Poll: Am I allowed to be jealous?

[JohnSmith]

It basically all comes back to asking why you and he wanted a "friends with benefits" setup in the first place. Is it because you are incompatible in a closer relationship (though you watch moves together and share some hobbies which is more than some people have) or is it because you aren't interested in monogamy or is it because one or both of you is scared about what would happen if you asked the other person to be more exclusive?

The other question to consider is whether there is anything about specifically this other girl that might make you jealous, any why would he be with her when he could be with me style sentiment.

In short are you jealous because you feel a perhaps not entirely reasonable sense of ownership or because you genuinely don't want to share someone who is this close to you?

 

[JohnSmith]

So why have sex with more people? Once sex is plentiful and readily available and commitment is nul, what's the point?

....Once you get to that seemingly perfect balance of casual sex the need for more causal sex is erased, because the point of casual sex is having sex without being in a relationship.

Umm, you do realize that different people fuck differently right? Especially if one of them has a certain fetish or something. Even if frosted flakes are your favorite cereal you might still want to have coco puffs once in a while, you dig?

Yeah, but that metaphor matches more what I said about people who are in a relationship but not entirely satisfied, so they fuck around. This is more like those people, I've known some of them, who for some reason feel the need to have like six types of half-eaten cereal at home and will replenish each brand when it runs out.

I mean, it's just cereal. Do you really think it's worth it to go buy more Corn Flakes when you have a half-eaten box of Frosties still in the cupboard, right next to a packet of quickly-going-stale Cheerios? Just eat your cereal and go get a new brand when you're done with this. Otherwise, you'll spend all your time in the shop buying new cereal, your grades will slip, you'll realize too late that you are now addicted to several substances and you'll find out too late that you have an STD and have to make a very long and embarrassing series of phone calls.

God, I'm glad that part of my life is over.

That was the most epic analogy hijack in the history of anything, and an instructive lesson.