted to be friends.. Later that week I think four days after my birthday she told me she was inlove with this guy from over seas who was 17.
I was pretty saddend by that but like i always do, feigned happyness and acted like a good friend.

thats basicly it >.< sorry if it seems all jumbled and doesnt make sense I just felt like I had to share that. So yea.. thats it really kind of, I left a bit out.

I'd say it's good you're getting yourself out there and it seems you move on pretty fast.

I know you don't want to hear it but because you're 15 everything that happens is going to be magnified emotionally by like 200%.
Don't worry, Someone will come along to break your heart. Your first true love will be a big one so make sure she's worth it.

Good luck man.

 

[Legion]

(being a gamer I had never been hugged by the opposite sex except for family)

Um, what?

I can't help wonder from that statement if you are serious or playing the "gamers live in their mother's basements until they are 40" stereotype.

 

[Legion]

Double Post...

 

[Scorched_Cascade]

Hmm so your 15 and in a year you've had 1 close friend whos a girl open you up a bit so another girl could be your girlfriend and you then when on to another girlfriend. Am I missing something? I don't see why this has made you sad you've had more girlfriends in a year than most of the people on this forum (ZING! Im joking by the way or I would be if it wasnt true ).

In short though be happy! You complain that someone was close with you then suddenly stopped? Happens all the time and in your case it actualy helped you open up a bit from the sounds of it and you probably needed it; be happy instead that you were close to her at all. The same with girlfriends, dont let yourself get angry about them dumping you just remember the happy times you had with them instead and try to be friends (watching them date others does get easier trust me). I'm in a situation with some of my Exs that they are some of my best friends and I help them judge their new potential boyfriends; this may sound creepy but it works and its fun especially if you can mock people without them realizing (not sarcasm because "sarcasm is the lowest form of wit") just gentle mocking/inside jokes.

Edit - Forgot to say welcome to the Escapist! Wit and trolls in equal measure round these parts and as introductory threads go this style is fairly unused.

 

[Malkavian]

Alot

I disagree. While self centered "give me pity" posts doesn't give the community any value, and is pretty tedious and best ignored, OT is for everything.
There are people that needs advice, or just a confirmation that what they are experiencing, is normal. 15 is a confusing age. If I need advice on a subject, or feel an innate need to share something, with the intention of getting a response, making a blog is not the answer. I would seek advice in a community that I "trust" in the sense that I know I might expect sensible replies. And another great thing is that I dont have to face these people. If I feel insecure with my penis, and want to know if what I experience with it is normal, do I ask my friends? Well, yes, now I do, but not when I was 15. Ridicule would have ensued. And just to clarify, before everyone gets all concerned about my penis, this is a purely fictional example.
At 15, girls are the supreme source of mystery, joy, pain, confusion, and everything else. Of his story do not interest you, do not read it. That's not to say that I think we should have anarchy and allow everything on the boards, but unless there are rules that state that OP is not allowed to post what he does, who are you to judge what people can post? Am i right to enter a thread you make and say "Shut your traphole, the aesthethics of kitchen tables do not interest me, so I rule that this thread should never have happened."
No. You don't like it, keep away. Or call the mods.