TehCookie said:
Is it your feelings or you supporting someone else? They can point out things you agree with you can change your mind, opinions don't have to be set in stone.
I guess what I tried to get at was that it's not always easy to distinguish between what is truly my own want and what are the internalized wants of others.
For example, I've always been a fan of dark, gritty worlds, worlds that feel "real". And if those worlds are fantasy worlds, women tend to be treated badly. The Witcher 2 comes to mind here, where, for example, some guy in a bar jokes about beating up his wife. Now you can defend this portrayal with, well, historically women usually did have it badly, so that's just realistic, and I guess that's true. And I would always have defended those games for this very reason.
But some day, I read some article by a woman that, guess what, women who play games want to fulfill their power fantasies too, they want their escapist experiences too, just like men, and it sort of doesn't really help much if you're constantly reminded that you're just a 2nd class person because of your gender, and that you have to listen to the same sexist shit in the game as they already have to all day long in their real life.
And I realized that I had never considered that, I genuinely didn't. Feels stupid to admit, as it shouldn't really stretch one's imagination all that much. But personal experiences like this one also give me hope that a lot of the guys who don't seem to understand what all this fuzz is about, that they genuinely don't, that they would be more supportive if they actually learned more about the issues. Which is, unfortunately, and admittedly, really hard to do, in this heated atmosphere, with everyone pointing fingers at you.
But I digress. Not that this whole post wouldn't be anything else in the first place... Anyway, so now, when I play such a game, I'm split. I kinda like this gritty world on the one hand, but on the other, I started to notice this casual sexism displayed by its characters, and it started to kinda bother me. Like, immediately, not in hindsight because I'm such a feminist now. And I started to wonder whether this was really necessary, at the potential cost of diminishing the enjoyment of the game for a fair share of its female audience, whether you couldn't have toned it down and still told a dark tale.
Now I wonder, to which extent is my partial dislike of this casual sexism due to my own want, and to what part to the externalized wants of others? Not that it really matters much, I guess, but for judging the selfishness of my demands.