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[Phasmal]

Wait what? We have three threads on the first page of OT right now dedicated to mocking and insulting people who have done nothing wrong except perhaps be dumb in ways that affects absolutely no one else, yet somehow making fun of people who are shamelessly sexist and racist is going too far? Sure Escapist.

Yeah, I'm kind of agreeing with this.
Personally, having been on the receiving end of Nice Guyism, somebody telling the dude he was acting like a stupid sexist fuck may have actually done some good.

I also enjoyed this and it is relevant.
http://www.wired.com/underwire/2013/01/alt-text-nice-guy/

Ooh, I was kinda with her until she appealed to the widely-debunked Sapir-Whorf hypothesis. Kinda hard to take someone seriously who blasts men who treat Dane Cook routines like peer-reviewed research and then talks about theories most linguists don't take seriously at all.

He and him, article written by a dude.
Hypotheses aside, it's more the main point of `nice` being kind of dull and the bare minimum that I was agreeing with.

 

[lechat]

what is worse starving children or abused animals?: neither both are good
lol

fuck and the same questions keep on popping up in every profile

is there such a thing as too many sexual partners?
i'm seriously gonna say yes. doesn't matter if it's 500 or 500,00 there really has to be a limit somewhere where someone stops being sexually mature and adventurous and starts being mentally unstable

do you think women have an obligation to keep their legs shaved?
musta seen this about a billion times now and it really is a loaded question. noone is obligated to do fuck all. you don't have to shave your legs, comb your hair or have a shower if you don't want to but be aware that might limit your potential number of suitors. i personally prefer my girlfriends to keep themselves how i consider to be well presented and have no problem doing the same myself if asked. if a girlfriend asks me to shave my legs i would do so. as to if i think all women should do it? like i fucking care it doesnt effect me

do you have a problem with racist jokes?
again loaded question. i grew up in a school where my race was in a less than .5% minority. the group of friends which i had consisted of 8 different races and we told some of the most racists jokes you are ever likely to hear. noone ever got offended because noone had self esteem low enough to think the colour of their skin should effect the way they live their life. as to if i think i should walk into a preschool and lighten the mood with "so 2 niggers and a spick walk into a bar...." fuck no there is a time and a place for everything and i would not use a racial joke if everyone involved wasn't comfortable with it

would the world be a better place if ppl with low IQs were not allowed to breed?
im gonna go out on a limb and say possibly yes. some dumb ppl do dumb shit. some dumb ppl can not properly raise a child. i would definitely oppose a law forcing this sort of thing and there is no reason a child can not overcome whatever hardship they suffer to become whatever they want in life but i can see the merit in ppl believing it

no means no!
FFS i hope everyone knows the correct answer to this and if you don't then i will for the only time in this thread admit that you are a bad person but as i already mentioned in another thread i had a girlfriend with a disturbing (to me at least) rape fetish and no sure as fuck did not mean no. in fact no with tears and a black eye meant yes and no with 5 gang members with knives meant hell yes

also a lot of hate on friendzone, nice guy and fedora wearing but i think the fedora flow chart prolly makes that look more idiotic than i can

 

[maninahat]

I'm fucking livid at this. Most of those guys are wearing trilbies, not Fedoras. Check your facts! I'm so angry, I'm shitting blood.

Seriously though, I think it is fun to mock guys for their horrendous opinions and fashion sense, but it is also judgemental and mean spirited. I console those two conflicting facets by reminding myself these are guys who deserve it (selfish, sexist, racist jerks with massive egos). Plus they are wearing fedoras indoors without corresponding outfits, and that's terrible.

 

[Rastien]

Girls on OKCupid can receive up to 50 messages per day. Replying to them all would be a full-time job. Don't take it personally.

Yeah i'm all to aware of this situation unfortuntley i feel the whole thing is a wasted en-devour on my part unfortuntley my options are a little limited where i live i don't enjoy drinking and unfortuntley round there parts it's pub or nightclubs to meet girls it seems.

Tips for not appearing on these blogs:

1) Don't post a picture of yourself in a fedora
2) Don't be a sexist/racist/homophobic douchebag

Follow those two simple rules and you should be fine.

Well those 2 are already crossed, i shouldn't let my paranoia get the better of me

There are girls featured on those sites as well.

But is the site written by a man or a woman or are we not able to tell?

 

[Epic Bear Man]

So I just made a joke OKCupid account (not because I plan on dating, but I wanted to check out the site and it's people), where I'm Cthulhu, and I think some of these issues should honestly be more directed at the website than the guys. Sure, some of their responses to the questions are misogynistic, racist, and downright wrong, but the site IS asking these questions, like "do you think women have an obligation to keep their legs shaved?".

I'm sure under normal situations these guys probably wouldn't bring it up. Not that I'm defending them for the shaming, I'm just saying the site seems to have some very bizarre questions.

 

[Epic Bear Man]

So I just made a joke OKCupid account (not because I plan on dating, but I wanted to check out the site and it's people), where I'm Cthulhu, and I think some of these issues should honestly be more directed at the website than the guys. Sure, some of their responses to the questions are misogynistic, racist, and downright wrong, but the site IS asking these questions, like "do you think women have an obligation to keep their legs shaved?".

I'm sure under normal situations these guys probably wouldn't bring it up. Not that I'm defending them for the shaming, I'm just saying the site seems to have some very bizarre questions.

Most of the questions were submitted by users. The questions that get the most amount of responses are the ones that crop up most often.

And I'm glad they have questions like the legs ones. It makes weeding out the douchebags much easier. No one wants to date a secret sexist.

Oh, my mistake then. I thought the questions were designed by the people who made the site, in which case I'd be wondering why they'd ask that in the first place...

But nonetheless, it's still a bizarre set of questions at times, whether or not it helps weed out the douchebags.

 

[burningdragoon]

So I just made a joke OKCupid account (not because I plan on dating, but I wanted to check out the site and it's people), where I'm Cthulhu, and I think some of these issues should honestly be more directed at the website than the guys. Sure, some of their responses to the questions are misogynistic, racist, and downright wrong, but the site IS asking these questions, like "do you think women have an obligation to keep their legs shaved?".

I'm sure under normal situations these guys probably wouldn't bring it up. Not that I'm defending them for the shaming, I'm just saying the site seems to have some very bizarre questions.

Well those questions are likely supposed to be used as a way to easily eliminate people. The problem with them isn't so much they're there, but that answer options are either too rigid or that (some) people aren't answering the question itself, but what they think question is actually asking (i.e. they answer the obligation to shave question with if they prefer legs shaved, not if they actually think there's an obligation). Or they have poor reading comprehension I guess.

If they had one of the answers "No, but I prefer them shaved" or something like that, I'm sure a decent number of people who answered "Yes" would change their answer.

I believe most of the questions are user-submitted too.

 

[bananafishtoday]

So I just made a joke OKCupid account (not because I plan on dating, but I wanted to check out the site and it's people), where I'm Cthulhu, and I think some of these issues should honestly be more directed at the website than the guys. Sure, some of their responses to the questions are misogynistic, racist, and downright wrong, but the site IS asking these questions, like "do you think women have an obligation to keep their legs shaved?".

I'm sure under normal situations these guys probably wouldn't bring it up. Not that I'm defending them for the shaming, I'm just saying the site seems to have some very bizarre questions.

That's kinda the point of those types of questions though. A question with an option like women "should" shave, or that the man would "prefer" a woman to shave, or whatever isn't very useful and can easily be misinterpreted by the woman scanning the man's responses. (What exactly does "should" mean here? How strong is the man's preference? Does he believe he has any say in the matter? Etc.)

The question how it's worded, though, is fundamentally different. A "yes" response throws up a huge, unambiguous red flag: the respondent does not respect the autonomy of women and believes he has a right to assert some degree of control over their bodies.

It's similar to questions like "Does no mean no," "Do you believe the man is the head of the household," "Are there situations where someone is obligated to have sex." You're right that it's not the sort of thing that would come up at first, but the point is to make it come up so other people know not to waste their time with them and especially to keep them from putting themselves in dangerous situations. "Yes" responses to questions like those are very strong indicators that the respondent is a potential rapist.