Parents+Privacy=0

[Saulkar]

I shut the door, really. But unfortunately my house is seriously made out of paper, because shutting out sound is impossible. I love singing, for example, but I can't sing when mom's home(which she always is), because then she'll yell at me for annoying her. Also I can't stay up too late, because she can hear me type on the keyboard through the wall.

But I'm a pretty damn open person, I see no reason to hide things from, well, anyone really(unless it's mean things, I don't tell someone I think can sometimes be annoying that they're annoying pricks ), so besides the lack of verbal privacy, I don't have much to complain about, especially since I usually get left alone when I'm at the comp.

You could just tell your parents if you want some privacy though. Tell them you want to be left alone for a while and that you would appreciate it if they respected that.

I understand where you are coming from and I have personally never had to deal with that. Additionally my parents know quite abit about my limited social life and I have nothing to hide, I am merely seeking a private social life. Something I can keep to myself.

 

[Saulkar]

My mom is a bit socially awkward and doesn't really know how to act normally about frivolous things. Like my brother went off to college and joins a fraternity and nows she basically sits on Facebook (actually she always does that) and basically scans his profile to see if he is drinking. He comes home for Thanksgiving this week and he gets 20 questions about drinking. It's just annoying. I was apprehensive of adding her as a friend on Facebook because I thought she wouldn't give me any privacy, but she was good at first. After a while she started commenting on everything I did and it became annoying. One day I was sitting in our dining room, where our family computer is, and my mom was looking at the profiles of my friends and that was the point where I felt she crossed the line. I deleted her because I felt if she couldn't trust me enough she didn't have to watch over me. I didn't go on for a month it drove her crazy.

Ouch! At least you do not live in the same house, I still have a couple years to go. Thanks for the post.

 

[unicron44]

My mom is a bit socially awkward and doesn't really know how to act normally about frivolous things. Like my brother went off to college and joins a fraternity and nows she basically sits on Facebook (actually she always does that) and basically scans his profile to see if he is drinking. He comes home for Thanksgiving this week and he gets 20 questions about drinking. It's just annoying. I was apprehensive of adding her as a friend on Facebook because I thought she wouldn't give me any privacy, but she was good at first. After a while she started commenting on everything I did and it became annoying. One day I was sitting in our dining room, where our family computer is, and my mom was looking at the profiles of my friends and that was the point where I felt she crossed the line. I deleted her because I felt if she couldn't trust me enough she didn't have to watch over me. I didn't go on for a month it drove her crazy.

Ouch! At least you do not live in the same house, I still have a couple years to go. Thanks for the post.

No man we still live in the same house, it's brutal.

 

[Saulkar]

Are you living under their roof?

Yes.

Don't like this?

Tough.

Because parents have the right to be totalitarians, because they spawned you? Hardly.

I live with my mother and brother and we always respect eachother's privacy. No one likes it to have their privacy invaded, be it because of curiosity or 'monitoring'. If you want to know something, ask. If someone doesn't tell you, he or she has a good reason not to.

That is exactly what I am going for, I try to hide nothing comprimising or something that NEEDS to be talked about. If they want to check if I am safe I am ok with that, if they have a juvenile spurt of invasive curiosity I wish they would respect my privacy when I ask. Thanks for the post.

 

[Saulkar]

My mom is a bit socially awkward and doesn't really know how to act normally about frivolous things. Like my brother went off to college and joins a fraternity and nows she basically sits on Facebook (actually she always does that) and basically scans his profile to see if he is drinking. He comes home for Thanksgiving this week and he gets 20 questions about drinking. It's just annoying. I was apprehensive of adding her as a friend on Facebook because I thought she wouldn't give me any privacy, but she was good at first. After a while she started commenting on everything I did and it became annoying. One day I was sitting in our dining room, where our family computer is, and my mom was looking at the profiles of my friends and that was the point where I felt she crossed the line. I deleted her because I felt if she couldn't trust me enough she didn't have to watch over me. I didn't go on for a month it drove her crazy.

Ouch! At least you do not live in the same house, I still have a couple years to go. Thanks for the post.

No man we still live in the same house, it's brutal.

Double Ouch!

 

[Lexodus]

Just because they are legally allowed to do something doesn't make it right or good parenting. This combined with the fact that these so called "spoiled teenagers" are usually unable to move out and live by themselves gives them a right to complain.

It doesn't matter.

It's their house. Their rules. They aren't doing anything wrong.

How much you like or dislike it is a moot point.

'I hate this planet's weather, but I can't move to a new one. This sucks! The planet has no right!'

Not at all valid analogy. The planet is not sentient and/or in direct contact with its inhabitants, nor does it love them or feel attachment to them, and thus it doesn't work at all.

My point was that complaining about the issue is rather pointless.

It's not- as we have stated, the first possibility is complaining, and the second is making your parents get the message. Many parents *will* get the message, and some don't have to, and that's hardly pointless.

 

[random_bars]

To be honest, I don't think the whole "you're a kid, they're your parents, they pay your bills and give you a home etc etc, they can do whatever they want to you" argument holds water. Maybe if they took you in off the street, but they're your parents. They conceived you, in full knowledge that they would spend the next eighteen years of their lives housing you, feeding you, and so on. It's not some kind of huge priveledge, it was their choice in the first place.

It's like buying a pet, then deciding that because you own it, you can treat it however you want and it should be grateful, because you're the one that feeds it and houses it and so on; and that if it doesn't like it you'll put it out on the street to fend for itself. That, of course, is fucking stupid, just like the parents argument.