Not living the Student lifestyle

[Svenparty]

Hi I recently started University in Northampton and between flatmates that don't go out much(or dislike me) and friends here either living at home etc. . I'm finding it hard to socialise and enjoy myself in between working, I'm currently trying to just go to events and meet people in bars etc to try and meet ANYBODY but currently I'm finding it difficult. I even joined a poetry club but found that the members were a little close to death.

So I was wondering if anyone had any tips on what to do to make friends and start enjoying myself apart from moving out, getting drunk every night or dropping out. Because I am becoming very introverted from my experiences just writing and painting in between Skyrim.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

Perhaps some sort of sports group? Martial Arts, Soccer, Foorball etc. ALl just depends on what Uni you go to really. The one near me pretty much houses Foreign students so locals rent w/other or friends in houses nereby.

 

[Spandexpanda]

Well most of the societies I joined have things like pub crawls or nights out every couple of weeks so there's usually a chance to meet people. Besides that, isn't that the point of tutorials (other than learning), in that it gives you a chance to socialise and talk with the people from your lectures that you probably otherwise wouldn't speak to?

 

[Svenparty]

Well most of the societies I joined have things like pub crawls or nights out every couple of weeks so there's usually a chance to meet people. Besides that, isn't that the point of tutorials (other than learning), in that it gives you a chance to socialise and talk with the people from your lectures that you probably otherwise wouldn't speak to?

Mainly sports based activities(We are supposed to be an Arts College so I expected better lol) No one in my flat drinks and Tutorials are individual Q and A's.

Thank you both for the advice, I'm going to try and come back after Xmas a happier person but I find most people I talk to about this dissatisfaction and depression say things such as:

"I'm Sure things will pick up"

"Look to the future"

Repeat Ad Infinitum ^

 

[Spandexpanda]

Mainly sports based activities(We are supposed to be an Arts College so I expected better lol) No one in my flat drinks and Tutorials are individual Q and A's.

Thank you both for the advice, I'm going to try and come back after Xmas a happier person but I find most people I talk to about this dissatisfaction and depression say things such as:

"I'm Sure things will pick up"

"Look to the future"

Repeat Ad Infinitum ^

The reason most people say that is because it's usually true, in my experience at least. I'm in first year too, and maybe you could call it good fortune but I've been bundled in with a good group of people, although relatively speaking, they're probably the people I go out with least. I have many new friends from different parts of the university now, and I met most of them through mutual friends. I guess you could try joining a sport that's not too strenuous and then see if you can find any like minded people? Ultimate frisbee for example? I've made a good few mates just going to the smoking area in our union, walking up to strangers and initiating conversation. Everybody's in the same boat, I'm sure there's a few in your situation too.

 

[Giftfromme]

Just start doing Game! And you can meet tons of randoms that way.

 

[DoW Lowen]

It's all really based on what your expectancy of a student life is really. I finished two degrees at the University of Western Sydney and making friends came naturally.

In my experience, you shouldn't force it. I tried making friends but going out of my way to talk to people, I made friends but none of them really panned out and I grew apart from them because I didn't find them interesting. Eventually and randomly I met people in my class, we both needed partners for a group presentation and we both had a lot in common and we've been best buds ever since, being sure to choose the same classes and meeting up every week for games night. The truth is, if two people are compatible then they'll be like magnets, their company will be irresistible to you and vice versa. I hovered from groups of people for two years and eventually settled with a few of the same people.

There is someone for everyone.

 

[thejdcole]

A lot of what I had to say when i read your initial comment has been said already, however one thing I will add is this.

I managed to make a lot of my now close friends from uni at music societies. I know you said about the poetry society not really working out but don't let that put you off trying others. Music is an especially great way for people to bond.

I'm generalising here, but if two people like the same music, they may also share other interests. Like my now best uni friend I met at this music soc. but actually we nearly have everything in common.

If not a music soc. then just another society, even if you don't think you have another interest, why not just go to a society and see if you like what they have to offer, even if you don't really like it, you will still meet more people.