Old schoolmates getting knocked up!

[Shockolate]

I never met him, but a guy in my year at my old highschool got his girlfriend pregnant last year (age 19, I'm still waiting on my 20th). His parents are quite wealthy though, and both he and the girl wanted it, having already made plans to marry. I wished him good luck.

In the school I go to now (alternative learning, only 30 students) several girls had already had children. One whom I went to grade school with (didn't realize it was her for a while) was pregnant and left in the spring to have her baby. All of them seemed very well off, or at least that's the impression they give me.

 

[requisitename]

I don't really understand what there is for you to be mad about. Old schoolmates' life choices have nothing to do with you.

As for me, the only person from high school I've had any contact with since.. well.. high school (nearly two decades ago).. is a FtM transsexual. So, while I'm sure a lot or most of them have kids now, I know nothing of the sort.

 

[jetriot]

The brain isn't fully developed until you hit the age of 24. A little earlier for woman. I don't think anyone under this age is as good of a parent as they potentially can be. That said, everyone is different and everyone's circumstances are different. I have an infant at 28 that I can support and love even though I am not incredibly wealthy. She is the best part of my life, but babies and kids put you through hell.

Even though they are hard work I can not help but feel sympathy for people that say they are never having kids or older people that never had kids. A child that you shape and care for is really all that you leave behind in the world of yourself. I understand the hedonistic tendencies of the intelligent, nerdy folk out there but the world really needs you to have offspring to balance out all the stupid people that screw up their 5 kids.

 

[JaceArveduin]

Let's see... 32 in my graduating class (11) and we had... only one pregnant, now that I think about it. Wasn't happy with her either tbh, if she'd have just left it off for about another year, we coulda got a pizza party for not having anyone in the class get pregnant by graduation. To this day, I don't believe any class has managed it. Of course, I've a cynical view on most of my classmates, so any of them getting knocked up/knocking someone up really doesn't surprise me.

 

[krazykidd]

Don' you know? Sproutin babies is the new trend! All the cool people are doing it! Hell look at a celebrity magazine ! Everyone and their mother are pushing out babies! Get with the times!

As for me! I graduated high school in 2008. I have a beautiful baby boy ( who i named logan after wolverine) who was born in 2010 ( totally planned) and me and my gf are as happy as ever . I am not the traveling type and we have family that supports us both . Having children isn't that bad . There are tons of way to live a fulfilling life with a kid , hell it kinda even makes life better! I have become less cynical and realise a lot more things now that i am a father . No idea how a 40 year old can have a kid , they are so energetic and full of life, a real wonder to be around.

But other peoples kids annoy the hell outta me. The only great kids are your own .

 

[Chainsaws_of_War_2]

Basically every girl I graduated with back in 2010. Not including the ugly ones of course that got enough scholarships to get a PhD in any field they choose.

 

[Smertnik]

I don't really understand what there is for you to be mad about. Old schoolmates' life choices have nothing to do with you.

Exactly. Why would such a thing concern you?

Also why would you automatically assume that they got the child by accident and not by choice?

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

The more old classmates I see the better and better I feel about not getting involved with any of them.

 

[FamoFunk]

Why are you so mad about something that has nothing to do with you or effect you?

You sounds way too concerned about other people's lives bro.

 

[Screamarie]

You have no reason to be angry...at all...like none. If you guys were highschool age, yeah, I can see that. But this is a grown woman in college.

For one, her birth control could have failed and if it's your once a day pill or similar products I don't believe you have any warning until you actually start missing your period or you take a pregnancy test.

Also, LOTS of people have kids while in uni. I graudated just last year and I knew at least five women that were having children of their own free will, some accidents, some not, but all happy mothers who wanted their baby and had loving supportive fathers for the child at home. Many more were young mothers who went to school the same time their children were in class.

Several of my female professors were even getting bachelors and masters degrees while either being pregnant or raising children of various ages.

You're being judgemental of a woman you say isn't even your friend and so I doubt you have much of an idea of what her financial situation is.

I know I'm probably making a big deal out of nothing, if you want to be angry at her I doubt I'm going to change your mind, and in the end it's none of my business, but you put it up here and I'm so sick of people trying to make it seem like pregnancy is something you have to put everything else on hold for. You can still live your life while pregnant and raising children. Yes it makes things difficult, yes it makes money tight, but in the end if you can make it work, then that's what matters and even more than that, if it's a mistake, it's her mistake to make and not yours to judge.

 

[The Night Angel]

I graduated in 09, and i know 2 girls that got knocked up, and yes it is quite strange, but I wouldn't be too worked up about it either. People can do what they want, I just keep my opinion to myself unless I've something nice to say about it.

 

[Death Carr]

I'm in my last year of school and 2 of my schoolmates (in the same grade) have babies already. They all proclaim "love" for their respective mates but I dont really see the pride in dropping out of school for 7 months 'cause you couldn't keep your legs closed long enough for your boyfriend to put a condom on.

 

[Ilikemilkshake]

Thats weird, i was thinking about this exact topic myself only about 20 minutes ago when looking at FB and seeing ultrascan pictures.
I graduated in '10 and i know of half a dozen girls who have gotten pregnant since high school... quite scary actually.

EDIT: not judging them or anything, just saying i cant imagine myself with a kid at this stage.. and tbh knowing them i wouldnt have thought they were ready for it either but oh well.

 

[Bat Vader]

I'm browsing FB and see an old schoolmate (I dare not said 'friend' cos that'd be lyin') has posted sonograms. (Graduating class of 2010)

I'm discussing this with a friend and suddenly, I realize how mad that makes me. I mean, here's the girl who's in Uni (father too) and she's knocked up.

I guess it makes me mad because of all the BC (Birth Control) options there are out there (even if they didn't use protection, rubber/pill) there's the plan-B pill, and to me it just shows how careless they are. And, now all of her friends are praising her and such, blah. It's ridiculous. I know this isn't the 50's and girls don't have to be shipped out of Alaska after gettin' knocked up with bastard children but c'mon, this isn't something to be proud of. "Ooh, yay! I'm bringing a child into the world that I nor my mate can support!"



So, in conclusion, not to offend anyone who got knocked up in Uni.

And, do you have any old mates that are getting knocked up at an astounding rate??

The woman and the father will most likely drop out of college so they can both get dead end jobs to support the kid. Even if the father doesn't get married to this woman he will be stuck paying child support. I have no sympathy for them. They brought this on themselves.

I dropped out of contact with everyone I knew in high school after I graduated. Which I am not sad about. It means I don't have to spend my free time trying to keep up with them.

 

[ablac]

What confuses me is why these girl's friends in a lot of cases simply blindly support everything rather than look at it for what it is. Maybe they genuinely want kids at their age but it feels kinda ridiculous the response they get.

 

[Fieldy409_v1legacy]

Really? Your mad becuase shes chosen to have a baby at a possibly too early time? She obviously wants it so mind your own business. Maybe she will surprise you and manage just fine.

edit: Yeah I know one girl who has had a couple of kids, shes 22. Shes doing just fine too. Its healthier to have them when your young you know.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

And, do you have any old mates that are getting knocked up at an astounding rate??

I would say that more than a few girls from my Graduating Class (high school) got knocked up during (if not before) senior year. I would say that but I don't think any of the preggoes Graduated (though they may have gotten a GED later on). The girls who got pregnant seemed to get more popular too, for some reason.

More interestingly: My aunt (who is younger than I am) dropped out of high school after having gotten knocked up. Her daughter turned 3 a few days ago and her son...I think he's one...I don't talk to her often. Last I heard she's not in school and it being a general drain on my Gam. I have a strange family, I know.

 

[Colour Scientist]

I guess it makes me mad because of all the BC (Birth Control) options there are out there (even if they didn't use protection, rubber/pill) there's the plan-B pill, and to me it just shows how careless they are.

Every form of contraception can fail, even when used properly. Sadly, when it does fail, no form of contraception has an alarm that triggers to inform you that it has failed and that you should seek the morning after pill and even that isn't 100%.
Mr. Judgey McJudgerson

I know this isn't the 50's and girls don't have to be shipped out of Alaska after gettin' knocked up with bastard children but c'mon, this isn't something to be proud of. "Ooh, yay! I'm bringing a child into the world that I nor my mate can support!"

I actually know several girls (and guys), including some from my secondary school, who are in university, have jobs and are doing an exceptional job of raising their children.
A girl got pregnant at 15 in my year with her boyfriend of 3 years at the time(who she's still with) and she's more than thriving. At 18 she had her own house, car and everything else her child needed. I'm not saying every situation is like that but people are more than capable of going to university and raising a child.

I think someone has a chronic case of sour grapes. Not a clue why, though.

EDIT: I graduated in 2008 and, to my knowledge, only 2 girls from my year have children now. There are a fair few from the years directly above and below me though.

 

[Phasmal]

Panty-twisting snip

Basically, what is it with you and this girl's uterus?
Leave her alone she can do what she wants, and if she chooses to have a baby then its none of your business how she is going to support it so why dont you stop being all judgy. She's not even your friend you say, keep your nose out.

People seem to think this is a recent thing. My mum had my oldest sister when she was 18.

Some people like having a family young. A few of my friends from school have kids, but I dont sit around griping about it. My sister's 23 and has 3 kids, too.

These kinds of `Oh we're so much better than those people` threads just serve to make people look bitchy and judgy.

!!!Judging from the `oh look at those girls` comments, lets all remember that it takes TWO to tango and just blaming the girl in the situation makes you look like a giant wanker.!!!