OkCupid Tumblrs

[MajorTomServo]

There are many things on the internet that make me rage, and a few that make my blood boil. One such trend is OkCupid Tumblrs. Blogs such as Fedoras of OKC, [http://fedorasofokc.tumblr.com/] OKC Gold Mine, [http://okcgoldmine.com/] and formerly Nice Guys of OKC (before they were shut down) like to post pics of random people (98% men) and show off what dicks/losers they are to the delight of hipster girls everywhere.

It just pisses me off so much. These are lonely people putting themselves in a very vulnerable place, hoping to find someone to spend time with. Now, you have to worry about someone taking a screencap and posting it up for the whole world to laugh at.

Some of them are like, "Damn, what a creep," but most are like "LOOK AT THIS GUY, HE SAYS HE WOULDN'T WANT TO DATE A GIRL WHO'S SLEPT WITH OVER 100 MEN. WHAT AN ASSHOLE."

The worst part is when they try to hide behind the cover of feminism. They rail against "slut-shaming," "fat-shaming," and enjoying offensive jokes, because they don't think people should be judged by others for the way they choose to live their lives. And they do this by... publicly humiliating people for the way they choose to live their lives.

It just makes me so very angry. Whenever some girl on my feed reblogs one of their posts, it ruins my day a little.

 

[DevilWithaHalo]

I'd suggest starting the same for them. You don't have to look very hard to find crazy people anywhere.

Of course you'll have to defend yourself against accusations of misogyny, but that's par for the course. Simply tell them you'll stop when they do.

Edit - to be fair, I went through some and found quite a few women on their too, so it's not *entirely* one sided.

 

[General Twinkletoes]

Boots said it pretty well. With the questions about leg shaving or amount of sex, it's not about which you like more. It's about whether women have an obligation to keep your legs shaved, or whether a woman who has lots of sex is a bad person. It's not a question of "Would you date someone who does this". Pretty dickish to say someone who enjoys sex, or doesn't feel the need to make sure random people like their legs is a bad person.

Not to mention, a lot of those people are really awful human beings.

Spoiler: Like these people. Racism, rape, and an ego larger than the sun.

Besides, they are just taking pictures and information that is meant to be looked at. They're not looking up shameful videos or posting anything that the person would rather keep private. That said, I still don't like the blogs too much. They're unnecessarily harsh sometimes, and some of the things they mock people for are stupid, like for being a brony.

 

[Realitycrash]

Not to mention, a lot of those people are really awful human beings.

You said it, but there's still mocking people for their looks. And that isn't alright.


Edit: And their political views.

 

[General Twinkletoes]

Not to mention, a lot of those people are really awful human beings.

You said it, but there's still mocking people for their looks. And that isn't alright.

Well, fashion sense, but I get what you mean.

 

[Realitycrash]

Not to mention, a lot of those people are really awful human beings.

You said it, but there's still mocking people for their looks. And that isn't alright.

Well, fashion sense, but I get what you mean.

I also found this:
"- have you ever had emails over this????? omg i think i'm being sued
niceguysofokc-deactivated201301

- yes actually tumblr took one of my photos down cuz one of the fedoras complained about him being on my blog :c i hope u dont get sued we arent rly breaking the law??"

I am fairly certain that slander is considered breaking the law, and I am sure SOMEONE of all the men posted have a case for it.

 

[General Twinkletoes]

Not to mention, a lot of those people are really awful human beings.

You said it, but there's still mocking people for their looks. And that isn't alright.

Well, fashion sense, but I get what you mean.

I also found this:
"- have you ever had emails over this????? omg i think i'm being sued
niceguysofokc-deactivated201301

- yes actually tumblr took one of my photos down cuz one of the fedoras complained about him being on my blog :c i hope u dont get sued we arent rly breaking the law??"

I am fairly certain that slander is considered breaking the law, and I am sure SOMEONE of all the men posted have a case for it.

They aren't going to get sued over it or anything, but tumblr can take the blog down. They evidently don't have a very good case though, because the other 2 are still up, and I know they've both got tons of complaints.

I think half the reason niceguysofokc stopped was because the owner got bored, or stopped for some other reason. She left and was replaced by some other people for about a day before the thing stopped for good. It takes a lot to shut some places down. Think of how long places like reddit.com/r/creepshots[footnote]A place to post revealing pictures of unsuspecting, often underage women in public to fap over[/footnote] and r/jailbait[footnote]Similar, but for exclusively underage women[/footnote] stayed around. They're 10x worse than this, but it took a long time to take them down.

 

[BreakfastMan]

So... Basically, they are doing what many here did with the "I need feminism" pictures in that massive thread, but are using dating site info instead. Rage time? Don't really see a problem here. :\

 

[lechat]

anyone notice all (that i seen) posts are guys and feel this is just a couple of pissed off jaded women or guys trying to make themselves look better?

seriously i don't get the point of half of these. most are just as simple as "i don't date outside my race" " i disagree with abortion" or "i'm a nice guy. suck my cock"
isn't the whole point of dating surveys to find someone you are compatible with even if that means you are after a white supremacist, antiabortion cock sucking nice guy liker? considering this is a game forum you could pretty easily draw parallels there. if you don't like a game don't play it and maybe someone else will.

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

I'm not certain I see what the foundation of the debate here is. A person can make a statement about preference for a style of grooming and be as justified as someone who doesn't. In other cases, the person says something stupid in a public fashion and people rail against them overlooking the obvious fact that the idiot has performed a valuable public service by demonstrating, publicly, that they are an idiot.

 

[General Twinkletoes]

A person can make a statement about preference for a style of grooming and be as justified as someone who doesn't.

The wording is specifically "obligation". That is different from preference. In other words, it's "do women owe it to you to shave their legs?"

If the question was preference, it'd be totally different. Liking shaved legs isn't a problem, but acting as if women have an obligation to be eyecandy, then that's different. Nobody owes attractiveness to the world. Obviously people should try to be presentable in public, but not shaving legs shouldn't be a requirement for that. Obviously most women are going to shave their legs, because that's what's attractive. That's fine, but people treat it as a sin to not shave.

 

[Helmholtz Watson]

It just makes me so very angry. Whenever some girl on my feed reblogs one of their posts, it ruins my day a little.

Come on OP, did you even read some of the profiles that the person picked? I think a couple of them are troll profiles.

Spoiler: I mean look at this and tell me the guy isn't a troll

and that is not even touching racist like this....

Spoiler: I'm at a loss for words

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

A person can make a statement about preference for a style of grooming and be as justified as someone who doesn't.

The wording is specifically "obligation". That is different from preference. In other words, it's "do women owe it to you to shave their legs?"

If the question was preference, it'd be totally different. Liking shaved legs isn't a problem, but acting as if women have an obligation to be eyecandy, then that's different. Nobody owes attractiveness to the world. Obviously people should try to be presentable in public, but not shaving legs shouldn't be a requirement for that. Obviously most women are going to shave their legs, because that's what's attractive. That's fine, but people treat it as a sin to not shave.

Actually, even then I'm perfectly fine with that statement. A person can make such an assertion and still be completely correct. If hairy legs are indeed such a turn off, then any potential responder has an implicit requirement for consideration. It might be a silly requirement but still it serves two important things. First, it lets you know the person's preferences. Second, it informs you of the character and disposition of the individual in question - they paint an advertisement of themselves that isn't terribly favorable.

That said, there is a fine line here. If I say "anyone who dates me is obligated to shave their legs", that's personal preference that extends to a desired action on the part of the mate and is wholly acceptable as the potential mate can decide if they want to meet that requirement and continue the relationship. If someone says "all women are obligated to shave their legs", that imposes your preference upon people without the relationship portion. It becomes unacceptable because you are asserting your preferences override all others and is not longer a matter of personal negotiation.

 

[dmase]

I'm pretty sure it's a rule of the internet that if you put anything about yourself out there it's open for ridicule. While it may not be right you should expect it.

That and I didn't think any of those pics on those websites where very funny.

 

[General Twinkletoes]

snip

Well that's the thing, I'm not sure if that question (or the people answering it) are talking about partners or women in general. Other similar questions specify "someone you would date" or "your potential partner", stuff like that. This question just asks "Women". I sort of understand not dating anyone who doesn't shave legs, it's a turnoff for me too. Saying it's a deal breaker is very, very picky IMO, but eh, if it's such a big deal to you.

Like you said, there's a fine line. I think this question is asking in general, since most other questions specified, but it's difficult to tell.

 

[GrimTuesday]

It just makes me so very angry. Whenever some girl on my feed reblogs one of their posts, it ruins my day a little.

Come one OP, did you even read some of the profiles that the person picked? I think a couple of them are troll profiles.

Spoiler: I mean look at this and tell me the guy isn't a troll

and that is not even touching racist like this....

Spoiler: I'm at a loss for words

Oh my god that first one was hilarious.

If you're going to put stuff on the internet, you are making it part of the public domain. In my opinion, if you post something online, you open yourself up to ridicule whether it is unjustified like making fun of the way someone looks, or entirely justified, like making fun of some people extremely poor choice of headgear.

Seriously, people need to learn that fedoras and most other circular brimmed hats look terrible on most people, and anyone found to have committed this heinous crime against fashion deserves all the ridicule they get.

 

[AstylahAthrys]

Though some of the guys shown on the blogs aren't bad at all (at least to me), some of the really bad ones make me laugh. I don't get the problem with men wanting shaved legs though. As a woman, I hate the look and feeling of having my legs hairy, and I certainly wouldn't want my man seeing them like that, though I guess that just boils down to preference. Yeah, these blogs can be harsh, but I am getting a good kick out reading them. A few of the really bad ones remind me of guys who have asked me out and I've turned down or broken up with because they were miserable. Actually, I think I might have actually seen a guy who has asked me out before on the fedora blog. Oh my.

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

snip

Well that's the thing, I'm not sure if that question (or the people answering it) are talking about partners or women in general. Other similar questions specify "someone you would date" or "your potential partner", stuff like that. This question just asks "Women". I understand not dating anyone who doesn't shave legs, it's a turnoff for me too. Saying it's a deal breaker is very, very picky IMO, but still, I understand it.

Like you said, there's a fine line. I think this question is asking in general, since most other questions specified, but it's difficult to tell.

Fair enough. I think in most cases even when they unashamedly delve into the territory of despicable behavior and/or statements there is something laudable: they demonstrate they are despicable. It helps people quickly discard them into the bin of terrible people so they can focus their efforts on people more suited to their tastes.

Making fun of such people on the other hand is the lowest sort of fun. Pointing out an idiot and inviting others to laugh undermines their willingness to be idiots publicly again. That's a terrible shame because they likely won't stop being idiots - they'll just hide it better. No one wants to find they're dating a terrible person on the second date if it can be avoided.

 

[DarkRyter]

To be honest, the fedora guys kinda deserve it.

That ***** is right. Fedora's are just awful.