I'm thinking the problem you're having is that you have a bad definition of nationalism. Nationalism is the strong identification of the individual with the society and the state, often to the point where the state is viewed as more important than literally anything. It can also include the belief that one state is naturally superior to any other, even in the face of evidence to the contrary. It is, in essence, the logical continuation of the old classical republican idea of the "common good," or what Rousseau called the "general will," which (again) is about the subordination of the individual to the collective whole or to the state. Nationalism itself is also commonly associated with the idea of a nation (as opposed to a state, they are different things indeed) which is an organization based around shared ethnic bonds. Nationalism as an ideology is not widely held anymore, not after the disastrous consequences of the nationalistic revolutions of the '30s and '40s, which ended up triggering two world wars: the word itself has come to have a negative connotation.
What you are describing is not nationalism. It is simple patriotism (which is sometimes used as a synonym for nationalism, though they are technically different concepts). Patriotism is love and devotion for one's country, and may
contain nationalism, but does not have to.
Now, as for your question: It is not pride by proxy. It is pride by association. Let's take the sports team example. First off: the human mind thinks in symbols. You don't think of the team when you think of, say, the Red Sox, you think of something that symbolically represents the team to you. If you are a big Red Sox fan (insert the name of some local team if you aren't a Red Sox fan) then the symbol representing the team in your mind comes to represent you as well. They are not winning for themselves, they are winning for you. Should they fail, they are failing you personally, and you must console yourself with the thought that you aren't actually associated with them (though, in your mind, you are). You can call it illogical if you want, to the extent that all psychology is illogical, but that's the reason.
Demented Teddy said:
Shycte said:
hyperhammy said:
I from Germany. NOBODY is ashamed of what THEY did. Rant: Not every German is a NAZI! I spent a couple years and everybody asked me if I'm a nazi, not Cool! /Rant
We just learn about it and regret it because it was a sad time. Just like you Americans are going to regret invading Afghanistan.
Then go ahead and deny the holocaust.
See if your country still feels shame.
He doesn't feel responsible for the holocaust, that does not mean he fucking denies it!
Most Germans were not even around back then.
The Germans didn't even know they were being killed off, they thought they were being shipped out of the country, even then a lot of Germans still wanted the Nazis out, they were just too frightened!
So shut up and think before making such stupid and offensive comments!
You might have overreacted a bit there. Yes, not feeling responsible for the Holocaust is not equivalent to denying it, but you can't say that the German people didn't know that the death-camps existed. The horror of the Holocaust was in the industrial scale of the deaths, which were orchestrated on a level that they were impossible to conceal from anyone paying the slightest bit of attention. Hell, prisoners from the camps were even sent into German cities to work in the factories as laborers before being killed off. You can't hide something like that.
On a related note, ever read the book
Night, by Eli Wiesel?