Nudge, nudge, wink, wink, say-no-more...

[Jonluw]

Well, I'm disturbingly comfortable talking about it with at least one of my female friends. I think talking about it can be entertaining, and I'm not getting any, so your theory holds true for me at least.

It wouldn't be strange for people to care more (and consequently talk more) about sex the less they're getting.

People certainly care more about food when they aren't getting any.

 

[pirate64]

I think that the taboo around talking about sex is defintly slowly fading but I also would say that your right in saying that,genrally, the people who talk or boast the most about sex are the ones getting the least of it, or in my experience, are getting it but not in a relationship e.g. one night stands.

I don't believe that the decline of the taboo about sex is a bad thing at all though an example of this is in Holland (I'm pretty sure but don't hold me to it being Holland) where sex is quite openly talked about with teens and parents and they have one of the lowest teenage pregnancy rates in europe.

I myself don't feel uncomfortable talking about it at all really, I don't boast or talk about it alot, but I don't find anything wrong about talking about it. and tbh I wouldn't boast about it in college with mates mostly out of respect for my GF.

 

[Gildan Bladeborn]

I never discuss my sex life for the simple reason that I don't, strictly speaking, have one - I have the polar inverse of a sex life. So I discuss that instead, ha ha! But seriously, I find it rather ridiculous that there's this perception that admitting you aren't sexually active (or have never had sex at all) is something to be ashamed of, hence why I generally chime in when this sort of topic is broached - celibacy is nothing to be ashamed of, and if anyone ever tells you differently you are dealing with a jerk. Knowledge is power!

What the hell Captcha time!
The images below are the first two phrases that the Captcha system presented me with when I started typing this post.

I would really like to know how I am expected to type either of those phrases on a standard US keyboard - last time I looked there was a definite shortage of umlauts, and I don't even know what the hell that second "word" in the first phrase is supposed to be, let alone how one would type it. This system is insane!

 

[LostTimeLady]

I never discuss my sex life for the simple reason that I don't, strictly speaking, have one - I have the polar inverse of a sex life. So I discuss that instead, ha ha! But seriously, I find it rather ridiculous that there's this perception that admitting you aren't sexually active (or have never had sex at all) is something to be ashamed of, hence why I generally chime in when this sort of topic is broached - celibacy is nothing to be ashamed of, and if anyone ever tells you differently you are dealing with a jerk. Knowledge is power!

I agree with you that celibacy these days is treated as a shameful thing which is, ummm, a shame.

Just as people no longer have a problem with people who have sex before marrage/in a committed partnership/outside of a relationship/one night stand etc etc so too should people not have a problem with those indivduals that choose to not partake for what ever reason.

I find it unfair that some people (a voical minority, let's be fair) turn around to indivduals who don't have sex and make out as if they're sad or lack a social life or knowledge of reality.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

I never discuss my sex life for the simple reason that I don't, strictly speaking, have one - I have the polar inverse of a sex life. So I discuss that instead, ha ha! But seriously, I find it rather ridiculous that there's this perception that admitting you aren't sexually active (or have never had sex at all) is something to be ashamed of, hence why I generally chime in when this sort of topic is broached - celibacy is nothing to be ashamed of, and if anyone ever tells you differently you are dealing with a jerk. Knowledge is power!

There's nothing wrong with celibacy, and I would never make fun of anyone for choosing to be celibate. It is nothing to be ashamed of.

I would also add that it is nothing to be proud of. It is a personal choice. Like being a Vegetarian. Which is also nothing to be proud of, but also nothing to be ashamed of.

Although I won't promise not to make fun of Vegans. There are limits to my self control.

I, personally, would be unhappy with celibacy, just like I'd be unhappy giving up chicken.

 

[Dogstile]

I noticed now change in the amount I talk about sex with the amount of sex I was getting at the time, other than the fact that I didn't see my friends as much, because I was otherwise pre-occupied

 

[InnerRebellion]

I don't talk about it very often, but I think that's because I'm rarely ever aroused. At least, I hope so.

However, I have one friend that I think I'd say yes without missing a beat if she asked if I wanted a go with her. Hmm. Now how exactly does one say that to a friend? "Oh yes, I'd quite like to have sex with you." Oh no, I don't plan on telling her at all; I'm only a freshman, of course.

I rarely think about sex, but the times I do, I really wonder what the devil is wrong with me.

 

[CrashBang]

I'd definitely agree that those who barely get sex at all talk about it a lot. I know a guy who's got a lot of social and emotional problems (i.e. he's a giant tool) and I know for a fact that he's a virgin, yet he says things like "the best thing to do, lads, is to get out before she wakes up! Aaaahahaha" what an arse
I've got another friend who jokes about my virginity growing back because I've not had sex in six months and I'm fine to admit that. He makes these jokes because he is incredibly insecure and lonely, himself. It's just the way people who are insecure work

 

[theevilsanta]

Meh. People in a committed relationship are often hesitant to talk about sex because, you know, they're revealing things about their partner as well. Single people with a crazy sex life tend to talk a lot and have great stories!

I'm in a committed relationship and I'm happy to talk about sex anonymously on the internet, though not in graphic detail on This site. As another poster said, I like to talk about things I love. And I love sex.

 

[Programmed_For_Damage]

A nudge is as good as a wink to a blind bat eh?

While I personally have no real issue talking about sex, I find that amongst most groups of people it turns into a subtle game of one-upsmanship.

First person - "I had sex with an absolute hottie last night"
Second person - "Yeah me to. I made her cum hard"
Third person - "Yeah I know, the chick I was with came three times. It was awesome"

However given that sex has become all-pervasive in our culture I'd rather not hear about peoples' sex lives. Leave some of the mystique please; it adds to the appeal.

 

[awmperry]

I've never enjoyed talking about sex, and I tend to avoid it in most company if I can.

I'm also married, and my wife is pregnant with our first child. I'm approaching 29, and two years ago I had never had a girlfriend, or kiss, and certainly not sex.

Now I talk about it with my wife without difficulty. I still don't like talking to anyone else about it, though.

EDIT:

What the hell Captcha time!
I would really like to know how I am expected to type either of those phrases on a standard US keyboard - last time I looked there was a definite shortage of umlauts, and I don't even know what the hell that second "word" in the first phrase is supposed to be, let alone how one would type it. This system is insane!

Being half Swedish, with many years' experience of writing in Swedish on UK keyboards, I can help. For ö, you hold ALT while (on the numpad) keying in 0246. Useful? Well, now probably not. But perhaps interesting.

OK, maybe not that either.

 

[Byere]

I think George Carlin put it best.

It's strange that it's a bad thing to talk about f*cking in mixed company when that's where it happens most.

Personally, I agree with the point that those who think about it most get it the least... (no need to guess why I agree >.<)

 

[Sir_Auron_the_Badass]

People that know me say I'm really mature about the subject, but that's not really true (not that I start giggling about it every time it's mentioned). I just feel a bit awkward talking about this kind of thing openly. In fact, I don't really, I just stay quiet while the rest of the people in the group go on about it, while I try not to feel uncomfortable. It's not because I'm a prude on the subject, it's probably because I've never been in a relationship and that I was raised by semi-prudes that tried to steer clear of the topic (as well as dating in general) as much as they could; I got "the talk" from my dad last year, and it was half-assed to say the least, plus a fair bit late considering that I'm 20... That influence for so much time has yet to completely wash off me, but it helps that I get exposed to the topic more and more so I can actually start feeling comfortable chatting about sex.

 

[blue heartless]

I keep things pretty close to the chest when it comes to sex. (Bad jokes are still awesome.)

Sex isn't a touchy subject for me, since I am perfectly willing to help air out all the myths to those who are new at it (and maybe give some tips) but I wouldn't go into graphic detail.

Maybe a foggy description but that's as far as I would take it.

 

[The .50 Caliber Cow]

I keep things pretty close to the chest when it comes to sex. (Bad jokes are still awesome.)

I applaud you.

OT: I can talk about it but I'd rather not unless I'm really close to the person in question.

[sub]Moo...[/sub]

 

[Sonicron]

What the hell Captcha time!
The images below are the first two phrases that the Captcha system presented me with when I started typing this post.

I would really like to know how I am expected to type either of those phrases on a standard US keyboard - last time I looked there was a definite shortage of umlauts, and I don't even know what the hell that second "word" in the first phrase is supposed to be, let alone how one would type it. This system is insane!

What a weird coincidence. I was in Göttingen just last week.

On subject, sex as a conversation topic is gradually losing its stigma because society is being over-exposed to it and the act itself appears so much less private than it once was; When I was a kid, you'd maybe get a glimpse or two upon finding a 'dirty magazine' lying around somewhere, but due to the accessability of internet porn, nowadays people of pretty much all ages have grown accustomed to and have familiarized themselves with sexual conduct of an increasingly broad and curious nature.
Basically, it's a trade-off: Creeping moral decay (can't believe I of all people am using that expression) for increased enlightenment on a fairly closeted topic.

 

[InfiniteSingularity]

I think it is becoming more acceptable, and it should be. While what happens behind closed doors is of course in the confidence of those who take part, and should not be the business of anyone else, there's no reason that discussion of sex should have a massive taboo on it. It's natural, deal with it.

The only person I don't like talking to about it is my girlfriend, but that's because we're still a bit...y'know, virgin

 

[Biosophilogical]

Sex talk doesn't bother me. It is the context/undertone that does. If people are talking about sex in a purely physical way with no romantic intent (obviously teenage guys do this a lot, but I can usually tell the difference between 'putting on an act' and 'being a sex-hounding pig'), it tends to make me uncomfortable on a physical and emotional level. If they are talking about sex with a romantic/loving/emotional tone (even just a subtle one that they are trying to hide), then I tend to be either for it or neutral.

 

[Hinoema]

I think when you talk about sex, context is important. When the talk is only about feeding the ego and reinforcing unhealthy misconceptions (partners as conquests or objects, alternate sexualities as lesser or bad, alternate expression as cultural or social defiance, etc.) that talk can be done without, unless the discussion is about what's wrong with it. When it's mature, sensible talk about sex as a normal (and enjoyable) function for intimacy, enjoyment, mindful experimentation or whatever, then bring it on.

ETA: *looks up* Oh, hay, comment twin.