So, I'm still in TRADOC. One of my Sgts is involved in a relationship with someone who is still IET. If you're not familiar with IET rules, that's expressly forbidden. This Sgt is an amazing guy, maybe he's not a great Sgt, but he's a good person. I need to bring this relationship to his attention, but again, he is my superior, and he's a great guy whos career I don't want to ruin. How do I do this?
Please, this is for military people only. I need advice...
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I do not work for the military but I have read about similar situations. These are your following practical options:
1. To do nothing. This is the simplest option. You act as though nothing is going on and this will not cause any problems in terms of career progression.
2. To speak to him and remind him of the rules. Then stand back and let the events unfold. If he continues to pursue this relation then you can either do nothing or report him. Talking to him on a personal level could possibly do more harm than good. So you have to be careful how you come across.
3. To report him. You will need evidence (circumstantial) for this. I would avoid this option unless there is a serious breach of the rules or a risk of harm/death. Of course in this case it is very personal and I would consider option 2 before following option 3. If you are allowed to report breaches of rules anonymously, then go ahead and and follow option 3.
At work you are paid to do your job. That is your primary concern. Keep your social interactions with other workers as formal as possible. Try not to build close relationships with workers. Aim to get along with as many people as you can. This means you will be able to do your job more effectively as personal feelings will not interfere when making decisions.
These issues occur in many organisations. So you are not alone.
All the best!
1. To do nothing. This is the simplest option. You act as though nothing is going on and this will not cause any problems in terms of career progression.
2. To speak to him and remind him of the rules. Then stand back and let the events unfold. If he continues to pursue this relation then you can either do nothing or report him. Talking to him on a personal level could possibly do more harm than good. So you have to be careful how you come across.
3. To report him. You will need evidence (circumstantial) for this. I would avoid this option unless there is a serious breach of the rules or a risk of harm/death. Of course in this case it is very personal and I would consider option 2 before following option 3. If you are allowed to report breaches of rules anonymously, then go ahead and and follow option 3.
At work you are paid to do your job. That is your primary concern. Keep your social interactions with other workers as formal as possible. Try not to build close relationships with workers. Aim to get along with as many people as you can. This means you will be able to do your job more effectively as personal feelings will not interfere when making decisions.
These issues occur in many organisations. So you are not alone.
All the best!