Poll: Am I rightfully dissapointed here?

[rutger5000]

I'm a 20 year old male student and I live in studentflats in Amsterdam (Hell Yeah, suck it), each flat has 2 units and each unit has 14 people living there. Every person has his own bathroom and bedroom, but the commonroom/kitchen is shared. The people living there and I frequently go out and do fun stuff together, I consider each of them my friends.
So we're talking about what we would do for 2 million euros 3.4? million dollars. And a girl whom I like(d), (but haven't asked out yet because I'm going on a wild vacation in 2 days, and I don't want to feel restrained the.) asked me if I would have would have sex with a man for 2 million dollars.
I replied without any embarrasment (such a silly emotion) "Well if he was a good looking guy, and I'm in the right mood, I wouldn't mind doing it for free. I'll likely try it someday anyway" So yeah I said I'm bicurious (not bisexual for the simple reason I haven't acted upon it yet).
And I have to say I'm dissapointed by their reactions, they were quiet childish and they were openly disgusted. I wouldn't go as far as saying we aren't friends anymore, but they do think of me as a wierdo now (even more as before). Since this was Amsterdam I expected a more neutral reaction. I had earlier said this to my best friend, and he was totally cool with it. I expected a smiliar reaction here. But the people from my unit really acted if it was something unnatrual, distgusting and wierd. They even went as far as to say that they don't want me bringing a boyfriend (if I would ever get one) to the unit.
But I was dissapointed, now I want to know from you at the escapist if I'm rightfully dissapointed.

 

[IamQ]

Well since their reactions seem to actually be serious, and not just joking, you should be dissapointed. It's 2011 and people still have problems with bi/homosexuals? Why?

 

[loc978]

Well since their reactions seem to actually be serious, and not just joking, you should be dissapointed. It's 2011 and people still have problems with bi/homosexuals? Why?

Not only that, but... in the Netherlands? Wow. I mean, I'm never surprised by extreme homophobia here in the states, but... some of the things I saw in Europe led me to believe the youth there were generally beyond such things.
I suppose we're not as far behind the social curve as I thought...

 

[PurplePlatypus]

Disappointed is the least of what you're allowed to feel.
I hope things don't go much more wrong with them, it would suck to live with people you can't get on with.

 

[Giest4life]

a)Were they embarrassed at your bi-curiosity?
b)Were they disappointed at your affinity for prostitution?

Because if any or both of the above is true, then you do have a reason to be disappointed. However, even if I have good relations with my neighbors, I don't mention my sexual preferences and promiscuity. I dunno, just seems like a good idea to me.

 

[CM156_v1legacy]

Well since their reactions seem to actually be serious, and not just joking, you should be dissapointed. It's 2011 and people still have problems with bi/homosexuals? Why?

Not everyone is going to like or aprove of everything. That's the way it's been since the dawn of time. People have had problems with everything. GLBT is no exception.

I'm not saying their actions are correct, meerly that I understand.

OT: No real opinion

 

[Baradiel]

You should be disappointed. If it was anywhere but Amsterdam (which strikes me as quite a forward thinking city) you shouldn't be surprised.

Still, maybe it was mainly surprise at the revelation. Give it a week or two, or whenever you're back from your holiday, and see how things have changed. If they're truly you're friends, they'll hopefully be cool with it. You might get a ribbing, but it should be fine.

 

[butternut]

Yeah, I would say you should be dissapointed, I'm able to be completely open with my flatmates and friends, to the point at which I got completely naked in front them during one of our parties (It was a dare and I was STONE COLD SOBER, however, they may have been too drunk to pass any judgement) and it would suck to not have that openess with the people I live with.

 

[teqrevisited]

In groups opinions often fall under the heavy ordnance known as peer pressure. You say something, someone doesn't agree and the rest pick sides.

I'd be willing to bet they would've been less shocked had you said it to them one at a time.

That's not to say you shouldn't be disappointed in them, though.

 

[PatSilverFox]

@OP: Sorry about that, I know too many people, including myself that revealed their sexuality and they're friends became incredibly cruel about it ;~;

 

[rutger5000]

Well since their reactions seem to actually be serious, and not just joking, you should be dissapointed. It's 2011 and people still have problems with bi/homosexuals? Why?

Not only that, but... in the Netherlands? Wow. I mean, I'm never surprised by extreme homophobia here in the states, but... some of the things I saw in Europe led me to believe the youth there were generally beyond such things.
I suppose we're not as far behind the social curve as I thought...

These were my first reaction to it, I mean for crying out loud it's just sex. And we have talked about sex on numerous occations

Disappointed is the least of what you're allowed to feel.
I hope things don't go much more wrong with them, it would suck to live with people you can't get on with.

Dunno going to live it down. I think I'm not going to move, it would be different if they would react with disgust when/if I'm actually in a homosexual relation.

a)Were they embarrassed at your bi-curiosity?
b)Were they disappointed at your affinity for prostitution?

Because if any or both of the above is true, then you do have a reason to be disappointed. However, even if I have good relations with my neighbors, I don't mention my sexual preferences and promiscuity. I dunno, just seems like a good idea to me.

Just the gay thing, we already discussed prostitution (would only do it if I was desperate)

You should be disappointed. If it was anywhere but Amsterdam (which strikes me as quite a forward thinking city) you shouldn't be surprised.

Still, maybe it was mainly surprise at the revelation. Give it a week or two, or whenever you're back from your holiday, and see how things have changed. If they're truly you're friends, they'll hopefully be cool with it. You might get a ribbing, but it should be fine.

I hope so, guess we'll see. Should I talk with them about if it they won't be cool about it? I normally handle jokes and mockery very well (I'm very clumsy, forgetfull and cheerfull so it's easy to make jokes about me), it's been years since it actually made me sad. Or should I just ignore it and move out if I would actually ever start a homosexual relationship?

 

[rutger5000]

Yeah, I would say you should be dissapointed, I'm able to be completely open with my flatmates and friends, to the point at which I got completely naked in front them during one of our parties (It was a dare and I was STONE COLD SOBER, however, they may have been too drunk to pass any judgement) and it would suck to not have that openess with the people I live with.

Well I believed I had a similair relationship with the people from my unit. We've done some pretty crazy stuff together. I might have been wrong, that would indeed really suck.

 

[Sightless Wisdom]

If they were just surprised it's not much of a big deal. If they continue to actually disapprove, then that's too bad. People are like that everywhere though, humans just haven't got past there useless expectations of sexuality in general.

 

[rutger5000]

If they were just surprised it's not much of a big deal. If they continue to actually disapprove, then that's too bad. People are like that everywhere though, humans just haven't got past there useless expectations of sexuality in general.

I don't think they dissaprove, but I just found their reaction extremly childish, and rather hypocryte.

 

[Loner Jo Jo]

That is rather pathetic. Oh well, there's nothing wrong with exploring your sexuality to the fullest (in a safe manner, obviously).

Not that this is much of a defense, as ideally people shouldn't cave to peer pressure, but in a group like that, one person can force everyone's hand. If one or two people became very vocal in their disgust, then everyone might follow the leader to fit in. Sad, but it happens.

Whatever, you should be proud that you have an open mind and are not ashamed to admit it, either.

 

[Arsen]

My interpretation was that it was a big joke/you were joking...so eh...

I don't know. I mean, if someone wants to be LGBT or otherwise...I mean, that's just their decision. I wouldn't have personally reacted in such a manner, but otherwise...I still would have taken it as purely a joke within a hypothetical situation.

 

[Thedayrecker]

Yes you should be disappointed, but really you shouldn't be surprised.