My stupid pointless relationship topic.

[Pegghead]

She does sound a little old for youu. That isn't a dealbreaker, it just means you've got to try harder. Be determined to ask her out, have a plan of what to do when taking her out (Oh and considering your age you should probably ask your parents) and if she says no don't fret.

 

[chronobreak]

That'd be what you're looking for.

You know Sprite, I was racking my brain trying to remember who it was that took the relationship discussion responsibility. I know I've directed several people to BonsaiK before. Thanks for reminding me.

I still think it would be neat, however, to have an official sanctioned Escapist response we could put in the threads, and then sink it. Something along the lines of "Well, (insert username here), you appear to be having some trouble in you relationship. Fear not, The Escapist can help!"

Or something.

 

[Macgyvercas]

Hmm...dhest made of lead, head full of helium...lead is one of the heavier metals so you would need a lot of helium (the second lightest gas) to lift an amout of lead equal to a human thorax...wait, what? Oh sorry, I was going off on my chemistry major ponderings.

Ummm, try practicing what you're going to say before you talk to her? Or use someone as a messenger? I don't know.

 

[Keela]

go out with other girls.

*snip*

other than that, 1st year high school, that would make you around 13? I wouldn't stress about this crush too much, because if you fail, you won't be confident enough to date girls for years to come.

I'm 15, and I said that I don't want to consider other girls (my mother has always been very stubborn, I have it in assloads as well). I think my being too deep in my own mind would make it obvious that I'm not happy to be with them would destroy that date completely. I've just always had a total inability to talk to girls I like or people who I don't particularly care for.

 

[StriderShinryu]

It does sound to me like she's interested. If she is willing to, potentially, take some flack from her friends (which are still VERY important to a lady at that age) to try to involve you in things then she's obviously willing to take a risk. If you don't really talk to her much as of yet, I think others have the right idea; start with asking for her IM address or something similar. It's not as heartattack inducing as having to ring her up on the phone, assuming you get passed the heartattack inducing process of asking for her number. It's less personal, but that's maybe what you want if you're currently just at the butterflies stage and don't even really know her that well.

 

[Keela]

"-Excuse me, do you have a boyfriend?
-errr no?
-Then i'll be your boyfriend"

works every single time.....

Now, now, child, do you remember what I said about being a smartass?

 

[Computer-Noob]

First off, starting high school and not having a girlfriend beforehand is FAR from bad. In fact, it probably makes you a better person, since you dont feel obligated to get a girlfriend in order to validate your own existance.

I'd say just try to loosen up.

Maybe if her friends knew you more, they wouldnt dislike you as much? If all they have to say is "Hi" then awkwardly leave, doesnt seem like they're succeeding, or even trying, to get to know you. Hang around with her more often. If she asks you if you want to come along after school, or just have the two of you hang out, then either her friends are warming up a bit, or she knows that her friends dont really like you, but wants to hang out with you regardless.

Oh, and dont worry about saying the wrong thing. Say what you would if it was one of your friends. If you try to be someone different, then you're going to have to stay that person your whole life, otherwise if things do work out between you two, the person she likes might not be the person you turn into. I say that from experience. Assuming that you want to, be the person that she likes.

 

[AWAR]

"-Excuse me, do you have a boyfriend?
-errr no?
-Then i'll be your boyfriend"

works every single time.....

Now, now, child, do you remember what I said about being a smartass?

Most important thing is to be direct,

another option is to get her drunk at a party, your choice.

 

[Shambl3s]

If you want her heart, don't allow yourself to chicken. Secondly, I had my first kiss when I was 15, slept with my 25th girl just after I turned 16. When you don't chicken, you become wayy more attractive.

 

[zelda2fanboy]

Whatever you do, do something. You will be awkward, you will be nervous, but in the long run that won't matter. I never bothered talking to girls when I was in school because I never thought I was good enough. I also just didn't want to have to deal with the anxiety or the shame, so I just avoided them. Now I'm 23 and out of college never having had a girlfriend. It's best to get all of the interaction weirdness out of the way now, rather than wait until you're completely out of school when people your age are getting married and having children. Really, you have tons of options right now, even if it doesn't feel like it. Just go out there and try. Really, basic effort is 90% of the whole deal. It's not as difficult as you think.

 

[DemonicVixen]

If she already has a boyfriend then all you can do is become friends with her and then if anything should happen between her and her boyfriend, be there for her. If she likes you enough then you might find yourself becoming the next love interest in her life.

 

[ThreeWords]

snip

I could ask her for her number, but I'm afraid she might think we don't know each other well enough

Missed that part...

Ask anyway. I did with my [sub]ex[/sub] girlfriend when we'd barely met
She gave it to me

This is true. A number isn't much to most people, unless they have plans. if shes willing to talk to you, she'll be willing to get a text from you.

Also, though it sounds foolish, I suggest talking to her while mildly drunk. Not wasted, mind, but tipsy enough to forget why you're scared while still able to sound sober and intelligent.

Also, remember your position: there's a three year age gap, but she's not only talking to you but actively trying to do so. Believe me, you could be doing so much worse; despite how it feels, your position is better than you think

Finally, good luck!

 

[Woodsey]

Write her a note saying "I feel to awkward around you to speak, probably because I have feelings for you.
But I wrote you this note instead
=D"

Or something in that matter

Yes I am serious

For God's sake, don't do that.

Just bury it deep deep down, talk about other girls T & A a lot, and get some action off of someone else.

 

[RabidWombat]

this is a gaming based website, no silly drama stories here.

 

[Keela]

Whatever you do, do something. You will be awkward, you will be nervous, but in the long run that won't matter. I never bothered talking to girls when I was in school because I never thought I was good enough. I also just didn't want to have to deal with the anxiety or the shame, so I just avoided them. Now I'm 23 and out of college never having had a girlfriend. It's best to get all of the interaction weirdness out of the way now, rather than wait until you're completely out of school when people your age are getting married and having children. Really, you have tons of options right now, even if it doesn't feel like it. Just go out there and try. Really, basic effort is 90% of the whole deal. It's not as difficult as you think.

Yeah, I'm pretty sure confidence is my main problem. So far, my method for overcoming that is listening to this [http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xFYQQPAOz7Y]. Works for about half an hour, then wears off... I sound like I'm talking about drugs.

 

[BaldursBananaSoap]

Just casually try to get her number. Pull out your phone and just ask her it.

 

[Duskwaith]

Go up and have a conversation with her. Shows your conifident and she might just think your mature and worth her time.

I do hate it when a girl melts you like hot butter, such an extacsy and pain

 

[ben---neb]

Just leave it... for about 5 years.