Not wanting to go to Prom
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Don't go if you don't want to go. However, I tend to think it's a good excuse to get out, if you need one. Nerds should still see the outside world now and then... Not all social conventions are the Devil like Foosball.
As for my Prom, in the US we only had one prom, but I think Juniors could go. We had many other dances. My friends and I used it as an excuse to get tuxes, rent a limo, go to a nice restaurant, and get our dates all fancied up. The prom itself was ok, I don't really dance.. but I made it something and we have memories..
A side note, though prom is for you, parents, do like to see their kids go through certain things.. so don't get too mad at them..
As for my Prom, in the US we only had one prom, but I think Juniors could go. We had many other dances. My friends and I used it as an excuse to get tuxes, rent a limo, go to a nice restaurant, and get our dates all fancied up. The prom itself was ok, I don't really dance.. but I made it something and we have memories..
A side note, though prom is for you, parents, do like to see their kids go through certain things.. so don't get too mad at them..
If you think there is a reasonable chance of having fun, go for it. You only get one shot to go to "your" prom.
My prom was my first date. I had a blast with my friends, and my date went so well that we started a relationship that lasted the whole summer.
My prom was my first date. I had a blast with my friends, and my date went so well that we started a relationship that lasted the whole summer.
The only good things about Prom are the food, the trip to the shore afterward, and getting to see chicks freak out when they're seen wearing the same dress. If you really don't want to go, don't. It's not worth spending upwards of £193 ($300 comparison) or so just for one night of standing around and talking to friends, possibly dancing or just waiting for the festivities to be over. Prom isn't for everyone, even though over here in America, Prom is like the pinnacle of High School activities, but for me it was just an over-priced school dance that only cheerleaders, American football players, and parents enjoyed. If anything you'd probably be happier just spending that night with your buddies over the Internet or something. At least you'd save a lot of money and a won't have to suffer from a headache the next morning.
Didn't go, probably won't go to the party when I finish college(we do that here, sadly.) mother thinks it's ridiculous, father died but would probably agree with me so if you don't want to go, don't. It's really a waste of time unless you have some good friends to spend time with and even then going out with them somewhere else would probably be better.
How can you dislike suits though?! Suits are awesome!
How can you dislike suits though?! Suits are awesome!
I didn't go to my prom. In fact, the only school dance I ever went to was a Halloween dance in 4th grade, and all the "loud music" spazzed me out so hard I called my mom up to come get me after an hour, and cried the whole time. Which, incidentally, was also how I reacted at the only concert I ever went to (Bryan Addams, for the record).
I spent my prom night doing push ups and sit-ups in my recruiter's office for a pre-army PT test, and I turned out just fine! ^_^
Don't worry, we can't all be Nancy Drew.
I spent my prom night doing push ups and sit-ups in my recruiter's office for a pre-army PT test, and I turned out just fine! ^_^
Don't worry, we can't all be Nancy Drew.
Meh. I didn't go to my prom. I had one girl trying to convince me to go, but other than that none of my friends went. It's not something I regret. I never really got the notion that it was a "once in a lifetime" event. There are thousands of "once in a lifetime" events I could choose to be a part of, so I'm not exactly broken up about missing one. Luckily my parents and family know me quite well enough to have realized ahead of time that I had no interest in going, so there wasn't any pressure from them.
But yea, proms aren't for everyone, dude. There will always be another chance to dance if you want to in the future. Also, "elementary school" in America is for 6-10 year old kids, so when I first read your post I pictured a bunch of kids dancing, and I also wondered why someone so young has an account on the Escapist.
But yea, proms aren't for everyone, dude. There will always be another chance to dance if you want to in the future. Also, "elementary school" in America is for 6-10 year old kids, so when I first read your post I pictured a bunch of kids dancing, and I also wondered why someone so young has an account on the Escapist.
You should go.
If you're that conflicted that you feel the need to get the opinions of hundreds of strangers then just do it. You are fearful of what other people think, so please all your friends/family, fit into society and go to 'prom.' It will be a single night and like 5-10 hours depending. You'll survive.
If you're that conflicted that you feel the need to get the opinions of hundreds of strangers then just do it. You are fearful of what other people think, so please all your friends/family, fit into society and go to 'prom.' It will be a single night and like 5-10 hours depending. You'll survive.
#yolo.
go. who knows you might get some action at the end of the night. its one night. be cool about the situation.
if you still can;t decide. trust the coin.
go. who knows you might get some action at the end of the night. its one night. be cool about the situation.
if you still can;t decide. trust the coin.
My school didn't have a prom. It wasn't a well-to-do school, to the point where it's actually not still standing. A wrecking ball was taken to it a couple of years after I left.
I doubt that people are as intolerant as you make them out to be. The problem is likely that you're 16 and that's why nobody respects your opinion.
I doubt that people are as intolerant as you make them out to be. The problem is likely that you're 16 and that's why nobody respects your opinion.
we had a senior banquete, which is kinda like a mini-prom. I got bored of that scene real fast and sat in the lobby the whole night playing tetris on my cell phone and listening to other people ***** about how they didn't win their awards... which was funny cause one of them was a jocky-athletic dude.
It was also annoying because when it came time to delve out the awards, I went back in because I was curious to see who won what but I stood at the back of crowd just trying to be a wall flower. I had this douchebag and another teacher attempting to not make me feel bad for not winning anything, like they just assumed that was the reason I was holding back the fuckers. Nah man, just wanted to people watch. I was shocked to see the majority of the people who won things, I didn't even know who they were.
so when prom rolled around, like I wanted to go but I remembered what a boring time that was. I wasn't into the whole dancing thing, I don't stay up to date with musical tastes. If I had a date at the time, I probably would of went to be honest, but I didn't and I wasn't going to spend the cash just for the sake of going. Ended up hanging out with my friends and playing Xbox and Air Hockey. Good night.
It was also annoying because when it came time to delve out the awards, I went back in because I was curious to see who won what but I stood at the back of crowd just trying to be a wall flower. I had this douchebag and another teacher attempting to not make me feel bad for not winning anything, like they just assumed that was the reason I was holding back the fuckers. Nah man, just wanted to people watch. I was shocked to see the majority of the people who won things, I didn't even know who they were.
so when prom rolled around, like I wanted to go but I remembered what a boring time that was. I wasn't into the whole dancing thing, I don't stay up to date with musical tastes. If I had a date at the time, I probably would of went to be honest, but I didn't and I wasn't going to spend the cash just for the sake of going. Ended up hanging out with my friends and playing Xbox and Air Hockey. Good night.
I don't know if it's passed or whatever, but I can give you my experience 7 years out from the fact now.Akichi Daikashima said:
I skipped my High School Senior Prom because I didn't want to go. I knew that it was going to be weird and uncomfortable. I didn't like get dressed up, I didn't want to go through asking someone, and I knew that I couldn't get away with asking someone who I wanted and I'd have to settle for someone I didn't. I knew that it would be a lot of awkward socializing and social pressure. I thought that it was bullshit.
So: I skipped. I actually recruited a pretty solid contingent of Nerds to LAN all day instead of go to Prom, most were seniors but we hung out with some undernerds in the Sophomore and Freshman classes as well. We played a bunch of Counter Strike and DotA, and I think in total I spent like $50 on red bull and pizza instead of the small fortune people spend nowadays on Prom. I didn't regret the decision at all at the time.
The rest of the school year, I generally heard classmates complain about their prom experience. The girls would have worn a different dress, or someone would have asked someone else, or this person wouldn't have spent so much. I heard some horror stories about absolutely ruined nights and situations that probably bordered on rape. I didn't regret the decision at all for the rest of High School.
In college/university, I heard even more people talk about their lackluster prom experiences.
So, here I am. 25, working full time, and every time someone mentions Prom (which isn't all that often now), I still can't find it in me to be even a little sad that I dodged the bullet.
As far as anyone who wants to argue that it's a rite of passage: I've made the passage without the rite and turned out just fine. So it isn't. As far as it being a milestone, you cans till mark it in your life in your own way without making it a shit experience: i.e., LAN party.
As far as being boring, no. There are a lot better parties to go to. Prom is too stuffy and weird and there's too many expectations and build up for it to possibly be fun, unless everything goes perfectly, which having talked to people, seems like those are the minority.
I absolutely plan to encourage my own kids to skip if they want to.
Pretty much as 99% of people here have said - if you're not interest, don't go. I didn't go to my Year 11 prom, but I did go to my sixth form. It was so unbelievably boring. I left after an hour. I disliked pretty much everybody there, especially as my few friends (friends at the time, mind you - I'm civil to, but not friends with, anybody I went to school with) pulled out last minute.
I hated the music, hated the food, hated and the company and LOATHED that I had to spend £30 to get in. I refused to pay for a limo too, instead choosing to walk up there. The only thing I saved money on was the tuxido, because I was heavily involved with the local theatre and so just borrowed one from them.
I hated the music, hated the food, hated and the company and LOATHED that I had to spend £30 to get in. I refused to pay for a limo too, instead choosing to walk up there. The only thing I saved money on was the tuxido, because I was heavily involved with the local theatre and so just borrowed one from them.
Never trust the coin. The coin is out there to ruin you, and it plays so coy about it. I always flip a coin, then take the opposite. That flat shiney liar isn't getting the better of ME!cricketer15 said:
I highly recommend going, just head in with the right mindset and not a single care in the world (seriously, if there's one night to be courageous, its prom night)and enjoy yourself with your friends. Hell if you don't have a date who cares? That just means you have the freedom to go and ask any girl you fancy for a dance without having to worry about anything (unless she's in a serious relationship, be sure to avoid those girls). My friend and I were the only ones without a date at our prom and we still made it one heck of a night, I danced the night away with my crush for instance.
Just think about it this way, prom is only one single night and its most probably only going to happen once in your lifetime so you might as well go and have a story to tell about how bad\good it was instead of nothing.
Just think about it this way, prom is only one single night and its most probably only going to happen once in your lifetime so you might as well go and have a story to tell about how bad\good it was instead of nothing.
You should do what I did and arrange an expedition to Africa that conveniently takes place when prom is. It may have been a little drastic, but at least no one could accuse me of being "anti-social".
I thought about going to my high school prom but that died the moment the details came out.
It would be on a boat.
You had to drive 2-4 hours to get to the pier it was on, if the traffic was decent.
The class president said that it was for her, not for the school. Essentially she hijacked the prom stuff to make it her own party.
Everyone around me(classmates and slight acquaintances) kept saying how there will be alcohol and drugs, which put me off.
Seriously, if I was to go to a prom, it was not to babysit stupidity. And the day after? Everyone kept talking about how stupid and boring it was. Were my parents happy that I didn't go? Of course not. Am I happy I didn't go? Hell yeah I am. A glorified party babysitting wasted people, unable to leave because the boat sailed the ocean for a few hours? No thank you.
It would be on a boat.
You had to drive 2-4 hours to get to the pier it was on, if the traffic was decent.
The class president said that it was for her, not for the school. Essentially she hijacked the prom stuff to make it her own party.
Everyone around me(classmates and slight acquaintances) kept saying how there will be alcohol and drugs, which put me off.
Seriously, if I was to go to a prom, it was not to babysit stupidity. And the day after? Everyone kept talking about how stupid and boring it was. Were my parents happy that I didn't go? Of course not. Am I happy I didn't go? Hell yeah I am. A glorified party babysitting wasted people, unable to leave because the boat sailed the ocean for a few hours? No thank you.
Indeed, as it has been numerously pointed out, if you do not wish to attend such an event, then don't. It is understandable that you would feel the need to pose such a question, since I know all too well how much ridiculous peer pressure there is around the whole ordeal.
'One such night in your whole life' they said, 'Dude, Alcohol' they tried to persuade me, but I found myself, rather unfortunately might I add, at too many parties similar to this one to be fooled by their trickery. I'm sure there are plenty of good people who enjoyed their prom, but it was simply not for me, and if you feel that way as well, simply spend the night doing whatever you like doing, rather than going somewhere you're certain you are not going to have a good time.
'One such night in your whole life' they said, 'Dude, Alcohol' they tried to persuade me, but I found myself, rather unfortunately might I add, at too many parties similar to this one to be fooled by their trickery. I'm sure there are plenty of good people who enjoyed their prom, but it was simply not for me, and if you feel that way as well, simply spend the night doing whatever you like doing, rather than going somewhere you're certain you are not going to have a good time.