Numb Feelings

[NotLooking.Trips]

So I've come to realize I cant feel shit for anyone
I have had two past releationships
One of 4 years which ended in me kicking that loser out of my house
Next a kinda traumatizing relationship where this guy was a gang/druggy/trouble
Luckily I got outta that one 3 months later

I've been single 2 years now and I finaly meet someone who likes me a lot. Kinda obsessive over me tho and I tried to open my heart and be nice but after a while it just became annoying to have someone pestering me everyday (2-4 texts a day)

Even tho it hurt I told this guy to stfu and leave me alone. Now I am wondering wtf is wrong with me, is it me? Why do I reject feeling something, anything... or is it them and that I just keep meeting the wrong type of guys

I could just be a spoiled *****; I do have a stable good job; two vehicles; rent and in a few years probably shoot for a house

I do expect men I am involved with to be at my level or higher

 

[Calibanbutcher]

1. This would be an excellent topic for the Advice Forum, which, incidentally, also needs love.

2. It miight just be that you kinda keep meeting the wrong guys, and apparently the guy that did fall for you left you somewhat untouched, which is a-ok, seeing as no-one is obligated to feel anything towards anyone.

My "advice": If you WANT a relationship, put yourself out there, try to approach the guys that interest you and shoot down the ones that don't (politely of course).

 

[NBSRDan]

Sounds like for whatever reason you are choosing men that are not right for you. You're either accepting too easily the first one to show interest in you, or your picker is off. In the latter case, you should seek out men that you are NOT extremely (non-physically) attracted to.

While less likely based on the description, it also seems to me possible that you are asexual, or are more attracted to women and haven't realized/accepted it yet.

 

[Genericjim101]

Yeah, it sounds like you're choosing the wrong kind of person for you. But kudos on the career accomplishments!

If 2-4 texts a day is too much you may want to assess how much you like people XD