Poll: Another Thread About Love...

[Magnalian]

I realise that most of the options are a bit "non-serious" but I really want to know what you Escapists think I should do...

You give non-serious options, you get non-serious answers, remember that.

...even though it might seem like I treat her like an object (she's really hot!) I actually don't care about that SO much, because she's so great personality wise.

Again, if you want a serious answer, joking around like this isn't really helping your cause.

I'm not exactly an expert when it comes dating, but as a lot of people before me probably have suggested, don't rush it too much. Just ask her out sometime, that'll probably give you a bit more insight into how she's feeling.

Worst case scenario: she says no and you don't lose anything. Now get to it!

 

[Shycte]

Take a chance, Take a chance, Take a chance, Take a chance, Take a chance, Take a chance

Go for hit, make her think about you. Me there for her!

Seriously, what is the worst that can happend? You will not end up togehter? Well my friend, as of now in your not taking a chance mode, you will end up togehter even less.

TLDR; Go for it, it's better then doing nothing.

 

[JokerCrowe]

"great with kids"

Eh? So? You're 20!

OT: Make a move then?

I'm sorry... I see now that it might not be relevant, but I'm a swimming instructor and I teach kids to swim, so does she, and for some reason she became much more attractive when I saw that she was so great with kids...

 

[JokerCrowe]

I realise that most of the options are a bit "non-serious" but I really want to know what you Escapists think I should do...

You give non-serious options, you get non-serious answers, remember that.

...even though it might seem like I treat her like an object (she's really hot!) I actually don't care about that SO much, because she's so great personality wise.

Again, if you want a serious answer, joking around like this isn't really helping your cause.

I'm not exactly an expert when it comes dating, but as a lot of people before me probably have suggested, don't rush it too much. Just ask her out sometime, that'll probably give you a bit more insight into how she's feeling.

Worst case scenario: she says no and you don't lose anything. Now get to it!

It's a bit embarresing for me to talk about these things, so I take the "egde" of by making stupid jokes... but I'll remember that, thanks. : )

 

[HotPocket]

I'm gonna have to go for the kidnap option.

• Roses are red
  Violets are blue
  I've got a knife
  Get in the van

On a more serious note: I haven't a fucking clue. I am not a person you want relationship advice from. Ever.

I like my whiskey like I like my women... 12 yrs. old and locked in my basement.

In a more relevant note, I know what your saying and I just did something like this (similar situation) and got rejected. Rejection hurts, but time cures all wounds (... or madness... or death).

I'd say go for it.

 

[justhereforthemoney]

I would say talk to her about it. That seems like it would be the best option.

 

[Nikajo]

SNIP

Ok be totally honest with me (and yourself) now...do you honestly think you have a chance? I mean, being totally honest?

If the answer is yes then you have to tell her, one way or another. Otherwise you will regret it. Trust me on that.

How you tell her is another matter. That's gonna have to be up to you to decide. How did you find out she was single exactly?

 

[khaimera]

Take her out to dinner. Try and flirt. You know, be funny but in a way which shosw that you have interest in her. If the dinner goes well tell her how you feel. This does depend on how much you two atcually know each other. Meaning, what type of friendship do you already have?

Its possible she is waiting for you to make the first move since she probably has never had to make the first move.

Above all else, be confident, otherwise you are doomed to fail. Even if you have to fake some of that confidence.

 

[ProtoChimp]

I could give you advice, but I'm only 15 so you should probably listen to everyone else. But for the sake of discussion being honest helps (not completley honest god no you don't want her finding out about your massive D&D rage... or is that just me).

 

[Guitar Gamer]

Going through the same (more or less) thing myself.
My solution was to better myself till I thought I could be confident enough to tell her.
Hope that doesn't take too long

 

[JokerCrowe]

Going through the same (more or less) thing myself.
My solution was to better myself till I thought I could be confident enough to tell her.
Hope that doesn't take too long

I'm actually doing that myself, she's very fit, so I've been working out a lot more since I met her...

 

[Connor Lonske]

Write a note saying that you "have serious feeling for her and if she has them for you too, then tell me and we can work something out"(Not word for word, I am not a very good romantic) and put it on her desk.

If she does not like you like how you like her, then she will not respond to the note or tell you that she does not have feeling for you. If the first happens, then don't push the subject with her and move on. If the the second happens, then don't worry about it, you tried the best way you could.

If she responds to the note and tells you she feels the same way, then good for you. Just don't be a jerk and try not to be yourself, but DON'T think that being yourself gives you the right to be a dick about thing she likes or does that you disagree with, that how I lost my first girl friend.

 

[Guitar Gamer]

Going through the same (more or less) thing myself.
My solution was to better myself till I thought I could be confident enough to tell her.
Hope that doesn't take too long

I'm actually doing that myself, she's very fit, so I've been working a lot more since I met her...

A dark sense of humour would imply that a "JAWS" based practice joke during her swimming would be prudent too....................

 

[DkLnBr]

I gave this answer to Julianking93 so I will give it to you. Just go for it. My mentality is that you should always go for it. Why? because otherwise you'll be stuck with the regret, just wondering what would've happened if you told her. And i dont know about you, but I find regret harder to deal with than most other things. If it doesn't work out you can always move on, but you cant do anything about regret (unless you get really lucky and meet her again in the future, or if you build a time machine)

Ahhh spring! The time of love.... *sighs* ....... *clears throat* well um... anyways, go for it.
[small]I need to do manly things now...[/small]

 

[TheTurtleMan]

I would tell you to just go for it but I've never actually asked out a girl myself. I have been asked out a couple of times though.

 

[Burningsok]

U know what go for it. But dont come out saying "I love you alot" that's just creepy. Say hey want to go get something to eat with me or something like that. Like a little mini date. See if she likes hanging around you. But go for it dude, make a move, even if it's small.

 

[Jiggabyte]

Let the chloroform do the talking. Hopefully a dark, secure room will help her reach the right decision.
I'm really terrible with this sort of thing. I only got where I am by chance, and that doing a very simple thing one afternoon got the reaction I hoped for.

 

[Psychophante]

Just go for it. You'll regret it if you don't.

 

[teisjm]

Just talk to her about it, it's that simple, tell her you kinda like her and ask her if she wanan go out some time. Don't be afraid of a rejection.

Oh, and unless this is some weird game ref i don't et, Pm a mod to have this moved to off topic instead of gaming discussion

 

[Anticitizen_Two]

Just tell her. That way you can avoid all the shitty "she loves me, she loves me not" crap and get right to the relationship, which will undoubtedly be filled with fights and arguments and hurt feelings and ultimately end with bitter heartbreak and the loss of a great friendship. And then all you have to do is get through the month or two of sadness and despair before you get over her and start living your life without having to worry about all that stuff. It's a lot of work to get there, but once you do it's great.

/jaded rant