New job. Different country.

[Rancid0ffspring]

Soooo, I'm applying for a new job. It's working for a very well respected company that's held in high regard and it's enjoying lots of success at the moment. The pay is SIGNIFICANTLY higher than what I'm currently on and the opportunities to advance within the company would be extraordinary.

No, I won't divulge the company's name and no I won't divulge the pay.

One thing I'm shitting my shorts about is that if I get the job, it'll mean relocating to the Republic of Ireland. Friends, family, my social circle. All of these things I'll be leaving behind. One other thing that's holding me back is a little financial debt but with the pay increase, I'll have that smashed out within a year.

Now this isn't really, REALLY, far for me. I currently live on the outskirts of London & I do have family over in ROI but I've lived in the area I'm in for all my life.

So I guess my question to you Escapists is this: Have you ever relocated for a job & how did you handle the whole affair?

No offence to 'My dad relocated for a job & I had to go along' people, but i'm not interested. i want to know about clean slate people.

 

[Vegosiux]

I'd take the job, but then again I am one of those people who don't have much of a meaningful "social circle". So no, no past experience with it, but I'd take it if it presented itself.

 

[requisitename]

Yes, I have.

The most important thing you can do, if you're used to being a social person, is get involved. Scout it out before you move - find groups with which you share interests. Scope out gyms if you're into that, social clubs like gaming stuff, aficionados of whatever *you're* an aficionado of. This is extremely important. It's the only way to make friends outside of work, really.

Also, when moving for a job, there's a tendency for a lot of people to let the new job consume them to the point where they fail to establish a new social network. This can lead to depression, among other negative consequences. Work is important, but so is establishing a new life, new friends, a new social circle.

Become the you you want to be. No, I'm serious. Are there things about yourself that you don't like? Things that you may want to change but other people resist that change because it's a part of you they know (and ostensibly love)? When you move to a new place away from everyone you know.. you're also moving away from everyone who knows you. It's very freeing to decide that instead of being the one everyone knows for constantly being late, you're going to be on time. No one knows what to expect and it's a great time to change the little things about yourself that you would like to change. Please note that I'm not advocating trying to be someone you're not. It's just that if you've always been a certain way and you no longer want to be that way, people often won't like the fact that you're trying to change it for a multitude of reasons. This is an opportunity to do that.

Finally: Have fun! Explore, meet, greet, live. It's a fantastic opportunity you've got here, do what you can to make the most of it.

 

[baconfist]

You are barely moving at all don't worry about it. You can get new friends anyways. I mean how many friends do you still talk to everyday that you did 10 years ago. They come and go. Get your ass on a boat or a plane and go start your new job, if it sucks you can always go back home.

 

[Crises^]

Where in Ireland is it as I live in Ireland and I could give you some tips on places to go and such

 

[Rancid0ffspring]

You are barely moving at all don't worry about it. You can get new friends anyways. I mean how many friends do you still talk to everyday that you did 10 years ago. They come and go. Get your ass on a boat or a plane and go start your new job, if it sucks you can always go back home.

Believe it or not I have 3 or 4 friends I still regularly socialise with that I knew 10 years ago. Very good friends that would also be willing to come over & visit I should add and of course there's skype.

I'm definitely going for the job I just have some (understandable I hope) apprehensions.

Where in Ireland is it as I live in Ireland and I could give you some tips on places to go and such

The office is somewhere in Galway. Don't know the exact location yet, but this I will research in the near future.