Lilani said:
I also play FF14 like the above poster, and while on the whole the community is very nice, there are still a few bad apples in every bunch. The main ones I see are elitists who want to speedrun everything and blow up at the first mistake, or start trash talking and making snarky comments for no reason at all, or people who don't to basic courtesies like announce when you are going to go afk or don't give you a heal or help with a fight when you're about to die it's perfectly within their capabilities to do so.
The speedrun elitists piss me off no end. By all means try go fast and try big pulls, but if your healer can't cope then deal with it and dial it back.
When I run with my friends through places like Ampador Keep or Wanderers Palace Tizzy heals and I tank, and we utterly beast the damn place, provided we picked up a good pair of DPS and not 2 Monks (sorry, their AoE is abonimable and it doesn't work, any other combo is fine). But pug h ealers aren't always amazing, and pug tanks aren't always complete beasts, and you have to deal with that when you roll for roulettes and duty finder groups. There's no need to flip out and scream and shout if the pug healer can't heal you through pulling a third of the dungeon, just return to the start and go at a reasonable pace this time, perhaps discuss it with you group and see what went wrong and if you can give them some advice.
That said however, there is something on the other end of the spectrum that agitates me: People joining farm or clear groups who have no idea what they are doing. Do not join my Leviathan farm in the party finder, specifically labelled as "Farm, must avoid slams" and then fall off to the first slam, people will be rightfully annoyed in these situations. Likewise please don't jump in an Ex weekly clear group and proceed to kill the spiny plume, suckle titans delicious plumes, and run into the marked healer on ifrit. Intention for exp and clearing is usually made clear in the PF. The opposite is true, don't join my bloody Turn training and flip out when somebody dies. Just because you're uber leet hax have been clearing Turn 5 since day 0 doesn't mean bloody everyone has.
Otherwise generally being antisocial, angry with people, refusing advice, shouting at others and being unpleasant, whilst a fairly rare occurence, is an unpleasant one.