My Life

[arcainia]

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I disagree. While self centered "give me pity" posts doesn't give the community any value, and is pretty tedious and best ignored, OT is for everything.
There are people that needs advice, or just a confirmation that what they are experiencing, is normal. 15 is a confusing age. If I need advice on a subject, or feel an innate need to share something, with the intention of getting a response, making a blog is not the answer. I would seek advice in a community that I "trust" in the sense that I know I might expect sensible replies. And another great thing is that I dont have to face these people. If I feel insecure with my penis, and want to know if what I experience with it is normal, do I ask my friends? Well, yes, now I do, but not when I was 15. Ridicule would have ensued. And just to clarify, before everyone gets all concerned about my penis, this is a purely fictional example.
At 15, girls are the supreme source of mystery, joy, pain, confusion, and everything else. Of his story do not interest you, do not read it. That's not to say that I think we should have anarchy and allow everything on the boards, but unless there are rules that state that OP is not allowed to post what he does, who are you to judge what people can post? Am i right to enter a thread you make and say "Shut your traphole, the aesthethics of kitchen tables do not interest me, so I rule that this thread should never have happened."
No. You don't like it, keep away. Or call the mods.

I agree. Sure, the OP didn't make the wisest decision by posting personal details on an internet forum, but he can still very much post them if he wants to. I don't see this post as 'attention whoring' either, those kind of topics are alot more obviouse, usually. Yes it is a generally useless post where it doesn't seem like the OP even wants anyones opinions about it. But if it makes him feel better by writing it out and posting it here, who are you to tell him not to?

Comments like this

Aw....Do you need a hug? -_-

and this

nobody asked for your life story

Just make people look even more stupid then the OP for sharing his feelings on the internet.
If this kind of stuff bother you so much, it's not that hard to ignore and move to a different, more 'thought provoking' topic.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

I think people have an unfair view of teen relationships. When I was fifteen, I had been in a relationship for about 6 months and would be in it for about the same, and it only broke up because she moved to Australia. It was a 'real' relationship and it took a while to get over it.

Don't worry, this sort of thing happens.

 

[DeusFps]

Right...

 

[Hookman]

I gotta say its brave of you to post personal stuff like this on a public forum. Really,all I can suggest is not to rush into these relationships. It takes time to find the right person.

 

[Abedeus]

You're fifteen AND in college?
FUCK! What did I do wrong with my life?

You forgot to pay $4000 to pass few grades.

Well I dont know how to begin, this is very hard for me, to share my life with people I dont know and probably will never know.

Spoiler: *snip*

Well this has to do with love in my life. Its never really worked out for me, im a 15 year old guy and wasnt interested in girls untill a year ago.Thats when this girl (who I wont name) came in to my life.
It was my second year at college and I had my little group of friends which thankfully were in my class with me. There was a new girl and I didnt think much of her untill randomly she started giving me hugs (being a gamer I had never been hugged by the opposite sex except for family). This was totally new to me and I didnt know how to handle it. To cut a long storey short, I started to love her. I know it was the first girl I liked but I knew the diffference between a crush and love. So we hung out together at school and we went to a movie and a few days after that she just stopped talking to me. Me not knowing how to handle this went into a depressed state and didnt talk to many people, eventually i got happier and life was all good for a few months untill I went out with this other girl and we got on for a few weeks (I think like 10)then she broke up with me. i got over that one pretty easy then at the start of this year one of my friends , that id made early last year, said that she liked me. I had a cruch on her so i thought "why not?". on my birthday, which was in January, i got all my freiends ocer and after a few left she started holding my had and just generally hold me. later that night she told me on msn that she only wanted to be friends.. Later that week I think four days after my birthday she told me she was inlove with this guy from over seas who was 17.
I was pretty saddend by that but like i always do, feigned happyness and acted like a good friend.

thats basicly it >.< sorry if it seems all jumbled and doesnt make sense I just felt like I had to share that. So yea.. thats it really kind of, I left a bit out.

I'd say it's good you're getting yourself out there and it seems you move on pretty fast.

I know you don't want to hear it but because you're 15 everything that happens is going to be magnified emotionally by like 200%.
Don't worry, Someone will come along to break your heart. Your first true love will be a big one so make sure she's worth it.

Good luck man.

Am I the only one that passed the age of 15 without stuff like OP says?

Do note girls sometimes come to hug to me/ask me to hug them (and it creeps me out - come on, I know I'm a big teddy bear and I have a sexy beard, but that's not the reason to go around, asking me to give hugs and take photos with me), I did kiss with a girl (although it was not love - it was on the last day of school before Christmas, we were exchanging wishes and she likes me). I just don't see everything so super-important.

 

[Duck Sandwich]

Hmm. Y'know. At this point, making a universal "GRAAAAAAGH I R SO LONELY ME HAZ NO LOVE!" in order to contain such stories and stop multiple threads with this topic from being made might not be such a bad idea.

Then again, people ignored the original attempt at doing this (I believe it was called something along the lines of "The official Escapist Romance thread"), so it probably wouldn't work the second time.

 

[cuddly_tomato]

Dude. You're 15.

Do you know how long relationships last on average at that age?

A week, maybe two. Then either gets "bored" of that person and wants to find new "love".

.. also, offtopic, what's the deal with people posting love related questions/stories on a gaming forum? x.x

Yep.

And yep.

At 15 you should really be a whore. Don't look for love, look for hedonistic pleasure in every form you can find it. As long as you are careful and reasonably honest about it just shag everyone willing person you can find with a pulse and a vagina.

When you get into your early 20s you can start loving and stuff. At your age you get crushes. These are as powerful as love but are nowhere near as lasting. You will get over this op, and probably before the end of February.

 

[Erana]

You're fifteen AND in college?
FUCK! What did I do wrong with my life?

You forgot to pay $4000 to pass few grades.

Its possible without bribery. Trust me.

But still, isn't "College" also a foreign term for high school, or something like that?

 

[Abedeus]

You're fifteen AND in college?
FUCK! What did I do wrong with my life?

You forgot to pay $4000 to pass few grades.

Its possible without bribery. Trust me.

But still, isn't "College" also a foreign term for high school, or something like that?

Nah. I guess he has mistaken "college" with middle or high school.

 

[curlycrouton]

Well, I can understand if you wanted to just get this off your chest, but personally, I don't think the whole dating scene is healthy for people as young as you and I, or at least still in school.

I agree. You think that the girl you like is the one, the only one and nobody else can fill that spot. Believe me, I've been through it. We all have.

 

[Trivun]

Spoiler

Well I dont know how to begin, this is very hard for me, to share my life with people I dont know and probably will never know.

Well this has to do with love in my life. Its never really worked out for me, im a 15 year old guy and wasnt interested in girls untill a year ago.Thats when this girl (who I wont name) came in to my life.
It was my second year at college and I had my little group of friends which thankfully were in my class with me. There was a new girl and I didnt think much of her untill randomly she started giving me hugs (being a gamer I had never been hugged by the opposite sex except for family). This was totally new to me and I didnt know how to handle it. To cut a long storey short, I started to love her. I know it was the first girl I liked but I knew the diffference between a crush and love. So we hung out together at school and we went to a movie and a few days after that she just stopped talking to me. Me not knowing how to handle this went into a depressed state and didnt talk to many people, eventually i got happier and life was all good for a few months untill I went out with this other girl and we got on for a few weeks (I think like 10)then she broke up with me. i got over that one pretty easy then at the start of this year one of my friends , that id made early last year, said that she liked me. I had a cruch on her so i thought "why not?". on my birthday, which was in January, i got all my freiends ocer and after a few left she started holding my had and just generally hold me. later that night she told me on msn that she only wanted to be friends.. Later that week I think four days after my birthday she told me she was inlove with this guy from over seas who was 17.
I was pretty saddend by that but like i always do, feigned happyness and acted like a good friend.

thats basicly it >.< sorry if it seems all jumbled and doesnt make sense I just felt like I had to share that. So yea.. thats it really kind of, I left a bit out.

Dude, is there any reason for posting this on a gaming forum, even if it is Off-Topic? I suppose you weren't really to know, having barely posted on the forums and all, but even so. When you use the forums here we don't normally take a great view of people who post things like this. However, I guess we can forgive you slightly. As for an answer to this, you're 15. Get over it. Even people 10 years older than you have relationship problems, and at 15 you're a bit young to think about a serious long term relationship anyway. Besides, 3 girlfriends in one year, that's two more than me, so don't complain so much. Now I'm off to go smash up the local card shop. Hope you all have a good Saturday this weekend...

 

[curlycrouton]

.. also, offtopic, what's the deal with people posting love related questions/stories on a gaming forum? x.x

Because we like to function as a community, and we have a life besides gaming? While I wouldn't have posted my life's troubles, Off Topic is supposed to be where we can talk about stuff that is off topic - not about gaming. Oh, we can have gaming topics in here as well, but generally, this forum exists so we know each other. IMO, the OT parts of forums can play the most important part on a forum. Unless there's a sense of community, unless I know that MaxTheReaper cracks me up and that [...insert some other person and attribute], what's the appeal in discussing games with them? Off topic is that extra edge, that lifts a debate to a friendly discussion, that lifts a board to a community.

Yeah, I'm going to go ahead and disagree that OT automatically means 'Everyone on the forum hear my plight and feel bad/offer advice'. Off Topic discussion is certainly open to many different topics, but this thread isn't a discussion. It isn't a debate. It isn't anything but a guy talking about how sad he is about girls (While using a bunch of negative 'gamer' stereotypes).

Off topic doesn't equal 'Teen Angst'. You know how you get to know people on the forums? You read their posts and laugh and agree and disagree and get angry and learn THAT way. I met and got to know everyone I know here that way (That, and the IRC). You don't post threads about your life story and how hard you have it because you're 15 and upset over some girls.
Seriously? I mean, come on.
Sorry to the OP, but the majority of people in this world, gamers or not, went through similar experiences, and plenty of people have it worse off then you.
This isn't blogspot.
This isn't Deardiary.com (Is that a website?).
You want to have a discussion about abortion or religion or politics or M&Ms or what dog breed is the coolest? Knock yourself out, since they actually involve discussion. THIS does not involve discussion or debate.
You want to whine to the internet?
Start a blog. Start a Youtube channel.
Don't whine here.

I am somewhat inclined to agree with Baby Tea on this one.

A little more advice now, you're still bloody 15 for cryin' out loud. No relationship started at that age can work out. No, it's not possible. Yes, I'm sure we've all been through teen angst at some stage in terms of romance, but you really need to get over it, fast.

Another thing that annoys me is this: When someone gets dumped by their girlfriend at the age of 15 or 14, and says that they're depressed.

No, you are not depressed, you just feel a bit sad. Depression is a mental illness, feeling a bit moody is not.

 

[JokerGrin]

You have plenty of time to go mate. Get the priorities right first. By that I mean education primarily. There's no time limit for finding your soulmate.

 

[EeveeElectro]

Mate, you're only 15 and they weren't the worst love stories I've heard to be honest.
It sounds like you scared the first girl off, you loved her because she gave you hugs?
I once gave a guy in my sixth form a hug who I didn't really know, and he followed me home until I told him to leave me alone.

When you stop looking for Mrs Right, she'll turn up.

 

[Nomad]

...yawn...

Ok, that will be $120 for me for reading this.
My account number: IBAN: PL 47 1310 6005 1111 0000 4740 5002
Transaction title: "My ridicolous, generic emo-whining about not unusual and quite boring teenage love life"

You're fifteen AND in college?
FUCK! What did I do wrong with my life?

Yeah, WTF?

And that will be $500 for making me read your reply. Because you made me read it just as much as the topic starter made you read his. If this kind of thread bothers you people, just don't read it. Noone's forcing you. There's nothing that says you have to read every new topic and post in the forum. Really, how hard is it to skip topics with a title/content that doesn't interest you? I do it all the time.

I disagree with the notion that you can't be in love at age 15, love has nothing to do with age. If you're physically attracted to and mentally compatible with a person, you'll likely fall in love with him/her, regardless of what your age is. Just because you didn't experience it, or experienced it in a certain way, doesn't mean it's a universal truth that goes for everyone.

Now, to reply to the topic!
I didn't really see any indication that you were asking for advice, so I'll just say that's a bummer. You'll run into this sort of situation a lot more in the future, but it doesn't make this time any better. All I can say is be glad you have enough of a social/love life to have this kind of problem. A lot of people don't even have that much.

 

[MrGFunk]

You're fifteen AND in college?
FUCK! What did I do wrong with my life?

You forgot to pay $4000 to pass few grades.

Well I dont know how to begin, this is very hard for me, to share my life with people I dont know and probably will never know.

Spoiler: *snip*

Well this has to do with love in my life. Its never really worked out for me, im a 15 year old guy and wasnt interested in girls untill a year ago.Thats when this girl (who I wont name) came in to my life.
It was my second year at college and I had my little group of friends which thankfully were in my class with me. There was a new girl and I didnt think much of her untill randomly she started giving me hugs (being a gamer I had never been hugged by the opposite sex except for family). This was totally new to me and I didnt know how to handle it. To cut a long storey short, I started to love her. I know it was the first girl I liked but I knew the diffference between a crush and love. So we hung out together at school and we went to a movie and a few days after that she just stopped talking to me. Me not knowing how to handle this went into a depressed state and didnt talk to many people, eventually i got happier and life was all good for a few months untill I went out with this other girl and we got on for a few weeks (I think like 10)then she broke up with me. i got over that one pretty easy then at the start of this year one of my friends , that id made early last year, said that she liked me. I had a cruch on her so i thought "why not?". on my birthday, which was in January, i got all my freiends ocer and after a few left she started holding my had and just generally hold me. later that night she told me on msn that she only wanted to be friends.. Later that week I think four days after my birthday she told me she was inlove with this guy from over seas who was 17.
I was pretty saddend by that but like i always do, feigned happyness and acted like a good friend.

thats basicly it >.< sorry if it seems all jumbled and doesnt make sense I just felt like I had to share that. So yea.. thats it really kind of, I left a bit out.

I'd say it's good you're getting yourself out there and it seems you move on pretty fast.

I know you don't want to hear it but because you're 15 everything that happens is going to be magnified emotionally by like 200%.
Don't worry, Someone will come along to break your heart. Your first true love will be a big one so make sure she's worth it.

Good luck man.

Am I the only one that passed the age of 15 without stuff like OP says?

Do note girls sometimes come to hug to me/ask me to hug them (and it creeps me out - come on, I know I'm a big teddy bear and I have a sexy beard, but that's not the reason to go around, asking me to give hugs and take photos with me), I did kiss with a girl (although it was not love - it was on the last day of school before Christmas, we were exchanging wishes and she likes me). I just don't see everything so super-important.

I think people are lucky if everything was cool for their teenage years or perceive it to be. I think everything is exaggerated when you're pubescent.

I think the OP should save this stuff for a blog though. This is a Forum and may not be the best place to "open-up".

 

[Anarchemitis]

nobody asked for your life story

Nobody asked your opinion.
Thanks, Forum design!