One more relationship thread (sorry in advance)

[SovietSecrets]

I ask this here because it seems like alot of the forum people here are in college or going to be in college so hopefully few of you might be able to help me out.

Met this girl about 3-4 weeks ago at a party and we immediately clicked. She gave me her number and few days later I called her and we pretty much ended up talking for 8 hours and even more so the days following. I told her I liked her and she said shes likes me too, so I thought why not, I should try and get together with her...well problem is shes going to college in another state. It is about a 10-12 hour drive there which I am willing to take. I asked her tonight if she was dating anyone and she replied no, I have been trying to stay single to keep goodbyes easy as possible. I haven't replied back to her yet because I have been arguing with myself if I should just give up or try and push for it. In my mind I am leaning towards go for it, because I think we could make it work over the summer and figure it all out, or am I just deludeding myself? I absolutely adore her, but haven't told her that.

What do you guys/gals think? Try or no try?

 

[Dr Ampersand]

Don't see much that you could lose so I say go for it and the best of luck to you.

 

[AroLombardi]

.....I hate relationships....

 

[Arkhangelsk]

If you really like each other, you can try a long distance relationship. Or move to that state. Or just go there however you feel like. Whatever works for you. Weigh what you're sacrificing against what you'll get. What is more important? If you really have faith in it, I'd say go for it. I'm all for spreading some love.

 

[Blackadder51]

Go for it man, you will propley regret it if you didnt

 

[Mr Sunday Night]

Well you can both be sad that you're not together right up until she leaves and then it's gone forever. OR you can be with her now, even if it's only for the summer, and be happy together until she has to go.

The goodbye will be harder, but it'll be worth it.

Better to have loved and lost buddy. Go for it.

 

[Mr Sunday Night]

Oh and whatever you do, don't tell her that you're getting relationship advice from a gaming website forum... Chicks do not dig that.

 

[CrashBang]

TRY
I had a gf like 2 years ago when I was 17. She lived near London and I live near Wales (I'm English obv lol) and that's a big distance for me at that age, and we made it work. I went to see her on weekends and college holidays like easter and the summer and we were together for only 6 months but it was still a great 6 months and I'm glad we gave it a shot.
You won't regret it, though it is very difficult if you get seriously attatched and start missing her a lot, so be prepared for that

 

[felltablet]

Neither of you have been to college before?
Have either of you had a serious relationship? If you are both just graduating high-school, I highly doubt that either of you have had to be responsible for oneself, let alone others. Therefore understanding a relationship relative to ones own needs would seem to be a bit difficult for the two of you.

If you are going to college than you BOTH are about to enter a time of personal exploration. Immediately tying yourself to someone who lives halfway across the country seems ridiculous.

However, if you have the time to continually devote an entire day to traveling and the money;
(roughly $150 per trip, this is conservative) then you may be thinking this could work.

But unless you think she is the one, you are wasting the time in which most people find out what they want in a future companion. It is mostly trial and error, don't lose this time unless you are absolutely sure of what you want.

 

[brumby]

Oh and whatever you do, don't tell her that you're getting relationship advice from a gaming website forum... Chicks do not dig that.

Have to agree with that guy.

 

[Biek]

Go for it. What do you have to lose?

 

[skcseth]

Give up. Seriously. Long distance relationships are doomed to fail.

I have been trying to stay single

And if you have to try to stay single, I saw let her go and find someone else. It shouldn't be that hard to find a good girl in (insert your city/state name here).

 

[chstens]

Go for it, also, listen to Mr Sunday Nights advice.

 

[Danzaivar]

Hahahaahaaaa

 

[Samurai Goomba]

No reason not to give it a shot. My best friend is in a long-distance relationship right now. I'll agree they're not easy to maintain, but maybe if you find that you continue to click with this girl, it might be worth it to take some steps to be closer to where she's at.

 

[Mockingjay]

It'll be difficult maybe even destined to fail but if you like her enough well, prove me wrong.

 

[similar.squirrel]

=/. My girlfriend' going to college in about 3 months. Other end of the country. So that'll be that. Just don't get too attached because you'll end up screwing yourself over.

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

What is it you people say?
"You'll never know if you don't try?"

Next week on "Max's words of wisdom"...
I agree, it's not like you're going to lose out on anything other than money for transportation which could equally be spent on things like food...or games...or porn. Go for it.

 

[AngloDoom]

Don't try. Going to College in two different States will make you two slowly peel apart. You haven't known each other for long, so there's not much to base the relationship on. It'll hurt, a lot. Also, the fact that she instantly clicked with you might be because she clicks real fast with people in general; I wouldn't know, I know nothing about her, but imagine what it would be like if you two really did keep it going, she went to College, three months down the line she tells you she's found someone else.

Not worth it on someone you only just met. Sorry to say it, but that's just my opinion.