littlealicewhite said:
Mimsofthedawg said:
.................... *goes on for eternity like that*...
Why wouldn't you go get help? Why would that effect you so badly? Why didn't the security guard do SOMETHING (even if it was to offer solace)? Why wasn't there a better investigation where you could get a sketch of the dude or security photage? just WHY?!
To be honest, a part of this sounds fishy to me. Almost like the girl is fabricating the whole thing. BUT I ONLY SAY THAT BECAUSE... well... Who just walks away after a creepy dude puts his dick on you? NO NO, who let's themselves be in that situation?
I'm sure that there's a bunch of people who could jump all over me for what I just said. But honestly? It's really a whole lot less about what I just said, and a whole lot more of "WHY?!" This whole thing's just bizarre.
I was in a similar situation once. My mom had to force me to report it, because I just wanted to forget about it.
Something like that, no matter how small, freaks you out internally. For *years* afterward, I went out of my way to avoid the place it happened, disrupting my daily schedule. I can't explain why, there was no logical reason. I just didn't want to remember or deal with it anymore. I wanted to stop being traumatized and get on with my life.
It's not a matter of 'letting' yourself be in that situation. It just happens. Sometimes so fast it's only a half-hour later that you snap out of your shock to realize what happened.
So, dude gets drunk and does something inappropriate. Girl gets understandably upset and informs security. Security does nothing, and girl is subject to accusations of lying. I want to be shocked and disgusted, but I can't even be surprised by it anymore.
OH MY EFFEN BUDDHA GOD FROM SATANIC HELL, I WAS NOT ACCUSING HER OF LYING!
I'm just going to rage quit these forums. This is absurd.
On a FORUM, which she probably is not apart of, but even if she was, I was not saying it directly to her, I made mention that the facts of her story seem odd, as though they don't add up. Good lord do I also know the trauma of sexual assault. it took my current gf YEARS before she told me what happened to her once, and it has totally effected her in the worst way possible. several ex gf's, my sister, best friends, etc. etc. etc. Go down the line. I've had friends and have helped them through it. I'm not a misogynistic ass of a guy that just doesn't get it. That's not the point. I feel sorry for her. I would give anything to help, and believe me my heart goes out to her and if I met her face to face I would comfort her, be disgusted, and want to offer my support.
But these things just don't add up completely. Venues like that are FULL of security. the guards there aren't rent a cops, they're professionally trained to deal specifically with situations like that, ESPECIALLY situations like that. Given the nature of the event, with a good sketch, etc. it would probably be easy to track the guy down. No security guard would jsut "shrug". Never mind the fact that many events like that are invite only, with hardly any breathing room. The very notion she was in a room alone with a guy like that during an event that was would have been so packed is odd. I can go on. All I'm saying is that those things don't entirely add up. Then there's the fact that she went to twitter. So you're telling me that you wanted to just forget it, pretend it never even happened etc., right? I'd expect that. That's what normal people do. Normal people avoid the subject. They don't go blabbering about it to the entire world. I'm not saying that normal people SHOULD avoid it (it's not my place to say if they should or shouldn't). It's that, as I said, my gf herself couldn't tell me she had been raped by her sister because of how embarassed she was. I can't fathom her expressing that on her twitter account.
At this point I don't even care. And I'm just so pist that people would attack me for wanting to apply some logic to this situation. And I also don't know why I'm even bothering to reply. People are going to read what they want, and clearly it's going to be nothing good. I'm just so sick of how judgemental people are. How defensive they are. They drop true care and compassion at the door for petty causes and politics, talking a good talk but never truly acting in upstanding ways. This is bull shit. Reply if you want. I'm hitting hte delete button when it hits my inbox.