Ok, need to bounce something off some people I don't know lol

[MasterOfWorlds]

I have sort of the same problem, only instead of my gf getting on to me, it's some of my friends. I've changed a little bit, but mostly because I've learned the value of diplomacy and not being super blunt about everything. Sometimes it's good to be blunt, but sometimes you need to finesse your way around a topic or two.

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[InfiniteSingularity]

Ok, yes this is a relationship thread. Anyways me and my girlfriend had a fight over the way I talk, as in it sounds mean or rude from time to time and makes he feel stupid as I talk intelligently and have a habit of saying random facts about something that may be the topic we are talking about. I've tried to not sound mean or rude but when I talk it don't sound mean or rude to me. I also talk direct and don't candy coat things when I say them. So the question is what would you do or do you think that she has a point and if so why?

I totally understand everything you are saying, I used to be like that. She sort of has a point, but then again, it's who you are, don't try to hide it for someone. She needs to be prepared to deal with it as much as she expects you to change. It has to work both ways

 

[Kavic86]

Yeah thanks a lot for the input people its helped me out a lot. Many of the things I've been thinking were mentioned here. Needless to say I've broke up with her and it was a mutual break up as I don't want to be someone I'm not. I can understand changing a little bit but a total change of personality and the way I act is not what I want to do. I don't feel like having to stop and think every time I'm going to say something and try to figure out if its going to piss her off or what and that what I've been doing for the past month or two. Its really not worth all the hassle in my opinion, but thanks a lot people. The good thing is I did get something out of the relationship that has helped me grow as a person.

As for keeping the thread alive or not its up to you all. If anyone else wants to hijack and use this thread as a means to bounce ideas or anything about relationships around with other people by all means do so. Other wise /thread, and have a nice day.

 

[Byere]

In all honesty, I have to say that I have a problem when peope use long words when a miniscule selection would be sufficient.

More seriously, if you're being annoying with it, slow it down, try not to do it too often, etc. If she still bitches at you after that, you may have to ask yourself if you're happy with someone complaining about who you are.

 

[Verlander]

If your idea of "straight talking" and "not candy coating" things is to insult and speak aggressively about subjects that have emotional relevance to your girlfriend/friends, then you are a dick. End of. On the internet they are generally known as trolls. In real life they are known as arseholes. Beware that you are not one.

Also look into the way that you interject your "facts". Unless you are in a direct discussion about a subject, and not just throwing them in when she's trying to talk to you, or discuss her point of view, then they are unnecessary and rude.

Honestly, the art of conversation and life-experience communication is so bad nowadays.