That's what I do. Unless there are extenuating circumstances such as it being a mutual break-up where we both decide it's not working and we'll be better as friends, or if we have a lot of mutual friends and it'd be incredibly weird if I tried to avoid them forever. In fact I'm pretty much happy to cut off all contact with an ex, I've have never had any problem making friends so instead of cultivating an awkward friendship with someone I probably don't like very much, why wouldn't I just move on and get rid of them? Then again I'm also fairly picky about who gets added to my facebook and what I put up there, since I like to control the way in which I'm presented, and reduce the chance that a future employer could somehow access my page.Bernzz said:
Huh. Well, my only ex (before my current relationship, I only had one other) dumped me, said we'd still be friends, and proceeded to ignore me for the next few months. And now, we're friends. We didn't remain friends, we lost contact, then regained contact and so friendship. Part of the reason was in fact Facebook.Hiraeth said:
It hurts like hell to see an ex moving on before you have and you have my sympathy. It's understandable that it upsets you, but I really think you're making it worse for yourself by taking it as a personal attack. It's been a few months since you broke up, that's a reasonable time before she found another fella and it was Valentine's, too. Maybe it did cross her mind that you'd see it, maybe she considered hiding the post in case it upset you, but I know what I'd have thought in that situation: I'd have thought it was time for you to move on, too, to accept that the relationship was over. You can't expect her to sanitize Facebook of her romantic life in order to wrap you in cotton wool, much as you'd prefer to pretend she's never going to be with a guy other than you. (I hope this doesn't sound sarcastic, that's how I've felt about people I've been with so I'm not putting you down if you feel that way, it's understandable.)x EvilErmine x said:
