My mother is a cheating ****, what to do?

[similar.squirrel]

Both of my parents have been pursuing extramarital relationships for a long time now. They don't bother with a divorce because they do not hate one another, and didn't want to mess up my sister and I. The only effect this has had on me is a disillusionment with marriage and monogamy in general.
Maybe your parents have the same kind of set-up. Don't jump to conclusions, but do talk about it with both of them if it's really bothering you. Remember your mother is a human being as well.

 

[The Gnome King]

Long story short, found out who my mother's lover is. And he had the balls to come to our house, with my father, dead drunk (both of them). I know where the mother****** lives, I know his two sons, and he's also married. Should I get revenge? Should I try to move away from them and never look back?

I wouldn't try to get revenge in any way. Then again, I despise cheating and lying - it's a great way to spread STDs and ruin lives. Honestly, what I would do - and this might not be idea - is let your father and his wife know about it. Anonymously if you have to.

Then let the "adults" figure out how to handle it. I wouldn't get violent, or even overly mad. I would just dispassionately end the lie for all.

I have a restraining order against my own mother, but that's a whole 'nother story.

I believe in shining light into dark corners, though. It lets wounds start to heal. Will it hurt at first? Possibly, but your dad (and the other man's wife) both have a right to know that their partners aren't being faithful. Hell, even friends of mine know that if they're cheating on their SOs; don't tell me. My first impulse will be to bring it all out in the open.

I can't stand lying about this subject, or letting "sleeping dogs lie" when peoples lives are very much at stake. Most married couples don't think they should be using condoms, but if cheating is going on - perhaps they should.

 

[Gaiseric]

Long story short, found out who my mother's lover is. And he had the balls to come to our house, with my father, dead drunk (both of them). I know where the mother****** lives, I know his two sons, and he's also married. Should I get revenge? Should I try to move away from them and never look back?

I wouldn't try to get revenge in any way. Then again, I despise cheating and lying - it's a great way to spread STDs and ruin lives. Honestly, what I would do - and this might not be idea - is let your father and his wife know about it. Anonymously if you have to.

Then let the "adults" figure out how to handle it. I wouldn't get violent, or even overly mad. I would just dispassionately end the lie for all.

I have a restraining order against my own mother, but that's a whole 'nother story.

I believe in shining light into dark corners, though. It lets wounds start to heal. Will it hurt at first? Possibly, but your dad (and the other man's wife) both have a right to know that their partners aren't being faithful. Hell, even friends of mine know that if they're cheating on their SOs; don't tell me. My first impulse will be to bring it all out in the open.

I can't stand lying about this subject, or letting "sleeping dogs lie" when peoples lives are very much at stake. Most married couples don't think they should be using condoms, but if cheating is going on - perhaps they should.

I totally agree.

Don't get violent that may make you feel better but in the end it won't help you. You have a right to be angry just don't let it cloud your judgement.