aegix drakan said:
Candidus said:
I say that as one of the many people damaged in their youth by the zero tolerance policy. By pacifistic scum trying to make their armpit scratching, wild rolling eyed, frothy-mouthed, shit flinging hysterical fear of violence a part of MY fucking upbringing.
As much as I disagree about your stance on pacifism in general...
I DEFINITELY agree with you on Zero Tolerance policies. Those are stupid. If you are attacked, you should be able to defend yourself. Also, Zero Tolerance fails to take into account the fact that enough social bullying might make a person snap and use violence, and then the real victim is expelled instead of the assholes who pushed him to it.
IMO, Pacifism should be an ideal, NOT a requirement. Violence should be respected and avoided, but not feared as a concept.
If some asshole is beating you up, you SHOULD have the right to return fire. Especially if the school administration is fucking incompetent at stopping the bullies.
So yeah. IMO, violence should be avoided as much as possible, but it should remain as a "nuclear option" if someone uses it on you. Punishing people for fighting back is a stupid idea.
1. Violence as Nuclear Option
2. Pacifism requiring incredible moral sense
3. Anyone can be violent
I've got nothing against you, and we do agree regarding the zero tolerance policy, BUT... Just a quick reality check for these three points.
1. The Bruce Lee character who refuses to fight, refuses to fight, refuses to fight and them BAM, fucks everybody up. That's a myth. The idea of violence as a nuclear option is a fantasy had by people who've never been through it. If you wait, if you try to walk away, if you try to negotiate for a few minutes while you're the recipient of harassment or abuse, this is what will happen: psychologically, they'll be excited and you'll be fatigued. They'll be ready to fight and you'll be ready to capitulate. When you finally lash out, you'll be intimidated. Your limbs will be weak, you'll feel sick, you might even respond to the loss of your own temper by *crying* instead of hitting. "Nuclear" option is a nonsense term for something that DOES. NOT. EXIST.
To be successful in violence, you have to decide as a situation escalates that OK, you're going to fight. You want to fight. You have to be open to being excited about hitting, you have to think about winning and concentrate on feelings of strength. And you're going to be scared as shit anyway unless you're a very rare sort of person. And you're going to get hurt probably no matter what. That's reality.
2. What's moral about not hitting back?
3. Finally, anyone can be violent?
I don't think less of them for this reason, but I think most of the people on this site, as well as most of the people I've ever met in the real world are "conflict cripples". People whose own physical response to the presence of violence or threat of serious bodily harm actually *disables* them from properly defending themselves- correct me if I'm wrong Escapists.
That aside, even if you're right- which I have serious anecdotal reservations about- what is wrong with that?
Not throwing a punch is only practical if nobody else throws a punch either-- I know! I know you know that and basically said as much! But hold on, the next line is way more important: and abstention from violence is only ethical IF violence is unethical regardless of the motives and circumstances.
Again. Something has to be intrinsically immoral about violence for strict abstinence to always be moral. This could also be my `other` response to point 2.
From my perspective, there's nothing intrinsically immoral about causing harm to somebody else. The motive and circumstances are everything. For that reason, again just from my perspective, being a pacifist is like filling out a multiple choice quiz all in one column. SOMETIMES you'll be correct in the practical sense to have abstained from violence, but your motive will never be correct because the circumstances are irrelevant to you. And quite often you'll be flat-out practically AND ethically wrong. Wrong, wrong wrong.