Need help!!!!! Fiancee might leave me!!!!!

[Hermia]

Strider]
And here she is...... (and this is why I hate forums).

You hate them because I am here? Or because of the responses?

People just have their anti troll shields up most of the time...and in most cases these scenarios are either trolls/or whiny d-bags looking for someone to solve all of life's problems...hence the replies. They didn't know that you were just looking to make me smile.

 

[Lyri]

So you just want us to give you one of those really dodgy testimonials for you?
Sure.

He loves you stay with him.

Truthful: Actually this is kinda creepy and boarder line desperation/panic, you ask for a tiny bit of space and he jumps onto your nearest virtual haunt to get everyone to flaunt him in front of you.
Probably so he can think it was some quirky gesture when over all it is just a round about way of doing what he wants and not you.

Personally I think you should just give the girl the time she needs rather than gathering a pity party for yourself to do some kind of virtual Mexican wave in her direction.

 

[[SE]Strider]

You know what I mean I thought people could be helpful and constructive with a small thing, boy was I wrong.

 

[[SE]Strider]

Strider]
And here she is...... (and this is why I hate forums).

You hate them because I am here? Or because of the responses?

People just have their anti troll shields up most of the time...and in most cases these scenarios are either trolls/or whiny d-bags looking for someone to solve all of life's problems...hence the replies. They didn't know that you were just looking to make me smile.

Strider]You know what I mean I thought people could be helpful and constructive with a small thing, boy was I wrong.

That is how that should have been...

 

[StBishop]

... And what god-awful scholarship is that?

Maybe it's a student benefit rather than a scholarship? Student benefits are usually based on the assumption that you're supporting yourself and are not available to married people as they have a spouse to support them (this is, of course based on the spouse's income, I assume two students could marry and still receive government benefits).

I know a few couples who aren't married/registered as a de facto couple because they need to have their incomes seen as separate for tax/government reasons. I'm pretty sure it's illegal though, if not immoral.

 

[AgentNein]

Strider]She has scholarships that will not allow her to marry yet. Also asking for help, thought it was a nice gesture that would make her happy

There's also the chance that she'll see this as her boyfriend airing personal business on a site she enjoys frequenting in a less than completely personal fashion.

I know it would bother me greatly.

EDIT: Nevermind I guess, looks like it's all kosher as christmas. Hope everything works out for you two crazy kids. Stay outta trouble.

 

[Hermia]

So you just want us to give you one of those really dodgy testimonials for you?
Sure.

He loves you stay with him.

Truthful: Actually this is kinda creepy and boarder line desperation/panic, you ask for a tiny bit of space and he jumps onto your nearest virtual haunt to get everyone to flaunt him in front of you.
Probably so he can think it was some quirky gesture when over all it is just a round about way of doing what he wants and not you.

Personally I think you should just give the girl the time she needs rather than gathering a pity party for yourself to do some kind of virtual Mexican wave in her direction.

Don't worry, we really are taking a break. I want to get everything in my head and heart sorted out, and I am sure he understand that(right Strider?). This is just a friendly gesture(he is new to forums so isn't very good at getting across his real point. i.e.-he doesn't actually want people to convince me to do something I don't want to do, he simply wanted to show me that even though I feel this way, he still cares and wanted to say Hi.)

 

[samaugsch]

Strider]Hello all. Me and my fiancee have been engaged for nearly two years now, and she also is a frequent user on this forum. She decided a few days ago we needed a break, something to do with having a (strange, unprecedented) feeling, which I do not understand. She acknowledges I did nothing wrong. What I need you fine people to do is tell her she should stay with me, she is on every day and is sure to see it, and she will be won over. If you need reasons, I am a good guy who loves her, and she says she still loves me, so it is just some phase I think she is taking too seriously.

So what is the problem exactly? If she just needs a break and it's nothing that you did, then let her.

 

[[SE]Strider]

Strider]She has scholarships that will not allow her to marry yet. Also asking for help, thought it was a nice gesture that would make her happy

There's also the chance that she'll see this as her boyfriend airing personal business on a site she enjoys frequenting in a less than completely personal fashion.

I know it would bother me greatly.

I am not engaged to you, champ. What part of "lived together for two years" do you not get. I know her, and I knew this would not bother her. EVERYONE READ THIS FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THAT IS HOLY.

 

[Akalistos]

Strider]Kinda being a killjoy here.

OT: Give her a break if she wants it. The best thing you can do is respect her feelings.

Also, the best advice I can give you, never image search "welcome to the internet" with safe search off. *shudder

Why? It doesn't seem so bad... Ah! I was on moderate. Let me check no..OOOH F#&% THE GOOGLE, THE GOOGLE! THEY DO NOTHING!

 

[Escapefromwhatever]

Well, clearly you need to hop into your Tardis and head back to Venice in the 1580s...okay I'm joking. What you really need to do is ask yourself if you actually want to go through with this marriage if your wife-to-be is having second thoughts. Maybe it is just a phase, but don't disrespect her by taking her feelings less seriously and acting as if they aren't indicative of a genuine desire to break off the engagement. Counseling might help. If you do discover that she doesn't really want to get married, however, it's best not to do so. Yes, it may hurt, but wouldn't a loveless marriage hurt more?

I'm not going to let you use me to manipulate her into staying with you if that's not what she really wants.

 

[Mcupobob]

Maybe she should make a poll and we can decide wither she stays or leaves you. Or you know you could talk to her like two normal adults and work out your problems privately and maturely. Or Internet poll. Either is cool with me.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

So you just want us to give you one of those really dodgy testimonials for you?
Sure.

He loves you stay with him.

Truthful: Actually this is kinda creepy and boarder line desperation/panic, you ask for a tiny bit of space and he jumps onto your nearest virtual haunt to get everyone to flaunt him in front of you.
Probably so he can think it was some quirky gesture when over all it is just a round about way of doing what he wants and not you.

Personally I think you should just give the girl the time she needs rather than gathering a pity party for yourself to do some kind of virtual Mexican wave in her direction.

Don't worry, we really are taking a break. I want to get everything in my head and heart sorted out, and I am sure he understand that(right Strider?). This is just a friendly gesture(he is new to forums so isn't very good at getting across his real point. i.e.-he doesn't actually want people to convince me to do something I don't want to do, he simply wanted to show me that even though I feel this way, he still cares and wanted to say Hi.)

Maybe next time he should just go with a greeting card and a bouquet of flowers instead.

 

[samaugsch]

So you just want us to give you one of those really dodgy testimonials for you?
Sure.

He loves you stay with him.

Truthful: Actually this is kinda creepy and boarder line desperation/panic, you ask for a tiny bit of space and he jumps onto your nearest virtual haunt to get everyone to flaunt him in front of you.
Probably so he can think it was some quirky gesture when over all it is just a round about way of doing what he wants and not you.

Personally I think you should just give the girl the time she needs rather than gathering a pity party for yourself to do some kind of virtual Mexican wave in her direction.

Don't worry, we really are taking a break. I want to get everything in my head and heart sorted out, and I am sure he understand that(right Strider?). This is just a friendly gesture(he is new to forums so isn't very good at getting across his real point. i.e.-he doesn't actually want people to convince me to do something I don't want to do, he simply wanted to show me that even though I feel this way, he still cares and wanted to say Hi.)

Maybe next time he should just go with a greeting card and a bouquet of flowers instead.

Or he could just leave her alone for a bit. That works, too.

 

[Lyri]

Don't worry, we really are taking a break. I want to get everything in my head and heart sorted out, and I am sure he understand that(right Strider?). This is just a friendly gesture(he is new to forums so isn't very good at getting across his real point. i.e.-he doesn't actually want people to convince me to do something I don't want to do, he simply wanted to show me that even though I feel this way, he still cares and wanted to say Hi.)

Send a text.
Send a small gift.
Cook dinner.
Make an account on a forum and ask for a gesture of affection from strangers.
dot loving post-it notes everywhere.

Which one seems odd to you?
That's how we see it.
There are much better ways than this, less creepy ones too.

 

[Phlakes]

Strider]Kinda being a killjoy here.

(image snip)

OT: Give her a break if she wants it. The best thing you can do is respect her feelings.

Also, the best advice I can give you, never image search "welcome to the internet" with safe search off. *shudder

Why? It doesn't seem so bad... Ah! I was on moderate. Let me check no..OOOH F#&% THE GOOGLE, THE GOOGLE! THEY DO NOTHING!

I'd share some brain bleach if I hadn't used it all on memories from Encyclopedia Dramatica.

 

[Scabadus]

Funny how this girl, a regular user in these forums, only has 20 posts to her name, yet has for some reason attatched an avatar to this obviously new [ok I checked the profile. EDIT:] spare account.

I call out a troll here, stop feeding it people.

And the pair of you, Strider and Hermia (if you are even real), stop having a private conversation in a public thread. Got on the phone and patch up your relationship, or at least take it to PMs.

 

[[SE]Strider]

Don't worry, we really are taking a break. I want to get everything in my head and heart sorted out, and I am sure he understand that(right Strider?). This is just a friendly gesture(he is new to forums so isn't very good at getting across his real point. i.e.-he doesn't actually want people to convince me to do something I don't want to do, he simply wanted to show me that even though I feel this way, he still cares and wanted to say Hi.)

Send a text.
Send a small gift.
Cook dinner.
Make an account on a forum and ask for a gesture of affection from strangers.
dot loving post-it notes everywhere.

Which one seems odd to you?
That's how we see it.
There are much better ways than this, less creepy ones too.

Now you people go from saying "I won't tell her what to do/think" (which I did NOT ask for), to doing exactly that? Her explicitly stating it does not bother her is not good enough?

 

[MaxwellEdison]

Strider]We have lived together this entire time. She would have thought it was nice, and I am not asking for anyone to MAKE decisions or have control of this or anything. Just to post and make her smile at it at least, since she is on all the time and it would be unexpected.

...Not to ruin it if she stumbles on this, but seriously, if this is your method of making her smile, you're failing, hard.

Note to girl, if she does read - he does seem to want to make you happy. I think he's doing a bad job, but hey, it's the thought that counts. If you've been with him that long, I hope you'll make the right choice for both of you!