My mother is a cheating ****, what to do?

[disturbed_one]

Long story short, found out who my mother's lover is. And he had the balls to come to our house, with my father, dead drunk (both of them). I know where the mother****** lives, I know his two sons, and he's also married. Should I get revenge? Should I try to move away from them and never look back?

 

[Wierdguy]

Expose them.

In the long run its better than living in a doomed relationship on both parts.

 

[disturbed_one]

he's a drunk, she's cheating on him because he's a drunk. both of them are pathethic. should I just beat the crap out of that other guy?

and then expose them?

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

Beating the crap out of him is not a good idea. Really, really, don't do that. If you do then it'll be harder to take the moral high ground of the whole shebang. Have you thought about talking to your mum about it?

 

[BonsaiK]

Long story short, found out who my mother's lover is. And he had the balls to come to our house, with my father, dead drunk (both of them). I know where the mother****** lives, I know his two sons, and he's also married. Should I get revenge? Should I try to move away from them and never look back?

Why should you even feel the need to do anything at all? Maybe it's not actually any of your business. It's her life, not yours, and what she's doing isn't illegal. Even thinking about taking revenge on the guy is utterly retarded, for all sorts of really obvious reasons that I shoudn't even have to point out to you.

If it bothers you that much, move out. If you feel you must express your disapproval, maybe do so with your mother, in private, and politely, but be prepared for her to tell you that it's none of your goddamn business (which is true).

 

[Erana]

How old are you, what's your parents' relationship like (their relationship, not how mad you are at her cheating on him) , what's your financial situation?

Let me tell you now, you've got a terrible piece of information here. Swinging it about without tact could be very, very dangerous.

My father was unfaithful. It hurt like Hell. But in some cases, its better to keep your mouth shut, especially if he has kids. Do you really want to be responsible for tearing his childrens' lives asunder over your rage?

I can't tell you what to do, except to put aside your anger for a moment and think about what is in the best interest for the innocent. We're free to talk to you about how you feel about this, though. I know it just changes everything.

 

[LetalisK]

I would expose the cheating to your dad and the other guy's wife. But then again, I'm a dick and I hold my family to high standards.

 

[iblis666]

damn get a paternity test if your mothers such a cheating whore you might not be related to either of these guys and as such it might not be a good idea to get on the bad side of your one blood relative

 

[Sebster 105]

Right, because murdering a family member is going to solve all your problems.

 

[2718]

should I just beat the crap out of that other guy?

It's not that other guys fault that your mom cheats with him. Neither is it his responsibility to make sure that anyone he has sex with is single.

EDIT: It IS his fault that HE cheats on HIS wife though.

 

[SultanP]

Long story short, found out who my mother's lover is. And he had the balls to come to our house, with my father, dead drunk (both of them). I know where the mother****** lives, I know his two sons, and he's also married. Should I get revenge? Should I try to move away from them and never look back?

Why should you even feel the need to do anything at all? Maybe it's not actually any of your business. It's her life, not yours, and what she's doing isn't illegal. Even thinking about taking revenge on the guy is utterly retarded, for all sorts of really obvious reasons that I shoudn't even have to point out to you.

If it bothers you that much, move out. If you feel you must express your disapproval, maybe do so with your mother, in private, and politely, but be prepared for her to tell you that it's none of your goddamn business (which is true).

Yes! Very well said.

Edit: The following paragraph seemed directed at BonsaiK, when it was in fact directed at the OP.

If it was your own significant other being unfaithful to you, then it might be your business. But even then it seems like you're the kinda guy who'll get mad at the guy who is having sex with your girl, instead of being mad at your girl for being unfaithful, which is an utterly retarded response.

Anyway, if you must do anything, tell your dad and that other guy's family that they are being cheated on, so they can react how they want, but you have no business beating up some guy just because your mother wants to fuck him. That's what I would do. If people want to cheat, fine, but they had damned well better be prepared for the people they are cheating on finding out.

I can't stand cheating, it really drives me up the wall, but there are some proper reactions, and several retarded ones.

 

[Madman123456]

Do you even have a Reason to care? It's her Life and if she want get rid of her Husband and/or her Dignity or none of the above, depending on how she looks at it, its her responsibility. The other Guy and his Marriage is none of your Business. I'd say its not much of your Business what your mom does in the Bedroom.

Well, if someone calls you "Son of a *****", you may have to fake the Anger now

 

[gazumped]

If it were me I'd talk to my mum first and try to make her see sense and end it with the guy.
I hope once you've calmed down you'll realise why it'd be a really really bad idea to beat him up, or anyone in any circumstance, really.

It's not that other guys fault that your mom cheats with him. Neither is it his responsibility to make sure that anyone he has sex with is single.

I dunno, the argument that it's not bad to sleep with someone who's in a relationship is kind of like saying it's not bad to encourage someone to steal someone's possessions and share it with you. You know it's a bad thing to do but you get them to do it because you're getting something out of it. It's basically hurting someone just through another person, either way it's pretty douchebaggy.

 

[Aurgelmir]

Long story short, found out who my mother's lover is. And he had the balls to come to our house, with my father, dead drunk (both of them). I know where the mother****** lives, I know his two sons, and he's also married. Should I get revenge? Should I try to move away from them and never look back?

Revenge?

What exactly do you have to revenge?

Honestly just get away and don't look back. If your family is as bad as you make it seem.

 

[gazumped]

Also, although I'm not too sure I agree with this, some psychologists believe that having affairs make marriages stronger because it spices up a boring life or teaches the couple things about themselves that they wouldn't have otherwise realised.
Durex did a global sex survey that revealed that 22% of married people worldwide admitted to having extramarital sex.
That's a lot of people.

I'm saying this to put into perspective that your mum having an affair doesn't make her a demon woman and there's a good chance that this won't ruin your father's life, so don't go too crazy until you and your mother have talked about this situation calmly like two rational adults.

 

[JohnnyDelRay]

Yeah man, talk to your old lady first nicely and one-on-one, let her know how you feel, dont do anything rash or drastic that you might regret later just yet. You may feel differently once you hear her side of the story, or how she feels about it all. If the whole case seems out of redemption and you want to step in, first talk to your dad, don't worry about the other fella your family comes first, his is HIS problem not yours.

 

[Bobbity]

Confront your mother about it, and ask her to stop. Watch her reaction very carefully; it'll be obvious in those few seconds as to whether or not she intends to secretly continue the relationship, or drop it entirely.

If you don't trust her enough to believe that she will stop, or her reaction was a little bit off, go to your dad about it.

The main thing is not to do anything rash though, and try to keep tempers from flaring. Going to your dad is a last resort, because it'll probably tear your family apart.

 

[Terminal Blue]

Calm the fuck down. She's your mother, not your girlfriend.

Essentially, it's none of your business what she does. If you must talk to her about it, sit down and tell her you don't want to see it ruin your family. That's all you can ask, because it's the only part of it which has any bearing on you.

If you force or blackmail her into breaking it off though, she's going to resent you. Probably forever. The less you get involved, the safer you are from such repercussions.

Remember, she has feelings. If she's having an affair, she's probably doing it for a reason and if you treat her like an object whose sole responsibility is to look after you and your dad, I really wouldn't blame her for just walking out.