Please help me!

[Berethond]

snip

It's called puberty, mate. Your hormones are trying to freaking drive you completely insane as your brain grows to its adult state.

You'll get over it in a few months, most likely. A year tops. Then everything will be awesome and you will have <url=http://www.cracked.com/article_18693_5-bizarre-ways-your-siblings-made-you-who-you-are_p2.html>more sex than your older brother.

 

[Tilted_Logic]

Every bit of advice I can come up with seems inadequate. Right now I'd rather give you a huge hug. So *hugs*!

Parts of life do suck, but you really have to believe it will get better - it really does!

But the best thing you can do, the absolute most important thing - find happiness. So you're not what your parents may want from you - are you happy with who you are? Do you like the direction you're headed? Parents can be great for advice, but they can be quite bias too, but you're really not alone. Most parents want a lot from their kids, be it academics, athletics, whatever! But you have to take things at your own pace.

Find happiness wherever you can, it's really quite easy to find contentment in the little things once you start looking So you're not your brother, but you're you, and from what you've said here, and the way you've said it, you're much smarter, and much more aware of things than people are giving you credit for. So cheer up! Life can be much better, if you can find someone close to you to talk to, let them in, it'll help!

And...

Always look on the bright side of life...

...doo do.. doo do do do do doo....

 

[sapphireofthesea]

I know the feeling. Best thing you can do is to start to get an idea of what you desire of yourself, even the little things, and concentrate on that. As you are 14 it is not long now before you will have the chance to move onto a new stage of your life and build your own family of friends around you.
I would advise working on yourself a little bit and see what adjustments you can make to make yourself better for you (not for anyone else atm). I would also look at how your relationship is with your family and if it is strong enough try and keep it up but if it is too weak start adjusting for it.
You are close to the starting of your independent life so you have weathered the worst of the storm, you just need to prepare for the next stage now to make sure you get a good start.
I would also add, expectations are not a bad thing. What I do with others expectations of me is, I gauge them.
-I decide if they are first reasonable (I am not sporty so someone expecting me to win a marathon is not reasonable).
-Then I decide of it is something that will make me a better person (even an enemy can give you helpful insight to make you better)
-Then I decide if and how I can make the change. most changes are best done gradually.

There is really no handbook on this sort of thing, but random chats with adults about things can give you helpful insight (just about their past or things they have done). Also, if you need something more specific a school counciler could be of some use, at the very least in helping you make sense of some stuff.

Hope you get something useful from that

 

[The Procrastinated End]

Professional help?

This might be the wrong place to be asking for such serious help. I hope you figure out what you want.

Turns out the first answer is the right answer after all.

 

[Impluse_101]

Live long and Prosper. :|
I can't govern your decision so that all I can say.

 

[0z0wen]

Thanks for all the advice guys but honestly I wouldn't know what to say or do if I were to go to a proffesional

 

[LemonMelon]

Thanks for all the advice guys but honestly I wouldn't know what to say or do if I were to go to a proffesional

It doesn't have to be a therapist. Just someone you trust.

However if you go to a therapist, just tell them what makes you feel comfortable. Hell, if you wanna go in there and have light conversations about the weather, they'll be down with it. They're getting paid to listen and to understand.