Naheal said:
I've been getting a little lonely of late and was starting to think that I have a tendency to aim a bit high. As a note, I'm normally asexual with a lean towards heteromantic.[footnote]What the fuck ever. Who cares about that[/footnote] I honestly couldn't care less about physical appearance in a partner, but there are a few things that are essentially a "must" for me, due to either attitude or profession.
-Must be intellectual in some manner or another.
Stupid isn't cute for me, it's irritating. That said, one of my favorite pastimes with someone is some form of philosophical, intellectual, or spiritual conversation.
-Must be tolerant of a my beliefs.
To me, this is a respect issue. I'm Gnostic Christian, which, in my experience, will throw up alarms to atheists because I believe in a higher power and will throw up alarms to a Christian because I'm a borderline heretic.
-Respect
Respect is mutual for me and is necessary to begin a relationship.
-Shared interests are nice, but unnecessary.
Ultimately, while I would enjoy doing what I enjoy with my partner, I would also enjoy being introduced to new things by my partner.
-Must enjoy travel.
I dream of seeing the world and plan to do so as an English Teacher overseas. Because of this, I can't be with someone who's unwilling to travel as well. I'm thinking that I'll have to find someone who shares my vocation.
So, what do you think escapists? Am I digging my own hole here?
Edit: Borked poll is borked.
Short version: NO. You are not being too picky. Everything you listed is part of a healthy relationship (except the travel thing, an added bonus in my opinion.)
Long version: No, you are light years away from being to picky. If anything, I'd say that you are at the perfict level on pick v. loose scale. You represent that inreasingly rare group of people who have (prasumably through deep introspection and/or trial-and-error) have figured out EXACTLY what they are looking for in a life partner.
-Your ability to look past physical appearince dimonstrates a state of admirable emotional maturity.
-The disire to engage in intellectual conversation shows your enjoyment/need for mental stimulation.
-The need for the person to Respect your beliefs shows a connection to your heritage and the need for shared interests is a common (but no less important) part of any relationship.
-The enjoyment of travel is a common sign of a flexable and open mind.
-And your ambition to become an educator is a powerful tell of your intellect (something that many find attractive).
-And finaly: the fact that you were willing to post this thread asking us, an amorphis mass of (most likely) complete strangers, for help shows just how much these things mean to you in the confines of a strong, lasting relationship.
As I said: you are far fom too picky. In fact, I feel you should be praised for having managed to set what you are looking for is such specific, concrete, and understandable terms.
Oh, and best of luck finding the person you are looking for.
*sorry about the incomplete post a minute ago. I accidentally hit the "Post" button.*
