people need sex?

[Blow_Pop]

It all depends on what kind of need you are talking about OP. There are those like given examples above and then there are those more like me who have no other real stress outlet and who have a lot of stress that sex(I'm including masturbation in this)is the only safe way they can relieve even some of that stress to help them live a longer life. (and what I mean by safe way is I could go start fights and get the shite kicked out of me and possibly killed to relieve stress but I choose not to because I don't yet want to die and I don't want to be arrested or put into a hospital).

Also OP, you are young, so don't necessarily start worrying yet if your sex drive hasn't kicked in yet. Sometimes it takes longer for it to kick in.

 

[Just_A_Glitch]

Some people actually have higher sex drives, to the point where it becomes a need. Its actually rather unhealthy to suppress it.

Personally, I'm not one of them. I like sex. I enjoy sex. But I've never gone out of my why to get sex. In fact, I more often than not turn people down for sex (I'm male, by the way). It isn't a need like food, water, and oxygen is a need, but sex can play very big roles in people's lives, and some people need that role more than others.

 

[Malconvoker]

Personally, I don't need sex and I don't want it at all and have never had it and never want to have it. I feel I must also point out that I am not a man and have a different biological makeup so I can't speak for anyone other than myself

 

[AngloDoom]

Need? No.

Want? Most certainly.

When I told people that, after a rough breakup, I hadn't had any sort of foreplay or sex for a year they looked at me with a mixture of awe and pity, as if to wonder whether I had crazy self-control and women fell out of the sky into peoples beds, or whether I was actually a sad bastard with no social-skills.

Honestly, I find it hard to have sex without forming an attachment so for me it's a big no-no unless I find someone I'm truly comfortable around. It's not a need by any means, but my gods do I miss the intimacy.

 

[HardkorSB]

i was thinking about a line that i heard "a man has needs" so what i want to know is do they?

when i asked someone i knew about this they asked if i was jokeing and it all went downhill from there

the way i see it is people need food water and air (duh) those are peoples only needs

i have never had sex and dont feel the need to but do you feel the need to have sex?

It's like the cells in your body are saying:
"Pass your DNA on".
It's not like you as a person need to have sex but your genetic material wants to be passed on, whether you like it or not.

I see that you're 16. I didn't have much of a sex drive at that age neither. Sure, I had interest in girls since I was 12, I even went on a few dates and kissed a few girls but as far as sex goes, I didn't really care for it.
Wait 2-3 more years and your hormones will start to go berserk. It will be like being poked in the back of your brain, combined with a tiny subconscious voice telling you to fuck something. You'll start to view women (or men, whatever) in a sexual way, you won't be able to concentrate while having conversations with people who are sexually attractive to you (stuttering, forgetting what you wanted to say etc.), you'll start to treat them better than others and will try to look good in their eyes, even if you won't really be aware of that...

In short - the urge will come.

 

[HardkorSB]

You're not seeing this post, it is invisible to you.
You will send me your account number, login and password.
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No? OH well, it was worth a shot.

 

[WolfThomas]

I think the Americans sum it up succinctly in "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness". Food, water, shelter or life is essential, freedom from discrimination and imprisionment too, but society can't just ration out sex which I place under happiness, people want it certainly, but they don't need it, rather they need the opportunity to pursue it freely with persecution as long as it's consensual and it harms no one (opening self to debate there on definitions of harm).

Yes, you need sex. Males in particular. Your prostate depends on ejaculation or there'll be severe health problems down the line. (Masturbation counts in this regard.)

If you don't masturbate or otherwise get off at least once every fourteen days as a normal male, you'll get... problems, down the line. There is an alternative, but that involves rectal stimulation of the prostate and milking it. Not going into specifics on the matter here, since it's not the site for that kind of thing.

To be fair, your body can take care of a large part of that by itself with nocturnal emissions.

"There's a reason there's been far too many cases of catholic priests abusing altar boys."

That when you have a sample size of 400,000 people in positions of power you gonna get some rotten apples. Don't get me wrong Catholic sex abuses exist and they're horrible but for every single monster that commits these crimes there's a vast number of good men doing something they strongly believe in to the exist where they're willing to forsake a normal life. Even if I don't agree with their beliefs.

 

[thom_cat_]

I don't need to, but if presented with the option I would take it every time (if it was safe with someone I like {ie. gf} and all that jazz)

"need" is an exaggeration. It's just like hugging and kissing for me, probably less so. I mean I always want to hug and kiss my GF, but sex can wait.

 

[Smooth Operator]

It's true sex is by no means a physical need but it is an emotional one, sounds strange but bare with me.

It works nearly the same way as good food, our body doesn't need it in fact we can survive on nothing but tasteless biomass sludge.
But after a meal like that you will not feel good at all, maybe even worse because your subconscious didn't get the right taste signals it is now telling you something is wrong, you are not meeting it's designated requirements (a very basic but effective stick and carrot system).

Works the same way for sex, if you miss out on it there is no life threatening danger but your subconscious will be hitting you over the head with a stick until you get your jimmy wet, and then you will be rewarded with one heck of a carrot.
Ofcourse the severity of this will be heavily dependent on you personal sex drive, for most men this is on a very high level.

All in all you just need to make sure to keep the emotional balance on the good side, you don't need sex or good food but you need something that evens the odds, or you will soon yourself on the fast track to depression.

 

[Elementary - Dear Watson]

For the survival of the individual one needs food/water/shelter.

For the survival of the species one needs sex.

A model of need that you may find informative: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarchy_of_needs

Thank you! I was just about to quote Maslow myself! Never thought i'd me ninja'd over the Pyramid of needs!

As a leader in my workplace I am required to adhere to a number of these leadership and psychological tools, including Maslow's in the link above. Simplified; a person can only be truely happy once each of the levels of the pyramid are fulfilled. My subordinates require all of the peices of the pyramid, and I am to make sure thay they are not cut off from any of the individual parts... This means that I am to ensure my lads get access to food, water, sleep and sex over family. This doesn't mean I buy them prostitutes, or shag them myself, but make sure that they get time in the towns on weekends, or time with girlfreinds/boyfreinds/wives/husbands as needed! Unfortunately on the graph, this is the first thing to go in certain situations, and reality means that I end up putting more effort ensuring personal security than sex...

 

[Riobux]

While no, it's not something that is needed like water and food, it's something that helps ensure mental stability. Keep in mind that human beings, male and female, have hormones that run through their bodies and most humans have sex hormones that encourage sex by inducing lust in the individual. Lack of satisfaction of said lust may act to damage the individual's mental state and future sexual relations which may be vital for matters such as producing a child.

However, in terms of "do males need sex", sort of. This, as well as the gender divide of the desire of sex, dates back to evolution. During more basic evolutionary stages, it was beneficial for a male to mate with as many females as possible to not only ensure that his genes continue beyond him, but also the maximise how many ancestors have his genes. It's actually a pretty recent idea that sex isn't as needed as once thought (at least outside religious intervention).

 

[Sewora]

Depends entierly on your definition of "Need". We all need it in different ways. Women who supress their sexuality generally become depressed due to the lack of oxytocin releases in their bodies, and through depression they lose alot of their sexdrive which only results in further depression.
Ultimately they run the risk of suffering difficulties sleeping which only makes the depression worse.
Depression leads to difficulties sleeping, and irregular sleep results in higher chance of depression.
Somewhere along the line there's risk of clinical depression leading to suicide.

For men, it essentially works the same way but with the added chance of issues with your prostate.


So my conclusion is that sex is vital, it's as fundamental as breathing or eating. We are designed to require it, even if it doesn't necessarily result in death by avoiding sex.
But a severe clinical depression doesn't exactly make life very enjoyable.


At least that's my thought on the subject.

 

[Jonluw]

There isn't a need for sex specifically, but there is a need for sexual release.
i.e. if you don't have sex and don't masturbate, you will have wet dreams.

 

[loc978]

sex? not necessarily... but after a male human being's sex drive starts up (ie puberty), he does have a biological need to ejaculate. Whether that be through sex, masturbation, or in his sleep, it will happen.

 

[JesterRaiin]

i was thinking about a line that i heard "a man has needs" so what i want to know is do they?

when i asked someone i knew about this they asked if i was jokeing and it all went downhill from there

the way i see it is people need food water and air (duh) those are peoples only needs

i have never had sex and dont feel the need to but do you feel the need to have sex?

It depends on hardware configuration, but you'll find cases supporting every statement.
For example there are people that feel no need for sex at all, there are some that can't stand an hour without sex and whoooooooole bunch of people inbetween. It's really matter of temperament and chemistry.

On the other hand, there are very interesting mental cases - people addicted to sex, those that use it to relieve stress or escape from some problems and such.

Point is : when it comes to some aspect of life, don't expect universal, static definitions. There are always people, cultures, traditions, places that do "it" (any one thing) differently and are happy with it.

 

[albinoterrorist]

It's kinda like Pringles.

Heh. Once you pop, the fun don't stop!

I love you, Escapist.