Koroviev said:
I feel like I should clarify a little more, not because I felt like you guys were calling me out on anything.Erana said:
This kind of thing doesn't fly with me.ScreamingNinja said:It's true, these people did raise you. Suck it up sunshine and pay your parents. 'OH BUT SHE OWES ME 700 DOLLARS!' If you were born and then your Mum and Dad didn't do anything to look after you, chances are you wouldn't have been alive to go to uni, let alone jump online and have a bit of a cry.
And now it is no longer their moral or legal responsibility, hence the 100. Frankly grown (well is 18 truly grown?) up people should stop being burdens to their parents and start to live their own life. I can't imagine finding a place that would let me live there for just 100 a month.-Samurai- said:This kind of thing doesn't fly with me.ScreamingNinja said:It's true, these people did raise you. Suck it up sunshine and pay your parents. 'OH BUT SHE OWES ME 700 DOLLARS!' If you were born and then your Mum and Dad didn't do anything to look after you, chances are you wouldn't have been alive to go to uni, let alone jump online and have a bit of a cry.
No-one asks to be born. No-one asks to be a financial burden on their parents. Adults know what they're getting into when they decide to have a child, and to say that a child owes them for all the money spent on them, which is the parents responsibility, is just stupid.
Your parents took care of you because it was their moral and legal responsibility to do so, not because you asked them to.
At which point I'll agree. If you have the means, then you should help out. You should do what you can without having to be asked. If it doesn't hinder you, help them.godofallu said:And now it is no longer their moral or legal responsibility, hence the 100. Frankly grown (well is 18 truly grown?) up people should stop being burdens to their parents and start to live their own life. I can't imagine finding a place that would let me live there for just 100 a month.-Samurai- said:This kind of thing doesn't fly with me.ScreamingNinja said:It's true, these people did raise you. Suck it up sunshine and pay your parents. 'OH BUT SHE OWES ME 700 DOLLARS!' If you were born and then your Mum and Dad didn't do anything to look after you, chances are you wouldn't have been alive to go to uni, let alone jump online and have a bit of a cry.
No-one asks to be born. No-one asks to be a financial burden on their parents. Adults know what they're getting into when they decide to have a child, and to say that a child owes them for all the money spent on them, which is the parents responsibility, is just stupid.
Your parents took care of you because it was their moral and legal responsibility to do so, not because you asked them to.
So your parents bum off welfare and had too many children. At least they had the decency to give you an option (to move out or to pay 1/5th of what your rent would probably actually be).
PS: Your existence has cost them far more than 100 a month so maybe cut them some slack. It's not like you are any better than the people on welfare. You simply take money from a different government fund. Some of us actually paid off college through working or student loans.
Preaching to the choir. It took a two day argument for me to convince my mother to charge me rent while I'm unemployed.thefreeman0001 said:my parents wont allow me to pay rent...i feel like a sponge.
What?Waaghpowa said:Koroviev said:I feel like I should clarify a little more, not because I felt like you guys were calling me out on anything.Erana said:
I realize that it isn't exclusive to the Chinese culture, but it baffles me that North Americans believe that it's ok. In my culture, not supporting your kids is like abandoning your duty as a parent. Yeah, sure, you have to teach your kid to be self sufficient, but is forcing them to pay to live really going to do that? What if they get put into financial crisis? What if they're also the kind of parents that believe that the child should pay for their education? Sure, they're learning to be self sufficient, but that could back fire big time on them and the kind could end up homeless. I guess it depends on the parents, but it still bothers me and feels like you're trying to set them up for failure.
I know, but I wanted to add a thoughtErana said:What?Waaghpowa said:Koroviev said:I feel like I should clarify a little more, not because I felt like you guys were calling me out on anything.Erana said:
I realize that it isn't exclusive to the Chinese culture, but it baffles me that North Americans believe that it's ok. In my culture, not supporting your kids is like abandoning your duty as a parent. Yeah, sure, you have to teach your kid to be self sufficient, but is forcing them to pay to live really going to do that? What if they get put into financial crisis? What if they're also the kind of parents that believe that the child should pay for their education? Sure, they're learning to be self sufficient, but that could back fire big time on them and the kind could end up homeless. I guess it depends on the parents, but it still bothers me and feels like you're trying to set them up for failure.
I was agreeing with you.