It's a hip replacement. If it was a life-threatening operation, the hospital would refuse to perform it. Relax, she'll be fine.
My mother may die tomorrow. I'm scared. UPDATE 2: SHE'S OKAY!!!
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I wish you and your mother all the best and hope she has a speedy recovery.
She sounds tough as old boots, I think she's going to be fine.
OT: I haven't really done much, when I was about 11/12 I used to make meals for my next door neighbours and take them round because they had dementia and didn't eat. It took me a while to get in touch with their family because they didn't give a shit until they died and they wanted to see what they could get. We got in touch and they put them in a home, which was better because I had school to go to and I couldn't always be there.
I used to help my mum look after my great aunt and uncle before they died too.
She sounds tough as old boots, I think she's going to be fine.
OT: I haven't really done much, when I was about 11/12 I used to make meals for my next door neighbours and take them round because they had dementia and didn't eat. It took me a while to get in touch with their family because they didn't give a shit until they died and they wanted to see what they could get. We got in touch and they put them in a home, which was better because I had school to go to and I couldn't always be there.
I used to help my mum look after my great aunt and uncle before they died too.
I've never had a relative or a loved one die, so i can say this safety from a position of ignorance, but a) its a hip replacement, she will be fine, and b) shes 77.
Shes no doubt had a long and happy life, and if shes reached the point where she needs constant care from her children, she is probably nearing the stage where death is not such a scary thing. I've met people who have lost thier parents at much younger ages from heart disease and the like, so really, you should be happy for her living this long and still being so healthy
Yeah i may sound heartless here but im trying to be comforting. Sort of. Again, ignorance.
Shes no doubt had a long and happy life, and if shes reached the point where she needs constant care from her children, she is probably nearing the stage where death is not such a scary thing. I've met people who have lost thier parents at much younger ages from heart disease and the like, so really, you should be happy for her living this long and still being so healthy
Yeah i may sound heartless here but im trying to be comforting. Sort of. Again, ignorance.
Just dropping in to spread my well wishes and support. I'd say more, but there are no words for this kind of thing.
The only other thing I can say is be rational, and don't let fear control your emotions. It's not over yet, so be easy on yourself and don't panic.
The only other thing I can say is be rational, and don't let fear control your emotions. It's not over yet, so be easy on yourself and don't panic.
Banish worry from your mind and instead focus your efforts on making her feel as safe, happy, comfortable and appreciated as you can, just as a loving mother would do for her child. Little else is of importance, and she will appreciate every kind and caring gesture you make for her during her time of need. I wish your mother the best and I hope she pulls through right as rain. You will always have a sympathetic ear here.
I have not been in the same situation as you OP, and I would dread to be.
I can only understand how stressful it was from my mother, who lost both her sister and dad last year, so the most I can do is wish you and your mother well.
I can only understand how stressful it was from my mother, who lost both her sister and dad last year, so the most I can do is wish you and your mother well.
I really, really want to thank everyone for your support!!! I'm a real loner IRL and it means a lot to me to be able to reach out and get so much support here from you!
Mom's sodium and potassium levels dropped so they postponed her operation until Friday. This is the THIRD time they've postponed it! Mom's a real saint (yeah--we're definitely not talking about the "Throw Momma From the Train" type) so she's got tons of visitors--family and church friends and so on--swarming her.
I'm her primary caretaker, though, so naturally I feel about an inch tall for her being in this situation even though it's the second time she's fallen an hurt herself.
Granted, the first time was when she tripped over a traffic cone while crossing the finish line of a 5K fundraising walk on the Fourth of July in 2012, so I don't feel responsible for her first fall.
Ahhh, heck...I'm supposed to think positive thoughts. I promised her that I would.
THANKS, everyone! I'll keep you posted on her progress. If there isn't another postponement of her operation I should be able to give you the GOOD news tomorrow night.
Mom's sodium and potassium levels dropped so they postponed her operation until Friday. This is the THIRD time they've postponed it! Mom's a real saint (yeah--we're definitely not talking about the "Throw Momma From the Train" type) so she's got tons of visitors--family and church friends and so on--swarming her.
I'm her primary caretaker, though, so naturally I feel about an inch tall for her being in this situation even though it's the second time she's fallen an hurt herself.
Granted, the first time was when she tripped over a traffic cone while crossing the finish line of a 5K fundraising walk on the Fourth of July in 2012, so I don't feel responsible for her first fall.
Ahhh, heck...I'm supposed to think positive thoughts. I promised her that I would.
THANKS, everyone! I'll keep you posted on her progress. If there isn't another postponement of her operation I should be able to give you the GOOD news tomorrow night.
Good to hear your mother gets a lot of support, a positive atmosphere can help a suprisingly large ammount! When they postpone an operation I try to remember that they are doing it for the patients own good. Hope she's not in too much pain until then.
Keep caring for her, but don't forget to care for yourself too. Try to think of something to do with/for her for when she is in recovery. My mother goes to my grandmother every day just to peel and slice an orange for her at the hospital, it makes things easier for grandma and makes mom feel better about the whole situation.
Keep caring for her, but don't forget to care for yourself too. Try to think of something to do with/for her for when she is in recovery. My mother goes to my grandmother every day just to peel and slice an orange for her at the hospital, it makes things easier for grandma and makes mom feel better about the whole situation.
I've been there, so I understand. I lost three of my four grandparent last year, back to back. It was slow process too, and as a result I spent all of my free time in a hospital, wondering if the next surgery would be the last one. It's difficult to watch someone face that situation.
I don't know if you believe in such things, but I'll keep you in my prayers.
I don't know if you believe in such things, but I'll keep you in my prayers.
Goodluck my friend. It is always a terrifying experience when someone we love is in danger and we can do nothing.
My motto with this kind of thing (and anything really) is "Expect the best but prepare for the worst".
To be fair, there are good odds that your mom will be alright. Hip replacement surgeries are fairly commonplace and, as far as surgery goes, not that high risk.
Hang in there. Might help to keep yourself busy with something/anything while you wait.
Goodluck.
My motto with this kind of thing (and anything really) is "Expect the best but prepare for the worst".
To be fair, there are good odds that your mom will be alright. Hip replacement surgeries are fairly commonplace and, as far as surgery goes, not that high risk.
Hang in there. Might help to keep yourself busy with something/anything while you wait.
Goodluck.
Just wanted to say that we all wish you and your mom the best and are here for you if you need to talk about it, or you know, talk about something else to take your mind off it for a while.
Keep on swimming Copper. Illness and death among your immediate is always terrifying to contemplate and you can't comprehend life without them when they are still with you. I empathize.
I wish you and your family all the best in this troubling time.
I wish you and your family all the best in this troubling time.
At a seriously senior age, any operation that puts you under becomes a life-threatening operation. That's sadly how it is.Advocate44 said:
Best of luck OP, hope your mother can put a few more years under her belt.
She'll be okay. Best wishes.
My mom has had 3 knee replacements (one was done wrong and crippled her for life). She's a bit younger than yours, but still, health isn't the best. I understand your fear. Every time she went in for the surgeries I'd pace and try to find something to do until I heard. But you can't really focus on anything.
I know exactly how you feel, having been through it many times. Best of luck - and keep positive. It does help.
My mom has had 3 knee replacements (one was done wrong and crippled her for life). She's a bit younger than yours, but still, health isn't the best. I understand your fear. Every time she went in for the surgeries I'd pace and try to find something to do until I heard. But you can't really focus on anything.
I know exactly how you feel, having been through it many times. Best of luck - and keep positive. It does help.