Buretsu said:
I'd love to hear what these possible effects of being gay that you'd want to avoid are...
It was point #1 of the argument I presented... plus there are other (seemingly less objectionable) reasons too. Would a parent who is afraid of their child being persecuted or bullied because they are gay be a bigot? Ironically, they might be. But in this case their bigoted notion wouldn't be about gay people (it isn't their fault if they're discriminated against); it would be that heterosexual people are bigots.
Buretsu said:
How about we avoid false analogies, as obesity is preventable, and a child being gay isn't.
1) My point was about the intentions and values of parents. Whether or not you have control over something is irrelevant to whether or not you want it to happen. I might not be able to prevent an asteroid from destroying the earth, but I still sure as hell don't want it to happen. Furthermore, it is presumably people's values that make them bigots, not their actions. A person who hates homosexual people but keeps this fact entirely to themselves would still be a bigot.
2) I'm not sure how you know that homosexuality isn't somehow preventable... doesn't that fly directly in the face of the claim that it isn't a choice and that social conditions are irrelevant? Presumably those claims would imply that it has some determinate physiological or developmental cause. Plus, some forms of obesity have physiological causes beyond the control of the individual, e.g. thyroid problems. (Of course, whether or not something is preventable is distinct from the question of whether or not we
should try to prevent it. I am not arguing that we should try to prevent homosexuality: I am arguing that there are other reasons aside from bigotry that would make parents want to do so.)
3) My point was that something can be intrinsically neutral while having effects that make it extrinsically negative. You don't have to hate obese people to want your children not to be obese. Someone isn't a bad person just because they are obese, but obesity isn't healthy so it might be better for them if they weren't obese. Similarly, given many unfortunate societal factors, a child may indeed be happier if they weren't gay. While it is true that it would be better if we could change society rather than the individual, parents hardly have the power to do so.
4) Now, if your point is that obesity is different from homosexuality because once someone is homosexual there is no way to turn them heterosexual, I completely agree. Parents shouldn't try to make gay children straight any more than they should constantly tell deaf children to listen or blind children to read. But the parents don't need to be bigots for it to be wrong, it's wrong because it is cruel to the child. I don't think this undermines the analogy.
So let's set up a thought experiment. It's the future like in the movie "GATTACA". Two parents are about to use in vitro fertilization and are selecting which embryos they want to implant based upon the genetic characteristics. Let's say that they both decide to reject any potential embryos that have either genetic predispositions to obesity or homosexuality (assuming for the sake of argument that there is such a thing). They reject obesity for health reasons, and homosexuality because they are afraid their children will get picked-on/discriminated against.
Do the parents 1) hate fat people, 2) hate gay people, 3) hate neither, or 4) hate both? Explain your answer. Please note that the question is whether the parents are bigots, not whether they are violating the child's rights or doing something else that is morally objectionable (which they probably are).
Buretsu said:
Not wanting one's child to be gay implies that there's something wrong with being gay, something inherently undesirable about it.
My whole point was that one could want one's child not to be gay for other reasons aside from thinking that homosexuality is inherently bad. So if I interpret what you're saying correctly, you reject the distinction between intrinsic and extrinsic value? That's going to lead you to some absurd conclusions.
For instance: chocolate cake has a high caloric content. If you were starving on a desert island, this would almost certainly make chocolate cake a good thing. However, if you are trying to lose weight it will almost certainly make it a bad thing. If we fail to distinguish between intrinsic and extrinsic good then we're led to the absurd conclusion that chocolate cake is both good
and bad.
Now, if you're having some sort of knee-jerk reaction to what I'm saying, allow me to assure you once again that I am
not arguing that parents ought to try to prevent their children from being homosexual. In fact, I think that they would be wrong to do so. My point is merely that they would not necessarily be bigots if they do so for certain reasons.