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MasterMasamune

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My dad's a bit of a gamer and mostly plays shooters, RTS, and air combat games like H.A.W.X. My mother, on the other hand, really doesn't care for video games. I don't think she's even picked up a controller in her life.

They really don't seem to know much about my other hobbies or interests, though. By which I mean they don't realize I'm interested in other things.
 

RatRace123

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Both my parents accept my gaming hobby and both understand it to a certain extent, my mom moreso than my dad. I've even got her to play Portal once. I do try to get them both into gaming, so we'd have something to do together.

My mom is also aware that I occasionally play as the opposite sex in RPGs, a fact that she finds amusing, and asks me if I want to be a girl in real life. I would explain that I simply find some game narratives richer when experienced through a female perspective (usually fantasy games, for some reason), which is typically how I pick my "canon" character for those types of games, but I go with the easier explanation of "it's something nice to look at for 40 hours."
 

Ranylyn

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My father is somewhat of a gamer. He's 61 this October, but joining my sister and I for some choice gaming (mostly racing games) when we were younger appealed to him.

My mother on the other hand? Not so much.

Ultimately, though, it doesn't matter. I'm an adult. I don't live with them. Even if they were trying to get me to stop playing, they hold no sway over me.
 

Ljs1121

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My mom is under the influence that video games turn people into violent sociopaths, but she doesn't keep me from playing them.

I don't even know what my dad thinks about video games, save the fact that he was quite the Atari junkie as a boy.
 

deserteagleeye

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My dad's cool with it except for the few JRPGs I have because he seriously gets weirded out by the Japanese. My mom is a religous fanatic and thinks any game I play with blood in it is evil. Things got nasty when she saw me using Satan in Persona 3, and the holding a gun-like tool to your head to summon it didn't help either. -_-
 

Hasido

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Padwolf said:
My parents accept my hobby but they don't quite understand my games. My mum will occasionally play Mario Kart with me and sometimes mistakes games for movies.
I sometimes mistake games for movies. (looking at you Square)


On the subject of video games: Upon contemplation, I realized that I have no idea what my mom thinks. I think she actually has nostalgia for Zelda games, yet she has never played them, just watched me and my brothers play them.

My dad on the other hand sometimes plays Mario Kart with me, and otherwise listens to me when i ramble about things. though, I'm pretty sure a lot goes over his head, but ever so often he surprises me with some tidbit (i just realized that tidbit is a mirror image of itself) he remembers about something i talked about a month ago.

On the subject of ponies: my mom thought it was amusing at first that i liked it, now seems to accept it, and my dad actually seems to remember most what i talk about, more so than with other subjects so i guess that means he is more interested in the ponies that i watch than he is with video games that i play.

On the subject of Miscellaneous: i got my dad to agree to read TVtropes [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/HomePage]. my dad and i love to talk about science, society, random stuff. My mom and i like to watch stuff like Doctor Who, Red Dwarf, and discuss different random stuff.

All of this accepting and participating with my interests is pretty much a side effect of both of them being awesome.
 

dreadedcandiru99

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When I was a kid there were five people in the house, we only had the TV in the living room, and my parents absolutely refused to get another one just so I could play games, so if I got an uninterrupted hour or two on the NES I was doing well. I didn't really have a chance to get into gaming in a big way till I moved out and made enough to buy my own stuff. My dad plays games sometimes, when I get him one. I'm pretty sure my mom still thinks it's a waste of time and money, but one of my favorite things about being a grown-up is that she can't really do anything about it.
 

Launcelot111

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My dad thinks I should have outgrown gaming a while ago, so I do my gaming clandestinely. When I go home, I make sure to do all my gaming in the wee hours of the morning after my parents have gone to bed so that they never actually see the game system in use and thus forget it exists. I also buy all my games in cash or store credit just in case he wants to start snooping around my credit card statements. Super healthy frame of mind, I know

My dad is also questioning of most of my other nerdy pursuits, but his reasoning there is that most nerdy pursuits are pretty much sausagefests. Not entirely true, but far from wrong.
 

DarthSka

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My dad is perfectly fine with games. He got me the SNES back in the day and he and I, along with my sister, would play the hell out of Super Mario World. Hell, he would keep us up past our bedtimes every now and then much to the chagrin of my mother. When we got a Nintendo 64 and Mario Kart, we spent hours racing each other. Nowadays, the variety of games I've been able to provide myself with are sadly too complex for him or just give him motion sickness. However, when I bring games into a conversation, he lets me speak and doesn't dismiss it as irrelevant. I've shown him a couple of episodes of Extra Credits including the Missile Command one and he really liked it.

My mother on the other hand, is not as keen on games as my dad is. When we were younger, she put a lot of limits including play time as well as not letting violent games in the household. In hindsight, she was completely right about both. I wasn't allowed to play M rated games until I was literally 17. Nowadays, she admits that she liked the Mario games, especially when Yoshi was present. More violent and realistic games however, are not her cup of tea. She hates violent games since she witnessed a good bit of the real thing in her country growing up, but she doesn't stop me from playing them. She's been a bit bipolar about them in the past few weeks though. When I was playing Skyrim, she just randomly said that it made sense that I liked video games and was good at them. She said something about males being goal driven and that they provided an outlet for us. I thought she had finally come around. Then the other day while playing Mass Effect 3 for the Extended Cut, she gives me the classic lecture on how these games are too violent and rotting my brain, etc. You know that one image of Jackie Chan? That's literally how I felt.
 

Chunga the Great

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Well my dad got me into gaming, on purpose or not. It's always stragne talking about how I got started because everyone seems to say something like "I got an Atari 2600 for $10 that I earned fighting Satan. I had 2 games, and 1 was porn." I started with my dad's $1,700 gaming PC and a shit ton of first person shooters. My mom is fine with me being a hardcore gamer.

Friend: "So it was like one of those ridiculous computers that cost a ton?"

Me: "Pretty much"

Friend: (jokingly) "Did it have a bunch of LEDs and shit?"

Me: "Yep"

Friend: 0_0
 

Headsprouter

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My dad loves games like Oblivion, Skyrim, Fallout 3 and the like. He used to play games like DOOM, Quake and Chasm: The Rift as well, he's very much a gamer. He even played Guild wars at one point and has shown interest in the progress of the second game, although he no longer has an internet connection.

My mum would just rather not get involved, I tend to avoid the subject of gaming around her as it can be very awkward. I don't think she really understands it. She's the main reason I prefer to keep gaming inside my room, i'd hate to have a console or gaming computer in a main living space. She's the type who, if it's something she doesn't agree with or understand, keep as far away as possible, if somebody's talking about something you don't agree with on TV for example, don't try and see their point of view, change the channel. So I think the feeling is mutual.
 

Smeggs

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My parents would never understand my games. They accept my hobby to an extent, but deep down I'm sure they view it as just some big waste of my time. They wouldn't have the patience to sit down to understand what the game is about, so somehow that equates to the game itself making no sense and being stupid, rather than the fact that they just don't understand it.

Until I was about 15, my father also thought that any monsters in the games I played were, "A Pokeyman."

No, dad, the hideous mutated human who is digging their claws into my torso while screaming in my face is not a "Pokeyman."

Oh well, at least I have a job again and can afford to pay for my own games. Nothing more awkward than a sixteen/seventeen-year-old asking for video games for their birthday/Christmas.

However, my Father did recently get himself an iPhone, and a Tablet, which he has been hooked on playing the hell out of Angry Birds in his free time at home for the past few weeks.

Honestly, I'm okay with it. Just as I don't care to watch Football with him and his drunk buddies or sit for two hours to watch some black and white drama from the fifties with my mother, they don't want to play my games, and that's okay. Gaming has always been the one thing in this household that has been mine, save for my younger brother and his systems. It's my thing, and I'd feel uncomfortable and annoyed if suddenly my father picked up an immense interest in Skyrim on my 360.
 

NightHawk21

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Ha. Lets see I got my first console like 8 or 9 years ago (PS2), and it took about 5 years to convince my father that the games weren't the spawn of Satan himself (or at least until he stopped saying it vocally). Since then he still hates it, but he has at least stopped reminding me of it every second of every day. To put this in perspective, a couple months after the release of Red Dead Redemption (so summer 2010 - fuk i feel old), was the first time he locked at the screen for more than a couple seconds before he sneered or said some nonsense and walked away, and since then I may have caught him looking 1-2 more times (once at least when I was walking through the city in AC).

Cowpoo said:
Nope, my dad used to think they're all about just killing stuff.

He also thought it was a deliberate conspiracy to make kids into a cheap labor force...like literally. I'm not even kidding.

I still want a GBC to play pokemon red :'(
Funny that sounds a lot like something he would say too, but as for the labour force, they were like polar opposites. My dad still holds that games turn everyone into lazy shits. His opinion on what the purpose of children is, is to do most of the house work, so that after he works he can come home and relax. IMO he should've been born about 200 years ago on a farm; that would've suited him well.
 

Vault101

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they don't exactally understand them but they are cool with them...hell my mum mangaed to get me all the right games

its funny I was on the escapist once and my mum was like...."so this is a forum?"
"yeah"
"is it about games?"
"yeah"
"are thease people gamers like you?"
"uhh....yeah"

the conversation felt like I'd joined a new religion or came out of the closet

also "Good Game" was on TV and I was watching...my Dad said "do you understand any of this?"..and I was like "yeah"

oh and I was playing red dead redemption

"see now I'm walking around"
"whos that guy?...can you push him"
"well.."
" you HIT him!?"
"yeah"
"thats violent"
"what? you told me too!"
"I didn't tell you to hit him"
"well I can't really do anything else..besides he was going to kill that hooker"
 

Vault101

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Fappy said:
After reading through a majority of these it seems I have neglected a larger part of my story. While my example was an isolated incident, video games have been at the core of many conflicts between my parents and I. The story would take an entire thread itself, hell maybe even a feature. Thankfully its not much of an issue these days as I have proven to them that I can game and be an adult at the same time.
aww cmon..that sounds really interesting
 

bobajob

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My mother plays on zynga.... yeah....
She understands & can appreciate our hobby(I got my youngest brother into gaming as well, hehe) but when I start talking about game mechanics, plot, or lack of, my latest graphics card or whatever she just glazes over.
It is a joy to behold.

My son's nearly 2, as I've been a gamer since I was 4 or 5, I like to imagine we will have LAN games in the future(after I build him a schweet gaming rig, of course)
 

Vault101

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reading all of thease I'm glad that

A.) I'm completly justified in that I have my own money to buy games so theres no guilt

B.0 I don;t live with my parents and have my own gaming space so I dont have to feel self concious about it (which I don;t anymore..also LED lights/signs make for great mood lighting) though aparently my sister did hear me screaming "WHERE ARE YOU!...dammit...THERE YOU ARE! I'M COMING FOR YOU ************!!!" while playing uncharted 3
 

BaronUberstein

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My parents ignore it, like much of the things I do. The few times they've noticed, they've been amazed and confused at the complexity of the games.

What I find funny is how my mom gets so up in arms about how violent I am in games like Fallout NV to solve problems, and then when I talk about needing to build a new highway in Simcity 3000*, she recommends simply bulldozing the residential districts in the way without warning. How is that any different from shooting a guy in the face to help the NCR?

EDIT: And now I'm in college, so as long as I keep getting acceptable grades I don't really see what business of theirs it is. Heh.

*Old but fun game. :D
 

Bassik

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Well, when I was 13 I started playing warhammer, and all during my teens until my twenties, my father kepped on bugging me that I have become to old for that kind of thing.

Now I help run my own club, got a good social network out of it, and he finally saw that most people in my club are all adults, some getting close to middle age.
He still thinks it's a hobby for children and a waste of money, but what does he know? He doesn't have any hobbies.

My mum, on the other hand, thinks it's great and admires well painted models like a gamer.
She also thinks the Wii is the biz-nizz, although Rayman Origins was a bit too much for the poor thing.

Now, since my parents are seperated, and since I live quite far away from them, it doesn't really matter any more.