Abandon4093 said:
You ever had any friends? Being able to rib each other over silly things is part of the social agreement we call friendship.
Sure I've had friends like that. I dropped them in a second the moment I got tired of their negative or self-centered attitudes all the time.
My remaining friends are very supportive of each other, and most of our ribbing is self-initiated to make everybody else aware it's okay at the time. If one of my friends says they're not feeling it, or asks us to stop, we stop and apologize if necessary.
It's called growing up.
I don't know how you could possibly have had any sort of close friendships and not have encountered banter. Do you just tiptoe on eggshells when you're friends are around? Unwilling to crack a joke incase someone takes it the wrong way.
Like I said, we're almost always supportive of each other instead of derogatory. Our jokes mostly center around our momentary fallacies or our work, not each other.
When we do crack jokes about each other, if we see we've affected the other person, we apologize.
Sounds pretty boring to me, I'd rather keep the banter I have with my close friends.
That's your choice. You make your social environment. If you want a bunch of friends saying what a crappy car you have, how their house is bigger, how your pay sucks, that their SO is better in the sack than yours, that you're getting fat and they're going bald, that you're a dimwit for not being able to figure out your new cell phone, etc. that's also your choice.
I choose not to be surrounded by people that are like that. It's surprisingly easy, and I've laughed harder and smiled more every single day with them than I did with others who took up all my time with their negative or self-centered attitudes.
Casually making light over our noticeable mannerisms over a pint. Or laughing about how someone seems to be thinning a little on top, or widening a little in the middle. It's all in good humour and none of us would trade it for anything else.
I imagine that's how the OP feels about his friends and how they jest with each other.
Good to hear. Tell me, if you're joking along and one of your mates asks you to seriously stop joking about his gut after a hard day at work, do you? Or do you think he's joking and continue prodding him until he leaves the pub and goes home?
'Cause if it's the second, you and the OP have something in common.
But no, please continue with your humourless posturing. You totally have the right to judge people for their levity. How dare they not treat social interaction as if it were a formal occasion.
This isn't a very funny topic to me, so why would I respond humorously? What's funny about it? A teenager rubbing his crotch on a chair? Nope, just immature. The friend overreacting? Nope, sounds like the kid has deeper issues. Maybe it's the irony that the OP and his friends have succumbed to the stereotypical male social interactions whilst concertedly ignoring their long-term implications and being too young to fully understand why things happened?
I suppose that's a little humorous in the "boys will be boys" mindset. Then again, that mindset doesn't end there. It always ends with, "eventually they learn not to do that and become men."
That's what I was pointing out. Despite being in high school - 16 or 17 years old, the OP and his group of friends are still going around rubbing their dicks on pieces of furniture to piss off the owner for shits 'n giggles.
I'm telling them to grow up, because last time I checked, grown men don't go around doing that. Particularly if their friend has asked them to lay off for a while.
That's all.
