Nerdy Guys and Geeky Dolls

[Chrono212]

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In light of everyone feeling so upbeat about the holidays, I was wondering about relationships!

Now, this isn't one of those 'I need advice' or 'my "friend" needs advice' threads, oh no, this is just honest to goodness...curiosity isn't the right word, but we'll go with that.

To the first discussion point:
Have you, or are you, ever had a relationship with a fellow geek?

Assuming you like to identify yourself with the whole 'geek chic' thing, it always seems to be "the holy grail" for a 'geek guy' to find that 'geek girl' and ride off into the 8-bit sunset on Yoshi.

I don't know personally if this works as it's kind of like going:
'Hey! You like football! I know a girl/guy who likes football! You two should date!'
But hey, I'm a single, shy sociopath nerd with no hope in hell and will never, ever find love.
/cliché

To the second discussion point:
Did/Do you enjoy having a fellow geek as a significant other?

Again, note the football analogy.

This question also stems from the Love FAQ column that does seem to have a number of people thinking their nerdy-ness is a down point.
I guess the cliché I used up there answers my own question, but what do you think?

Umm...case in (fictional) point

 

[Phasmal]

I met my boyfriend on World Of Warcraft, and then we skipped off into the nerdy sunset to live happily ever after.
Well, its worked for nearly three years anyway (living together for most of that time, I dont do purely internet relationships).

I honestly dont know how my boyfriend would have coped with a non-nerd, because he needs to talk about games several times a day.
But you cant base your whole relationship on having one common interest, so me just being a nerd wouldnt have been enough. (Or I should hope not).
My ex was also a nerd, but that didnt work out.

I love having a guy I can talk about games with, and a guy who doesnt treat me like a weirdo. Or a unicorn.

 

[Drave]

Relationship? what's that?

 

[ms_sunlight]

I have been with a fellow geek for a very, very long time. We're different flavours of geek, though; I'm more computers, SF and manga, he's more music, retro games and international politics.

We met on the internet. Nowadays, that's not remarkable. It was quite unusual back in 1995 though!

 

[Chemical Alia]

Yeah, I guess. I've been in a relationship for years who shares my interest in game. We now both work in game development (different disciplines) and ended up at the same studio. The perceived coolness of that relationship pretty much ends there, though.

 

[Cowabungaa]

To the first discussion point:
Have you, or are you, ever had a relationship with a fellow geek?

Assuming you like to identify yourself with the whole 'geek chic' thing, it always seems to be "the holy grail" for a 'geek guy' to find that 'geek girl' and ride off into the 8-bit sunset on Yoshi.

Nope, sadly not. It's not a holy grail for me as such, it's just that for a relationship to work there should be common ground an understanding. And, well, my geekhood in all it's fascets is a pretty big part of me.

And sadly, the only girls that were just that, or the Nine forbid even liked me for it, were either taken or lived halfway across the world. And it's not like I'm super shy or anything, two months go I actually met a girl in my local comic store and we randomly spent an hour talking about anime, manga and her work as a manga artist. She even gave me her email, but she never really emailed me back. Bad luck I suppose.

So yeah, I'd like to try, but finding such girls has sadly proven to be a really difficult task. Born to be unlucky perhaps, I don't know. I mean, I think I'm at least moderatly attractive, at least a nerd who goes against the stereotype and tries to look his best. It's just that to 'normal' girls, my outlandish interests and sometimes slightly awkward behavior make me a weirdo. Hence why I don't like 'normal' girls.

 

[Doclector]

Never have, never will. The odds are simply astronomically against me.

I'm incredibly ugly and quite a bit mad, So even if someone were to look past my monstrous exterior, they'd only see a crazy person beneath. I have my reasons for being so, but who the hell actually thinks that deeply? We live in a world of recession where even the governments who let banks run around doing as they please are asking why this is happening. The notion of cause and effect is alien to most, but I digress.

Then, even if someone were to like me, the odds are that she won't actually like games, for two reasons, real girl gamers are drowning in a sea of hipster girls who just say they're gamers (nothing wrong with casual gaming, but there's a difference between playing games occasionally, and being a gamer like there's a difference between me playing a game of pitch and putt every few months and being a golfer) and if she really did like games, then she'd be in very, very high demand, thus the odds of her wanting me out of a whole army of elligable (and non eligable, but handsome/rich) men who would gladly become slaves to her every whim to go out with her are about on the same levels as Nathan Fillion riding the queen to the moon to collect the newly finished sequel to eternal darkness from black rock studios' moon base.

And you may not want to confront this, but even if it wasn't me, a hideous madman, but just a regular ol' gamer, even they wouldn't stand a great chance. As hobbies go, gaming is still about as attractive to women as snail keeping.

 

[FamoFunk]

The other half is very much into gaming as well, albeit, 90% of the games we enjoy the other doesn't. The only one we both get along with is RPG's; sometimes it leads to a, "THIS game again" discussion, but nothing serious.

 

[Blackmagic1515]

My ex was a huge nerd. And I loved him to bits for it. I don't think I could date someone who wasn't a nerd. I need someone I can make geek references to and talk to about games/anime/books. Otherwise it would just drive me insane.

 

[Jessabi]

My BF is a geek/nerd/whatever and it's one of the main things that I love about him

 

[Chrono212]

I just love how upbeat everyone seems to be here.

For more discussion value:
Should the way that 'real' gamer girls be treated as if there were just as many of them as guys who game?

 

[Doclector]

I just love how upbeat everyone seems to be here.

For more discussion value:
Should the way that 'real' gamer girls be treated as if there were just as many of them as guys who game?

Should, but they won't. Too many men see it as an ideal.

 

[BloatedGuppy]

I'm a geek. My girlfriend is a geek, we've been together almost seven years. Pretty much everyone in her social circle is a geek, male and female. Half the people I work with are geeks, male and female.

Seriously people, it's not that hard to find people who share your interests. This isn't 1982, you aren't stuck dating the 15 people in your immediate social circle. You have the internet now.

 

[IamQ]

I met my boyfriend on World Of Warcraft, and then we skipped off into the nerdy sunset to live happily ever after.
Well, its worked for nearly three years anyway (living together for most of that time, I dont do purely internet relationships).

I honestly dont know how my boyfriend would have coped with a non-nerd, because he needs to talk about games several times a day.
But you cant base your whole relationship on having one common interest, so me just being a nerd wouldnt have been enough. (Or I should hope not).
My ex was also a nerd, but that didnt work out.

I love having a guy I can talk about games with, and a guy who doesnt treat me like a weirdo. Or a unicorn.

Yeah, I'm sorry, but I'm going to have to disagree on that part. I mean, do you realise how he would treat you if he thought you were a unicorn? You could make him do whatever you want, tempting him with your silver blood that he can drink for eternal life!

OT: Yeah, I got nothing, just wanted to post that.

 

[SonicWaffle]

Should the way that 'real' gamer girls be treated as if there were just as many of them as guys who game?

Depends by who. For the gaming industry, it makes sense to appeal to a primarily male testosterone-fueled demographic because that's where they make a lot of money. Yes, women play games too, we all know that, but appealing to 14-year-old boys with guns and explosions is a proven method.

As for other gamers, I don't see why numbers should make a difference. Should we treat black gamers differently if less black people played games? I'm not sure how I personally would go about doing that anyway. I don't think I treat female gamers any differently than I do males...

 

[SonicWaffle]

I love having a guy I can talk about games with, and a guy who doesnt treat me like a weirdo. Or a unicorn.

At least unicorns get ridden!

[small]Lordy, I'm ashamed of that one, but at least I didn't make a joke about being horny![/small]

 

[madhousezack]

First things first, when i read the title of this thread, the first thing i thought of was a nerdy rendition of the Broadway musical "Guys and Dolls." I might just be the gayest straight man in the world.
As far as relationships go, it doesn't really matter if one is both are nerds, what matters is raw personality. Like if i meet a girl who is a nerd, but is also extremely rude, i'm not going to want a relationship with her. Now if there is a girl who doesn't like nerdy things, but matches my personality, i probably would. Deifying nerd girls just because they play WoW or something is just going to cause more confusion than anything else.

 

[Wolfram23]

I'm of course a gamer and also a computer geek.

I've never dated someone with either of those as main hobbies, unfortunately.

However, my girlfriend of over 2 years is a geek, just in a different way. She's getting a PhD in Cell Biology and she does like tech and science. And makeup and clothes...

I think it would be nice to date a girl who likes games as much as me. My girlfriend only likes Assassins Creed 2/B/R and some old games she played when she was younger lol. I've tried to get her interested in other games but she simply doesn't have the interest *le sigh*

 

[Tips_of_Fingers]

Don't think I've ever been with a "geek". which is weird because I've had relationships with all sorts of girls.

my girlfriend (the one whom I believe is here to stay) is not a geek and never will be. She's intelligent, went to a private school and I guess she would have been a "swat" or "geek" at school because of how hard she worked but she's pretty much just one of those "trendy" people. The kind I usually hate lol.

We're both so opposite in our tastes in everything. The excitement comes from introducing each other to our own likes and finding that we grow to like them too.

Examples: I've been introducing my girfriend to games like Portal 2, Dragon Age: Origins, Donkey Kong Country Returns, Heavy Rain and a whole host of other things. Admittedly, she's not obsessed with games like I am but we can at least sit down and play an hour or two of something together if we want. I've even managed to convince her to delve into (what I deem to be) better literature than she's used to reading. The only thing I will never convert her to is my musical preferences but we've got to have something to disagree on, right??

So yeah...to sum up: I find it exciting to be with someone who doesn't automatically enjoy the same things you do. Seeing their tastes develop thanks to you is bloody magical. And it also works the otehr way around. I've gained a new appreciation for things I never would have considered before I met her...

Thinking about this has made me happy. Thank you OP = D

 

[BreakfastMan]

Yes. Oh wait, by relationship, you mean romantically. Then no, never been in a relationship with someone geeky. Never been in a relationship at all, actually. 18 and never been on a single date with anyone.